tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post2753363604892987040..comments2024-02-05T11:32:25.407-05:00Comments on I'm just F.I.N.E.-- Recovery in Al-Anon: Being in touchUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-32624263164419411992011-08-11T10:12:21.051-04:002011-08-11T10:12:21.051-04:00i was reading your blog today-- i lurk here a lot ...i was reading your blog today-- i lurk here a lot because i read "through an al-anon filter" constantly and she is always singing your praises. well, i was just going to read one post, but i kept feeling like i needed to keep reading. i got what i needed from this post. i have been struggling with a return of negative hateful behaviors with the feeling that my husband's recent suspicious behavior left me no choice. i know better, but it helps to have it articulated so clearly. i have a choice in how i behave and what i do. i can behave in a way that makes me proud, or become someone i hate. thank you thank you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-64419402174882824242011-07-27T20:20:39.060-04:002011-07-27T20:20:39.060-04:00I like how you make mention of the fact that its p...I like how you make mention of the fact that its perfectly acceptable for the sponsees to call the sponsor. We are all in need of a firm shoulder and a caring ear. No man is an island.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-29830956497746434472011-07-27T12:39:54.381-04:002011-07-27T12:39:54.381-04:00Delta32, I was going to post something very simila...Delta32, I was going to post something very similar. I am frozen when I think of asking someone and the possible No that might come. What they see as a boundary, to me feels like rejection.<br /><br />But I'm aware of the feeling and am working on getting to the asking.StrawBosshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14341894443882724080noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-68565802920398183182011-07-27T10:39:58.750-04:002011-07-27T10:39:58.750-04:00Good points Syd, I'm grateful for a good relat...Good points Syd, I'm grateful for a good relationship with my sponsor. We see eachother frequently and talk to each other a couple times a week (or more) by phone.<br /><br />:)Jess Mistress of Mischiefhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14766848582303523764noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-80427708527475820442011-07-27T10:26:24.962-04:002011-07-27T10:26:24.962-04:00Nicely said Syd. I think as well, some people may ...Nicely said Syd. I think as well, some people may not have the ability to reach out to others as you were able to do. One of the things that took me so long to get a sponsor was an absolute dread of rejection that came from being an ACOA. I always wanted sponsorship, but had to work up a lot of courage just to ask for that. My point is, the path we are on is always based upon our perceived limitations. In welcoming people to the program, I think it's equally as important to remind them that they are allowed to ask for help- the "We" in all of the steps is what the program is all about.Delta32https://www.blogger.com/profile/04138473784662269355noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-2068054552956360192011-07-27T08:14:39.675-04:002011-07-27T08:14:39.675-04:00*shrug* We are very different Syd.*shrug* We are very different Syd.the walking manhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10058913927297370740noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-82777150097759636172011-07-26T20:13:29.707-04:002011-07-26T20:13:29.707-04:00Amen to all you wrote, Syd. My sponsor of 21 year...Amen to all you wrote, Syd. My sponsor of 21 years has saved me many a time and, I'm happy to say it's been reciprocal. It's almost as if we sponsor each other now.Ginniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12749133391349265563noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-13698889389663404822011-07-26T19:48:51.540-04:002011-07-26T19:48:51.540-04:00Thanks for the reminder Syd. I think it's tru...Thanks for the reminder Syd. I think it's true with bloggers too and I know I don't always do my part....Marciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09072868519236902423noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-83440781945618072642011-07-26T18:27:53.183-04:002011-07-26T18:27:53.183-04:00Thanks for the good message. it is one that I need...Thanks for the good message. it is one that I needed to hear. Celestine and I are hurting today. we had to send our Baby Harvey to the Tainbow Bridge. I did a special posting to him on Golch Central's Rambling stuff.Mike Golchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14472496241893921107noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-86897804927336033672011-07-26T17:50:09.342-04:002011-07-26T17:50:09.342-04:00Beautifully said, and so true. Thanks for the remi...Beautifully said, and so true. Thanks for the reminder.Let Go, Let Godhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02734821434596510493noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-69141760670830620462011-07-26T17:49:00.978-04:002011-07-26T17:49:00.978-04:00And now I'm a bit ashamed of myself. His week...And now I'm a bit ashamed of myself. His weekends in AC do that to me. Please forgive the reaction.happygirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16554653800961247808noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-89102822146562418652011-07-26T17:44:49.491-04:002011-07-26T17:44:49.491-04:00like the new lay out...
and i think on some leve...like the new lay out...<br /><br /><br />and i think on some level many that serve in different capacities feel the same way...wishing the other would call instead of them always having to be the one...Brian Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00722940075884718007noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-16439569179067063352011-07-26T16:51:07.717-04:002011-07-26T16:51:07.717-04:00Thanks for this, Syd. I'm scared today. I th...Thanks for this, Syd. I'm scared today. I think my husband was drinking. He was in AC over the weekend and always sounded ok when he called home, but today when I called him at work he sounded like he'd been drinking. I'm breathing, but I am a little scared.happygirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16554653800961247808noreply@blogger.com