tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post2913246894159693284..comments2024-02-05T11:32:25.407-05:00Comments on I'm just F.I.N.E.-- Recovery in Al-Anon: The alcoholic love relationshipUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-79197117934746505422013-06-01T14:07:56.611-04:002013-06-01T14:07:56.611-04:00I love him more than should be humanly possible. T...I love him more than should be humanly possible. This feels true, and we've dated on and off for ten years. He's a drunk, just like my dad. But I feel like subscribing to something such as Alanon is... weak-minded. At the same time, my love for him is killing me. I will never be more important than the bars, which is where he heads every day after work and at noon on weekends. When I have become angry about this, and tried to express it, he accuses me of not loving him and always 'starting shit.' He suggests that I 'think out of the box,' 'live and let live.' He reminds me that we don't want to have a 'normal' life, we are musicians, we see a better way, and I agree. Seeing it this way, I then apologized and hate myself for beings so silly. I feel like I'm loosing my mind, constantly seeing it in two different ways. Love the crazy mad passionate drunk, or see the drinking as a problem that will continue to destroy who I am. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-33070280245713506952012-12-24T12:24:21.631-05:002012-12-24T12:24:21.631-05:00I ran into my high school sweet heart after 20 sta...I ran into my high school sweet heart after 20 started daing and i love him more noe than i ever loved any man in my life but hes an alcoholic. he gets mean and says hurtful things. He keeps asking me to help me but i dont know how!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-44489449744095252402012-03-16T02:32:42.911-04:002012-03-16T02:32:42.911-04:00I'm on the ride too. I didn't understand a...I'm on the ride too. I didn't understand al-non at first but now I do. The other thing is i'm a recovering alcoholic myself. I too have been the control master of the ride. I guess I'm a double winner.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-81352431771030918342012-02-07T20:09:10.029-05:002012-02-07T20:09:10.029-05:00I have always loved alcoholic men. I love one now....I have always loved alcoholic men. I love one now. I am best friends With a recovering alcoholic who used to be my boyfriend. Codependent and on a wild roller coaster ride. :/Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-52376265195768270102011-10-04T19:20:54.605-04:002011-10-04T19:20:54.605-04:00Thank you. I have been googling, looking for some ...Thank you. I have been googling, looking for some comfort. I am on my way now, your post hit me in just the spot where there the pain bubbled up. It's my first step in healing.<br /><br />much love to youAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-22974929522021627982009-03-17T12:36:00.000-04:002009-03-17T12:36:00.000-04:00i find alcaholics really attractive also, i seem t...i find alcaholics really attractive also, i seem to really find drunk men really sexy and i don't know why i just want to be like everyone elseAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-50535156089968658392009-01-15T22:02:00.000-05:002009-01-15T22:02:00.000-05:00I could have wrote this post.. We wanted to fix wh...I could have wrote this post.. <BR/><BR/>We wanted to fix what we had no control to do so as children. <BR/><BR/>We feel restless when dating so-called NORMAL people because our first COUPLE that we observed was in this Off-balanced Emotional Relationship. <BR/><BR/>I see this clearly now. And I went from one to the next and did not understand why. I do now at 47. I'm being very careful who I date now. I really think all the GOOD ONES on in Solid Marriages; and most of the SINGLE men or Divorce Men have issues they did not concentrate on and fixing. They date when NOT yet WHOLE...now that I'm much more WHOLE.. wow, I see the signs; and NO THANKS. <BR/><BR/>I'm NOT give up. Maybe I'll meet a Widow who had a great marriage and wants another great marriage.. (lol); but the divorce men are too JADED; or still have ISSUES. (but I did too.. my issues were trying to fix them). NO thanks to that now. :)<BR/><BR/>I rather be ALONE Serenely than be in another Codie relationship. <BR/><BR/>I am not giving up. I'm exercising each day; (for my health--but yes, to look good for my age too). :). So if I do meet a nice man that takes care of his MIND * SOUL *BODY.. than I'll be in the same state too. Healthy all 3 ways.. and Youthful and HAPPY .. <BR/><BR/>But it is actually true.. I'm HAPPY being Single too now. It is so peaceful not being in a relationship where I have to deal with issues.. <BR/><BR/>Even seeing my daughter at almost 23; she is drinking way less but has so many ISMS. It is just not peaceful around her. I want to live full of Grace now.. <BR/><BR/>I'm avoiding doing service that involves with members not working the program.. just want to vent and stay stuck. It is a Downer; and I don't feel guilty (codie); like I would have before. I'm learning it is okay to want to be around more healthy people. I'm not a therapist getting paid to deal with their issues. (the ones I do still talk to are working the program.)Ms Hen'shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04844440761689489376noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-27754446619851153542008-08-14T02:15:00.000-04:002008-08-14T02:15:00.000-04:00Now a days lot of people are addicted to alcohol.T...Now a days lot of people are addicted to alcohol.This is the best example why they are addicted to alcohol.Here he has a problem in childhood that he saw his father while drinking.and he is at teenage he has a depression about studies or other matters.This time also he want to drink.Alcohol reduces the depression and tension.But it is dangerous to health.<BR/><BR/>==========================<BR/><BR/>mathewgrieg<BR/><BR/><A HREF="http://www.alcoholismtreatment.info" REL="nofollow">Alcoholism Treatment</A>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-1161619203734751802008-06-09T00:38:00.000-04:002008-06-09T00:38:00.000-04:00Alcohol has killed many lives.It will even turn th...Alcohol has killed many lives.It will even turn their lives to different path,which has happened to you. Peoples can be cured if some rehab programs are conducted.Hence your love towards alcohol is stupid thing. <BR/>==================================<BR/>ANDREW<BR/>Alcohol abuse affects millions. This site has a lot of useful information. <BR/><A ” HTTP://WWW.ALCOHOLABUSECENTER.COM HREF="“" REL="nofollow">Alcohol Abuse</A>adamgilcristhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14394824237945914037noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-41651088538372461162007-04-01T16:04:00.000-04:002007-04-01T16:04:00.000-04:00I saw this post on the carnival...I am an alcoholi...I saw this post on the carnival...I am an alcoholic, my dad was an alcoholic and my mon the CODA- I can relate to the feelings of always wanting to be 'good' enough, and yet I always failed miserably. I too was attracted to alcoholics in the hopes that 'this time would be different'! Today I am clean and sober, I am not a hostage and I don't take them any more either!<BR/>I really appreciate your honesty and insight!lushgurlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03169403631552159238noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-56192737952729844912007-04-01T10:45:00.000-04:002007-04-01T10:45:00.000-04:00your post has brought up some thoughts that I'd ra...your post has brought up some thoughts that I'd rather not think about ( ya know what I mean ...) My sponsor says maybe I think too much....so maybe I'll just "feel" today.<BR/><BR/>thanks for the guidance in your wordsMeg Moranhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03602413688150495642noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-6992936311544750302007-03-16T23:15:00.000-04:002007-03-16T23:15:00.000-04:00I am an alcoholic, raised by 2 alcoholics, and I r...I am an alcoholic, raised by 2 alcoholics, and I really really LOVE alcoholics. But sober ones are the only tolerable ones... and then only barely so!Mary Christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08156474205414127488noreply@blogger.com