tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post3280086398758349143..comments2024-02-05T11:32:25.407-05:00Comments on I'm just F.I.N.E.-- Recovery in Al-Anon: SolutionsUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-49205849356256644442011-06-11T16:12:02.557-04:002011-06-11T16:12:02.557-04:00I'm glad you spoke up. =)I'm glad you spoke up. =)Have Myelin?https://www.blogger.com/profile/05704037582961814202noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-54820189488841772802011-06-11T12:42:32.355-04:002011-06-11T12:42:32.355-04:00I think you did the right thing Syd. You are very ...I think you did the right thing Syd. You are very wise. <br /><br />I am so sorry about your dog. We put our old Yorkie girl down last summer. It was time and it too was the right thing to do.A Mom's Serious Blunderhttp://www.madyson007@wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-51152850056799637632011-06-11T11:51:09.148-04:002011-06-11T11:51:09.148-04:00I just caught up on your posts and comments after ...I just caught up on your posts and comments after a few days away - on the water myself :) - and I find myself stunned.<br /><br />In reaction to your <i>Thank You</i> post about the children you'd be teaching I wrote that I would - and I did - pray for the one who's waiting to meet you. As one whose potential life work was not encouraged, I envisioned some child's need being encouragement in that regard. In light of your <i>Troubled</i> post it strikes me instead that perhaps some child's need was for your voice in the matter of that man. I'm so glad you found the will and the words to speak up. It may be a prayer answered and not necessarily mine. <br /><br />Such behavior doesn't improve on its own. Given its stigma and particular despicability, success in it of course calls for a mastery of secrecy and deceit and disguise. Without intervention by watchdogs it will - it will - progress to the next and the next level, with progressively more and more boundaries crossed. As we know about the addicts in our personal lives, reason and rationale have little effect. In the case of sexual predators - whether minor or major is just a measure of the current day's progress in disease - don't forget that the authorities will also receive information anonymously.<br /><br />I intend to continue in prayer on behalf of all children on this man's path, and those on the path of men and women like him, and invite anyone at all to join me in that. As well, I'm reminded again to not only pray but to keep my eyes open.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-90574988692565263402011-06-10T23:18:01.069-04:002011-06-10T23:18:01.069-04:00Strength to you and C. for your nights... Much is ...Strength to you and C. for your nights... Much is needed. Much will be given to you.<br /><br />I like AA solutions, or Al Anon solutions, whatever. They're so calmingly wise. Which my best sort of thinking, within the boundaries of my head, have never been.Enchanted Oakhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14815997287116818456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-55791410490110368752011-06-10T18:15:05.835-04:002011-06-10T18:15:05.835-04:00You've got a good head on your shoulders.I am ...You've got a good head on your shoulders.I am sure you shared <br />your concerns in a way that the<br />person of whom you were speaking <br />of and the one you were talking to,<br />will listen.<br /><br />xoTabitha.Montgomeryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07462651710980805568noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-21588263033442503612011-06-10T16:37:47.380-04:002011-06-10T16:37:47.380-04:00I think you handled an awkward situation in just t...I think you handled an awkward situation in just the right way. It is always best to step back and contemplate the entire thing and then do what is appropriate. You did just that.Ginniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12749133391349265563noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-63857257890727389372011-06-10T16:08:52.330-04:002011-06-10T16:08:52.330-04:00That's great you voiced your concern...not alw...That's great you voiced your concern...not always an easy thing to do. We gain deep humility & compssion caring for those who are frail & helpless or sick. That is so sweet you read to her....I am sure she is treasuring this one on one time with you & C. It is such a gift.<br />I have cherished the times caring for my mom. As hard as it is to watch our moms suffer, it is a real blessing to bestow that kind of love. We get much more in return.<br />In certain ways my mom's "dying" has been giving us "new life" in ways we wouldn't have recieved otherwise.That is THE paradox for life & faith in many ways! <br />My new post is called "Fly away angel friend"<br />It is about my mom's close friend in her care center who passed on this week....<br />maryjsnustad.wordpress.com<br /><br />Peace!Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05857127720253838878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-87255310269929245512011-06-10T15:15:50.332-04:002011-06-10T15:15:50.332-04:00Thanks for speaking up, Syd. Bless you for your ca...Thanks for speaking up, Syd. Bless you for your caring in all areas.TAAAFhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03607602088454891329noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-75512883979172817962011-06-10T12:59:06.109-04:002011-06-10T12:59:06.109-04:00As usual, I get to witness the success in our stor...As usual, I get to witness the success in our stories of what it was like, what happened, and what it is like today. I knew you'd find the solution. Thank you for sharing it. I'm glad you are able to be present for C's parents. I, too, read the post from Irish and appreciate her writing about her experience.Let Go, Let Godhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02734821434596510493noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-75327607442253486612011-06-10T10:33:16.737-04:002011-06-10T10:33:16.737-04:00So sorry to hear about C's parents, Syd. You a...So sorry to hear about C's parents, Syd. You are a good son-in-law. <br /><br />There are few things I love more in this world than the words of Samuel Clemens. I don't refer to him as Mark Twain because one of his daughters once said she hated "Mark Twain" because it was the name the world knew her father by and the reason he had to leave them and travel. This was during the period that Mr. Clemens had to travel, because he was so heavily in debt, and in his absence, one of his beloved daughters died. He never got over it. I don't like the name Twain very much myself.Sarcastic Bastardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17116577711704241625noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-47010917497478561462011-06-10T09:02:25.764-04:002011-06-10T09:02:25.764-04:00I !!! really like that THINK acronym and I hadn...I !!! really like that THINK acronym and I hadn't heard it before so thanks for mentioning it. Al anon has some great guidance on how to act but not in a controlling resentment-fueled way.. Glad you figured that out. I always check with other people when something gets my goat too because I just don't trust myself to say or do the right thing when I'm uncomfortable about something.. The opportunity to get feedback from others is probably one of the best things about being in a 12 step programme. Has saved my bacon on many an occasion.<br />I empathize with your care issues. Its amazing how tricky it is. What I mean is Im amazed that there are so many very basic issues that remain quite difficult to manage. Sounds like you are doing a great job with that.An Irish Friend of Billhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15781376087404079818noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-13156661520400850562011-06-10T08:45:01.374-04:002011-06-10T08:45:01.374-04:00God bless you Syd, you're a good man... I thi...God bless you Syd, you're a good man... I think you've done the right thing in talking to the owner about your concerns.<br /><br />People have taken care of us (especially parents) so we must do the same when it is our turn to take care of others.Scott M. Freyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11588618061480681504noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-55211124396107015082011-06-10T07:50:33.962-04:002011-06-10T07:50:33.962-04:00I am SO proud of you, Syd. For all of this.I am SO proud of you, Syd. For all of this.Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-57710595691348752702011-06-10T07:48:09.640-04:002011-06-10T07:48:09.640-04:00I think you came up with a good solution and am gl...I think you came up with a good solution and am glad that you took the action you did in the situation.GGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00470610805346367972noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-8118266375166938642011-06-10T06:50:01.601-04:002011-06-10T06:50:01.601-04:00i am glad you had that convo...and i know they are...i am glad you had that convo...and i know they are happy to have you helping out...be careful not to let it get in the way of you and C...just saying..Brian Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00722940075884718007noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-82171859763847509972011-06-10T06:41:51.305-04:002011-06-10T06:41:51.305-04:00On the second part of your post, I know what it...On the second part of your post, I know what it's like I had to get "over it" helping my mom as she was moving on.<br /><br /><br />The first part...dude I have so many young girls 17+ that I hang out with, work their writing with them and just sit and have coffee with them and they all tell me they'd rather hang with me because I don't display the highly inappropriate behavior of that guy. What the hell is he 45 going on 12? Sorry Syd on that one I would have shot from the lip and if he had something more to say I would have loaded one from the fist.the walking manhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10058913927297370740noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-86962497259851106982011-06-10T06:32:35.961-04:002011-06-10T06:32:35.961-04:00Glad you thought it through carefully and objectiv...Glad you thought it through carefully and objectively and took appropriate action. <br /><br />Helping another human being take care of their normal functions is loving and rewarding in ways you don't understand. I admire that you use your physical strength to assist your MIL and you are also using your emotional strength to read to her and calm her so she feels secure and safe. That may be some of us one day and I pray we all have a kind, gentle person to help us like you are now with your MIL.CiCihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08615265608675467505noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-24373718131598863892011-06-10T05:47:45.220-04:002011-06-10T05:47:45.220-04:00All about recovery.
Thanks.All about recovery.<br />Thanks.dAAvehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10378341182741173178noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-73101080882959621782011-06-10T00:26:00.418-04:002011-06-10T00:26:00.418-04:00My mom and I took care of my grandfather for a goo...My mom and I took care of my grandfather for a good chunk of time before he passed away, as frequently as my grandmother would allow (she ended up choosing to pay someone to sit with him, saying we didn't "do" anything when we came in...kind of pushing us out). It took both emotional and physical strength, as he was over six feet tall, but unable to walk or stand very well and after what we believe to be strokes he couldn't care for himself at all. It took emotional strength, because we loved him. <br /><br />Now, my grandmother has Alzheimer's and she is failing in her own ways. It is a different kind of trying. It is harder, in my opinion, because she is argumentative and set in her ways. I just let things go, because I cannot force any solutions. I am not on the front lines, I am not able to make any decisions or persuade any one to do so. I just bring my lovely self to the visits and do grand-daughterly things, as I should, I suppose. :)<br /><br />I'm sharing this because I can relate. I know the layers and depth that is added to our souls when we care for someone in the way that you are caring for C's parents. You're doing good things, Syd.Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17805281199840274328noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-60689665730693629072011-06-09T23:54:59.623-04:002011-06-09T23:54:59.623-04:00I'm glad you found your answer. And now, on t...I'm glad you found your answer. And now, on to the next thing...happygirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16554653800961247808noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-81119482100080195852011-06-09T23:51:11.182-04:002011-06-09T23:51:11.182-04:00Good for you. and yeas Live and Let live does not ...Good for you. and yeas Live and Let live does not mean condoning bad behavior.Mike Golchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14472496241893921107noreply@blogger.com