tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post322166856407074282..comments2024-02-05T11:32:25.407-05:00Comments on I'm just F.I.N.E.-- Recovery in Al-Anon: Projecting fearUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-72703944888846198742011-01-28T22:48:46.818-05:002011-01-28T22:48:46.818-05:00I love the Emerson quotation. My Al-Anon sponsor i...I love the Emerson quotation. My Al-Anon sponsor is fond of urging me to live my life as an experiment. It diminishes the fear. much love GGuineverehttp://guineveregetssober.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-6124485874818448842011-01-26T12:25:44.366-05:002011-01-26T12:25:44.366-05:00For me it seems I worry that I haven't done en...For me it seems I worry that I haven't done enough to address the issue at hand and time is running out. I try the slogan first things first when I get too crazy but sometimes I still can't find peace. I would do it anyway as the slogan, feel the fear and do it anyway, if I knew what to do.Grace-WorkinProgresshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16386539822343069884noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-17951962585396376412011-01-26T11:25:31.432-05:002011-01-26T11:25:31.432-05:00nice thoughts syd...fear and worry can be paralyzi...nice thoughts syd...fear and worry can be paralyzing...i do like glenwoods idea as well...you cannot anticipate all but if you know how you are going to react it makes it easier...Brian Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00722940075884718007noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-68251872014745358422011-01-26T09:36:26.519-05:002011-01-26T09:36:26.519-05:00For me, worrying interferes with my sleep which in...For me, worrying interferes with my sleep which in turn makes me so tired it is more difficult to think clearly and thus harder to face hard times when there actually is something to deal with and not just the fear of the "what if", so it goes on and on. Learning to let go of the worry and unfounded fear helps me to rest and be stronger and better able to life a healthy life.CiCihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08615265608675467505noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-44355410825614704822011-01-26T09:24:10.930-05:002011-01-26T09:24:10.930-05:00You are right about not "borrowing" trou...You are right about not "borrowing" trouble. I, too, have lain awake many nights around 3:00, worrying. <br /><br />When I read your post, I thought of this quote by Scott Fitzgerald.<br />"In a real dark night of the soul it is always three o'clock in the morning." <br /><br />Love you.Sarcastic Bastardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17116577711704241625noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-52743114754869821402011-01-26T07:59:48.563-05:002011-01-26T07:59:48.563-05:00I love all the acronyms for fear but my favorite i...I love all the acronyms for fear but my favorite is:<br /> Face Everything And Recover<br />I hid behind alcohol for years and now, no matter how serious or how frivolous, I face whatever situation is put before me and it shields me from fear.<br />You have a gift with words !Ginniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12749133391349265563noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-37594752850092868322011-01-26T07:23:15.910-05:002011-01-26T07:23:15.910-05:00I have been dealing with a lot of those 3 AM wake-...I have been dealing with a lot of those 3 AM wake-up calls. Endless worry. And yet I know the answer. Your post just helped to reinforce that answer.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-38038879875029809272011-01-26T06:49:58.505-05:002011-01-26T06:49:58.505-05:00Or as someone I heard say once, "Don't pu...Or as someone I heard say once, "Don't put up your umbrella until it begins to rain."<br />Now, having said that, I will say that trying to conquer the "what ifs" is one of the hardest things I do.Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-91194599047514540392011-01-26T02:46:44.235-05:002011-01-26T02:46:44.235-05:00i hear you. worrying solves absolutely nothing.i hear you. worrying solves absolutely nothing.Shadowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05999801833389058410noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-92198315084671178922011-01-26T01:30:17.071-05:002011-01-26T01:30:17.071-05:00This sounds like anxiety...?
Sometimes it happens ...This sounds like anxiety...?<br />Sometimes it happens when we forget we're not in control.When we lose sight of our footing and ourselves once in awhile.Projecting just happens to some of us and then it passes when we meditate on it.I know you know that.And I appreciate you posting this to remind me tonight.<br />xoTabitha.Montgomeryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07462651710980805568noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-41935206823831862952011-01-26T00:28:00.573-05:002011-01-26T00:28:00.573-05:00Sometimes I can get caught in the undertow of '...Sometimes I can get caught in the undertow of 'what-if'. And my best tactic to fight it is to tell myself that I have no idea what is going to happen, so it doesn't really matter. Not enough to play through every imaginable scenario, that is for sure. <br /><br />I think it is also helpful that I know my HP is watching out for me as I stumble along this path of life. <br /><br />Great quote!Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17805281199840274328noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-28196430070687431592011-01-25T23:59:21.829-05:002011-01-25T23:59:21.829-05:00Yep!Great message.Yep!Great message.Mike Golchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14472496241893921107noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-50226600209166247042011-01-25T23:54:34.785-05:002011-01-25T23:54:34.785-05:00I'm not sure if the nutter doctors would agree...I'm not sure if the nutter doctors would agree with me, but one way of squashing worry is just to square with yourself what you're going to do IF certain probably-won't happen thing does occur. Then you know what you're doing when, you probably won't have to do it and eventually you just stop worrying about it.<br /><br />The silly nutter nurse who spent ages analysing me must have analysed herself because she gave me a leaflet on anxiety that describes techniques suitable for dealing with a thinking style I had TWENTY YEARS AGO!<br /><br />How on earth she can have got me so wrong I'm frankly offended to consider, but she did and I don't care. Only that her recommendations nearly pushed me into a personality disorders clinic when all along we knew the problem was with moods.<br /><br />Fear's easy to deal with as long as you're willing. Face up to it head on. However that doesn't work with depression. I've pushed myself through situations I really thought I should do and just pushed myself into a breakdown. "Feel the fear and do it anyway" works, but it must be FEAR, not despair!<br /><br />Great post ;-)<br /><br />Wow you remember Lucky. I bet you're the only oneGledwoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09308172310486574510noreply@blogger.com