tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post1138352630602047542..comments2024-02-05T11:32:25.407-05:00Comments on I'm just F.I.N.E.-- Recovery in Al-Anon: I am not that powerfulUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-18639999581789107462011-11-30T10:26:14.923-05:002011-11-30T10:26:14.923-05:00I'm so sorry. Stella looks like my old dog who...I'm so sorry. Stella looks like my old dog who passed so many years ago. I knew too. When I was sad, he would put his paw on me and keep pushing until I fell over and we would wrestle until I laughed through the tears. But when he was old and sick I started crying about it and he turned his head away. He was telling me that I needed to learn to deal without him. Then, a few days later, the same thing happened. I walked out of the room to call the vet and when I came back, the old dog had gone on ahead.Glimmerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02085124664342701611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-28857284563652235862011-11-30T07:21:35.014-05:002011-11-30T07:21:35.014-05:00She did say it so well, and I am grateful for ever...She did say it so well, and I am grateful for everything that you shared about Stella and I'm sorry for your loss. My two lovable furry kids are 11 and the white hairs are getting more and more visible so are the grumbles of old age.<br /><br />We really are powerless to change the world just becuase we decide IT should be changed, but the world we live in can be changed in perspective to how we believe. Attitude changes the world I live in from hostile and dangerous, to challenging, interesting and full of love and kindness.Jess Mistress of Mischiefhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14766848582303523764noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-41039851778852867852011-11-30T07:15:37.440-05:002011-11-30T07:15:37.440-05:00I'm so sorry for your loss, Syd. You expressed...I'm so sorry for your loss, Syd. You expressed that feeling of fear before loss very well and I agree that it's the knowledge that we can't control it that makes it so powerful.Ginniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12749133391349265563noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-69600767049474391642011-11-30T04:20:22.149-05:002011-11-30T04:20:22.149-05:00I had a similar confusion about my "power&quo...I had a similar confusion about my "power" when loved ones faced death or life-threatening illness. I thought that if I prayed with enough faith for their healing, then God would listen and grant my wish. Of course, when they died, it was my fault for not praying with sufficient faith. <br /><br />I was relieved to discover that life is basically fatal. Death is not the enemy of life; apathy is, and the journey through dying is an honorable part of life, no matter how it hurts. Through the 12 Steps, I discovered a Higher Power who isn't grading my prayers to see if someone's life can be saved, but who instead offers grace and mercy to every one of his children so they can experience joy no matter what their circumstances might be. All that is asked of me is that I be present and grateful, and willing to be a blessing to someone else.Enchanted Oakhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14815997287116818456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-86831123957601099502011-11-29T23:58:46.417-05:002011-11-29T23:58:46.417-05:00Helplessness, powerlessness are hard to deal with ...Helplessness, powerlessness are hard to deal with -- and I know that knot of fear Syd. Some things we can change and others we simply have to endure.<br /><br />My heart if with you and C in your grief.Mary LAhttp://louisey.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-71217127677841236112011-11-29T21:43:58.560-05:002011-11-29T21:43:58.560-05:00My Mum has Scoliosis surgery tomorrow and it's...My Mum has Scoliosis surgery tomorrow and it's very serious.. and I am trying to not stress myself about it too much. hank you for this post and I love the one linked.-https://www.blogger.com/profile/11470931305084654116noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-85467264930226457052011-11-29T21:36:33.899-05:002011-11-29T21:36:33.899-05:00Your words and thoughts are always so powerful and...Your words and thoughts are always so powerful and I agree with all the comments.<br /><br />But, I had to chuckle over your use of the phrase "normal people".Perubyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17948233191244821909noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-23704973769766990312011-11-29T16:57:40.357-05:002011-11-29T16:57:40.357-05:00I'm sorry for your loss, Syd. But thank you fo...I'm sorry for your loss, Syd. But thank you for sharing your thoughts and for the link...it was just what I needed to hear today.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-46788998995509572602011-11-29T15:05:36.170-05:002011-11-29T15:05:36.170-05:00"If the only thing standing between drug addi..."If the only thing standing between drug addiction and sobriety was the addict needing love and support.......well damn, just about everyone would be clean and sober." <br />True this. Thanks for this Syd. I know it's hard to go through painful loss. I know the fear of knowing just how much it's going to hurt. But, here's to knowing it won't hurt this bad forever. :)happygirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16554653800961247808noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-36545085037957652642011-11-29T14:21:29.896-05:002011-11-29T14:21:29.896-05:00Oh, Syd, don't we know Pammie's words are ...Oh, Syd, don't we know Pammie's words are true!Louhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09496172669599418214noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-9122084362039898522011-11-29T13:17:38.021-05:002011-11-29T13:17:38.021-05:00I've been fortunate to not have a lot a death ...I've been fortunate to not have a lot a death in my life... but am grateful for my program as I know there will be someday. It's a good post as a reminder that I am powerless over people, places and things and I need to let go of that illusion of control. For me tears can be very healing when dealing with grief.Simply Mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06966845919690118072noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-75929494650458603672011-11-29T13:07:25.883-05:002011-11-29T13:07:25.883-05:00awe syd, i am so sorry to hear of your loss. i am ...awe syd, i am so sorry to hear of your loss. i am grateful you are still bloggingclean and crazyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09156586299182570611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-21534349544141390892011-11-29T11:57:33.558-05:002011-11-29T11:57:33.558-05:00I am so sorry for your loss!I am so sorry for your loss!Maijahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13135365625592725709noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-2091767459485505152011-11-29T11:32:32.512-05:002011-11-29T11:32:32.512-05:00This really hit home today. Thanks, as always, for...This really hit home today. Thanks, as always, for posting.<br /><br />MonicaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-91908232741210821952011-11-29T11:05:24.325-05:002011-11-29T11:05:24.325-05:00I know the knot you are talking about, and have be...I know the knot you are talking about, and have been coming to the same conclusion about my own powers and limitations. Acceptance of our role makes possible a measure of peace. Thank you for sharing this.jenny_ohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15475480579733466963noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-62171440180216928802011-11-29T09:56:54.455-05:002011-11-29T09:56:54.455-05:00when i pretend i am powerful is when it tends to h...when i pretend i am powerful is when it tends to hurt the most...Brian Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00722940075884718007noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-77860845704198208952011-11-29T09:53:02.528-05:002011-11-29T09:53:02.528-05:00...thank you for your honesty i am often touched ......thank you for your honesty i am often touched by your writings, and today i want to thank you for the link...in your grief it feels as though you threw me a lifesaver! i've been feeling overpowered by the power of the disease. today i see that my power is in acceptance and in the group of all the fine people who share their experience, strength and hope. thank youAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-1269641856978392642011-11-29T09:48:37.015-05:002011-11-29T09:48:37.015-05:00And what a beautiful world it would be. But. It do...And what a beautiful world it would be. But. It doesn't work that way, does it? <br />Sometimes love comes in stepping back and allowing things to happen of their own accord. This may be the hardest form of loving. <br />To accept that our part in a process is to allow it to happen.Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-51000542100277134202011-11-29T09:47:45.429-05:002011-11-29T09:47:45.429-05:00Understanding our powerlessness over death and ill...Understanding our powerlessness over death and illness and knowing that our part is acceptance and comfort brings much freedom to serve and love freely without the expectation that we will move mountains, make the lame walk, and raise the dead. <br /><br />We *aren't* that powerful....although I forget sometimes. :o) <br /><br />It sounds like you are feeling more at peace with your loss. ((HUG)) I am glad for that.Annettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18326425173333184401noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-23018561103427464312011-11-29T09:27:23.317-05:002011-11-29T09:27:23.317-05:00Syd I am sorry for you and losing your companion a...Syd I am sorry for you and losing your companion animal, grieve as you must for that is healthy. <br /><br />As for your power--you might be surprised at how much power to add to life you really have bud. Don't think as a scientist but rather a man who has seen what he does not know how to define and go with it, learn it, then use the knowledge of it. The entire cosmos from sea to sea was made just for you. Find your peace within your being.the walking manhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10058913927297370740noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-79177771736608956712011-11-29T09:21:49.840-05:002011-11-29T09:21:49.840-05:00Hi there. The knot in your chest - I remember that...Hi there. The knot in your chest - I remember that all too well after we lost our dog in 2003. I do want to recommend a good book for you that helped me absorb the pain of the loss and make sense of my grief. It is called Animals as Teachers and Healers. I found comfort in it when my grief overwhelmed me. <br /><br />She had a wonderful life. When your grief gets too much please please try to remember that. As a dog you gave her a life of love and fun and comfort. So many animals never get a chance to know the kindness of man. She is watching over you and in time she will send you another dog to pick up where she left. This I know because our pup is now 4 1/2 years old and she is so loving and I know she is carrying forth the love Maxx, our dog who died, wants us to know and feel. <br /><br />As my husband says,"....they ask no questions and pass no judgement..." And their spirit is amazing to me.atomic mommahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09241909236945651676noreply@blogger.com