tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post3111383113264155124..comments2024-02-05T11:32:25.407-05:00Comments on I'm just F.I.N.E.-- Recovery in Al-Anon: Crippling so many of usUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-61233423524540237252012-02-24T08:55:31.041-05:002012-02-24T08:55:31.041-05:00Had a dream the other night in which a dog I was l...Had a dream the other night in which a dog I was looking after tore another dog to pieces on the back porch of the house where I grew up. Very scary dream, violent and bloody, and as you say, the old fears recycle every so often. I tend to be drawn to angry people, I think I can "help" these people, but I'm also afraid of them, and my fears come out in my dreams.<br /><br />I love how the metaphors of water and streams come up throughout your writing, Syd. much love /GGuineverehttp://guineveregetssober.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-10607867404968177302012-02-23T15:38:06.923-05:002012-02-23T15:38:06.923-05:00Well, I woke up at 3 AM thinking it was 6 AM which...Well, I woke up at 3 AM thinking it was 6 AM which really messed up my day. <br /><br />My sleeping is so not good. I can't figure out how to make some changes without a magic wand. Or money. Since neither exist...<br /><br />Plus it snowed. GRRRR.Have Myelin?https://www.blogger.com/profile/05704037582961814202noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-32530328336649923332012-02-23T05:40:13.778-05:002012-02-23T05:40:13.778-05:00It has been a long time since I've read Carol ...It has been a long time since I've read Carol Rogers. We read him in Educational Psychology in cllege and I recall leaving my book behind when I moved back from Houston in the fog of drug and alcohol addiction. I think it's time to re acquire that text. The book was entitled "Freedom to Learn: A View of What Education Might Become." I remember being blown away by what we read and discussed.<br /><br />I miss college, which is why I almost always look forward to finding myself in a classrom and/or learning environment.ScottFhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11823579464776499495noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-89563451554110852162012-02-23T05:37:51.897-05:002012-02-23T05:37:51.897-05:00i used to think that therapy is like a magic wand,...i used to think that therapy is like a magic wand, erasing all the hurts and the pain, leaving you a whole and happy person. and when that (obviously) didn't happen, and i started to really think about it, i realized that i could never be a 'whole' person if half of my past were erased. there'd be these huge gaps of nothingness. and that made the whole process of living with the past much easier. i am who i am because of all i've experienced, the good, the bad and the ugly.<br /><br />as for that point 1... especially the moving away from defensiveness part, is HUGE. to me, at least. it took me until very recently to realize that i STILL react to unpleasant things with an instinctive 'hide' emotion, pretend it didn't happen, ignore it, etc etc etc. and now that i know to question it, it seems so silly?!?!? after all, things happen. things i cannot control, nor caused. so why should i... <br /><br />thanks for this amazing post!!!Shadowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05999801833389058410noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-44155928347650278632012-02-22T23:44:27.508-05:002012-02-22T23:44:27.508-05:00Say. Upon awakening, what seems to fit me perfectl...Say. Upon awakening, what seems to fit me perfectly is "discombobulated".<br /><br />Then, after I determine what day is it?, stuff just unfolds, as if scripted...kinda fortunate for me. No dreaming--I miss it. Really.<br /><br />Life-lasting childhood crippling I run into every day. When it springs itself on me (rarely), I usually blog it the next day. And it goes away, midst the folly I then<br />recognize.<br /><br />PEACE, Syd. Try not to dream Bungee Diving...or you'd need a bed like a baby with railings--grin!<br /><br />PEACE!steveronihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04010875412308487592noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-57268182940749709312012-02-22T22:10:46.632-05:002012-02-22T22:10:46.632-05:00Powerful post... thank you for sharing!
I really...Powerful post... thank you for sharing! <br /><br />I really like Roger's description of a good life. Good stuff. That stretching and growing is tough stuff, but I'm ready!!Simply Mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06966845919690118072noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-85459518360835362612012-02-22T20:21:08.307-05:002012-02-22T20:21:08.307-05:00can't I just stick my toe in first, to test th...can't I just stick my toe in first, to test the current?Marciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09072868519236902423noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-46424473367899258782012-02-22T17:23:33.788-05:002012-02-22T17:23:33.788-05:00Hi Syd. Sorry to hear trauma still haunts your dre...Hi Syd. Sorry to hear trauma still haunts your dreams. I've recently started therapy for PTSD to help me with that horrible loop that past traumas still have ahold over me. <br /><br />It seems to me, though, that for the most part you are navigating life's bumps and changes -- mindfully. I am so inspired and impressed with your development & I hope I too can get to the place where you've found yourself.Judithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16354890444410748967noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-87868251281171020882012-02-22T12:55:18.805-05:002012-02-22T12:55:18.805-05:00Ah, yes ... the 3 and 4 AM hours. Those are the ti...Ah, yes ... the 3 and 4 AM hours. Those are the times that I wake up in a sweat and fear creeps in. I have to hurry back to the "One Day at a Time" mode and pick up all the tools that our program gives us. It usually works...usually.Ginniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12749133391349265563noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-89845394523525685552012-02-22T12:47:23.969-05:002012-02-22T12:47:23.969-05:00So glad I found this today.
from timbreSo glad I found this today. <br /><br />from timbreAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-17031339303061818542012-02-22T12:24:54.120-05:002012-02-22T12:24:54.120-05:00I loved the first quote from Carl Rogers....and th...I loved the first quote from Carl Rogers....and then I came to the one on the bottom of your post. I love that one even more. <br /><br />My older kids tell Little Lu (who recently informed me not to call her "lu" in my blog because in England that means "toilet") that she is so lucky that I found Alanon...because she can be free. :o( Bittersweet. Were they not free that means? They must not feel like they were. I also had a lot of expectations and so much of my identity was wrapped up in how they turned out and/or responded to their daily lives. I have my own mistakes to forgive myself for...not the "beating the children" type of mistakes, but hovering, expecting, demanding, loving too darn much....who knew that could be a problem? I really didn't understand so much. <br />Anyway, great great post! Lots to think about here!Annettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18326425173333184401noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-65159953996182436432012-02-22T11:24:23.689-05:002012-02-22T11:24:23.689-05:00Let's do it, Syd. I'm in. I'm living...Let's do it, Syd. I'm in. I'm living life to the best of my ability. I'm seeking happiness from within and showing it to as many others as I can. I think we heal from our childhood traumas, but the scars it leaves are thinner than skin and the pain comes easier. But we are ALIVE and that is GOOD.happygirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16554653800961247808noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-55987160587226110102012-02-22T09:13:19.467-05:002012-02-22T09:13:19.467-05:00This really gives me pause today, Syd. I feel I pu...This really gives me pause today, Syd. I feel I put a lot of expectations (unspoken demands?) on my children. I don't dwell on the past, but I truly wish I had let them be free to become whomever they wanted.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com