tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post1335472788396009468..comments2024-02-05T11:32:25.407-05:00Comments on I'm just F.I.N.E.-- Recovery in Al-Anon: Zen likeUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-74039836501555417762008-12-24T18:21:00.000-05:002008-12-24T18:21:00.000-05:00I'm so proud of the men that do come and share in ...I'm so proud of the men that do come and share in Al-Anon. <BR/><BR/>We only have about 2 to 5 men at one time at the 3 f2f meetings I attend weekly. <BR/><BR/>The island in NYC I live on is small and bump into the same people. All is all I think about 9 men total that I know of that pops up at meetings. <BR/><BR/>Once in awhile we have a new man that will come to 1 or 2 but then they disappear. <BR/><BR/>The one man that comes all the time consistently .. opens up..he is not afraid to shed a tear. And he is all MAN... strong but also not afraid to show his sensitive side. He and another member married recently (they are in their 50s and 2nd married for both after dating for about 5 years this time around). <BR/><BR/>It is nice to see them together .. a good example of a healthy emotional couple that grew in Al-Anon for years before even meeting (they did not meet in Al-Anon but a different social single event). <BR/><BR/>Good, Syd, you can share your feelings more and more......... <BR/><BR/>And growing more serene. <BR/><BR/>Me, I could always share my feelings; women are good at that; but I was irrational and my thinking was distorted. <BR/><BR/>I was waffling; sending mix messages; etc.<BR/><BR/>Now I do the MEAN. <BR/><BR/>I Know what I mean; And I mean what I say; and I don't say it in a MEAN way. <BR/><BR/>No more accepting the unacceptable; and I'm setting great boundaries; loving detaching; and I am acting more like an Adult. If you say NO..when you want to say NO; then you don't have resentment to others. <BR/><BR/>I am growing up at 47..........BettyannMs Hen'shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04844440761689489376noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-48295114891382807172008-11-11T20:47:00.000-05:002008-11-11T20:47:00.000-05:00Hi, Somehow I missed you yesterday. I had a day li...Hi, Somehow I missed you yesterday. I had a day like that too. It was actually one of the best days I've had in a long time. I'm sure doing this has helped! <BR/>jenbig Jennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16539934994452947108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-50140094996638846202008-11-11T12:01:00.000-05:002008-11-11T12:01:00.000-05:00GROWTH, Yep that's what it is."I have come to admi...GROWTH, Yep that's what it is.<BR/><BR/>"I have come to admire in this program the ability to remain calm and serene even in the midst of turmoil"<BR/><BR/>Me too, not all the time, but more and more. It IS working. It DOES work!steveronihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17498524940140288735noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-28958108371981328122008-11-11T10:17:00.000-05:002008-11-11T10:17:00.000-05:00I'm enjoying that great "calmness" today. I'm not ...I'm enjoying that great "calmness" today. I'm not going to try to figure it out or re-create it tomorrow or anything else. I choose to enjoy the good stuff when it comes along.Pammiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00513814300181006348noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-84546445971606984792008-11-11T08:00:00.000-05:002008-11-11T08:00:00.000-05:00Good post. I learned about that calm and serene st...Good post. I learned about that calm and serene state several years ago through meditation. I've found many similarities between the eightfold path of Buddhism and the 12 steps. In fact, there have been some books written on it.cedrorumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01124141793738653183noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-42245138411225981572008-11-10T23:36:00.000-05:002008-11-10T23:36:00.000-05:00I have days I feel the same serenity and it is gre...I have days I feel the same serenity and it is great.<BR/><BR/>Here's to more of them!<BR/><BR/>(Raising my Diet Coke in the air!)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-33576409551139292362008-11-10T20:33:00.000-05:002008-11-10T20:33:00.000-05:00I wish I was better at faking it til you make it.I wish I was better at faking it til you make it.Patricia Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07231036049535477708noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-86035262058529298052008-11-10T15:36:00.000-05:002008-11-10T15:36:00.000-05:00Peace and serenity are the "priceless" gifts of ou...Peace and serenity are the "priceless" gifts of our program. <BR/><BR/>Chaos, anxiety, fear, negativity, all those kinds of things used to be my constant companions.<BR/><BR/>Once I got a taste of peace and serenity, I became willing to do whatever it took to have more of it.One Prayer Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17455437909918314217noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-85174801000193878432008-11-10T14:43:00.000-05:002008-11-10T14:43:00.000-05:00I love this and I love that feeling, I have moment...I love this and I love that feeling, I have moments like that that are true bliss and very honest in their intensity!!!<BR/>Thank you for the great Monday reminder!<BR/>G~*Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15127343815869529555noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-25463577589415903762008-11-10T13:11:00.000-05:002008-11-10T13:11:00.000-05:00Wow...I look forward to that growth. I am better, ...Wow...I look forward to that growth. I am better, but not where I want to be. Congratulations on being able to appreciate your progress!Annettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18326425173333184401noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-8596780807612374752008-11-10T11:20:00.000-05:002008-11-10T11:20:00.000-05:00I have had so many opportunities to not get sucked...I have had so many opportunities to not get sucked into other people's drama and I gotta tell you, I am so much happier because of this!<BR/><BR/>CatWait. What?https://www.blogger.com/profile/16914656489970904052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-80332179099140991282008-11-10T10:54:00.000-05:002008-11-10T10:54:00.000-05:00good morning, and I admire your raw honestygood morning, and I admire your raw honestyShannonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07781628960161310563noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-50057214324049318472008-11-10T10:09:00.000-05:002008-11-10T10:09:00.000-05:00Maybe it is.Thanks for coming up with the word of ...Maybe it is.<BR/>Thanks for coming up with the word of the day ...<BR/>implacable.dAAvehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10378341182741173178noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-72090526612087017002008-11-10T09:46:00.000-05:002008-11-10T09:46:00.000-05:00cool."a peace that passeth all understanding" as t...cool.<BR/>"a peace that passeth all understanding" as they say..<BR/>Yeah I get that too. In the midst of chaos. I love it. A Sponsees Sponsee was very detrimentally affected by a recent bank collapse but feels FINE. It weird but cool. I love the 'immunity" the programme provides us with IF we are prepared to do the work. I call it a ? "parallel universe' of ? "peace" that coexists alongside normal stuff. I love seeing other people get the same effect.<BR/><BR/>You describe really well something I was! trying to describe in this post<BR/>http://anon-recovery-archive.blogspot.com/2006/12/strange-dual-mind-space-shared-by.html<BR/><BR/>"We feel as though we had been placed in a position of neutrality—safe and protected". p85<BR/>"The problem has been removed. It does not exist for us". p85<BR/>it is a design for living that WORKS in ROUGH going.<BR/>page 15 Chapter 1. Bill's story.<BR/>There is scarcely any form of trouble and misery which has not been overcome among us.<BR/>page 15 Chapter 1. Bill's story.<BR/>We CANNOT subscribe to the belief that this life is a vale of tears, though it once was just that for many of us.<BR/>page 133 Chapter 9. The family afterward<BR/>it is clear that we made our own misery.<BR/>page 133 Chapter 9. The family afterward<BR/>So our troubles, we think, are basically of our own making<BR/>page 62 Chapter 5. How it works <BR/>when ALL other measure failed, work with another alcoholic WOULD (not might) save the day.<BR/>page 15 Chapter 1. Bill's story.<BR/>On talking to a man there, I would be AMAZINGLY lifted up and set on my feet.<BR/>page 15 Chapter 1. Bill's story.<BR/>Keep on the firing line of life with these MOTIVES and God WILL, (not might) keep you unharmed. p102An Irish Friend of Billhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15781376087404079818noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-38707792066146586962008-11-10T09:41:00.000-05:002008-11-10T09:41:00.000-05:00Thank you for witting this post today. It hit hom...Thank you for witting this post today. It hit home. I’m envious. ~ARAbchttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14324730862715129528noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-43040279726669874032008-11-10T08:52:00.000-05:002008-11-10T08:52:00.000-05:00Good morning, Syd!Reading your comments about sere...Good morning, Syd!<BR/><BR/>Reading your comments about serenity and peace are so good for me at the top of this beautiful day! Apparently, you have 'heard' --- or the light bulb has gone off in your head --- the true PLACE to find peace and serenity. I heard over and over from others' sharings - - - 'be patient with yourself --- peace comes with acceptance, and that it is an inside job.' <BR/><BR/>These were just words to me at first, until I, like you, began feeling good about myself and accepting me just the way I am. Then, the work of recovery began - with the help of a tough sponsor, and a loving Higher Power. <BR/><BR/>One of the nicest things I do for myself today, when things get a bit off-kilter, is to go inside myself, and find what has always been there - self-acceptance and unconditional compassion and love for my existence. This is where I tuck my Higher Power most of the time. Selfish, huh! It works for me.<BR/><BR/>Love, Anonymous #1Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-58193951359934920902008-11-10T08:30:00.001-05:002008-11-10T08:30:00.001-05:00aaah, that's the state to be in. may be all get th...aaah, that's the state to be in. may be all get there...Shadowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05999801833389058410noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-53516374362599062942008-11-10T08:30:00.000-05:002008-11-10T08:30:00.000-05:00I said the same thing today. Except you are much m...I said the same thing today. Except you are much more eloquent, thank goodness!Louhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09496172669599418214noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-16377879222979950082008-11-10T08:20:00.000-05:002008-11-10T08:20:00.000-05:00Well, if recovery doesn't feel like serenity I'll ...Well, if recovery doesn't feel like serenity I'll eat my hat!Scott Whttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06361224878660334532noreply@blogger.com