tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post3433899533578278058..comments2024-02-05T11:32:25.407-05:00Comments on I'm just F.I.N.E.-- Recovery in Al-Anon: Is there unconditional love?Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-62847926399754188782008-01-05T01:48:00.000-05:002008-01-05T01:48:00.000-05:00That is a tough one, Syd. However, I believe that ...That is a tough one, Syd. However, I believe that I can love unconditionally when it comes to my children and grandchildren though I find it more difficult with others. Since being in Al-Anon myself, I have learned how to lower my expectations also. However, I still have them of myself and sometimes that can be the worse thing of all.Patricia Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07231036049535477708noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-35004645021852270792008-01-04T22:27:00.000-05:002008-01-04T22:27:00.000-05:00I'd like to think that mothers love unconditionall...I'd like to think that mothers love unconditionally. The next best thing would be a dog. As humans..we all go into a relationship with expectations and when they're not met...we feel unloved. I don't think anyone can live up to anybody's expectations...as we humans are too demanding...but its nice to dream.Spicyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02092460015575995500noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-38005533183382078902008-01-04T21:30:00.000-05:002008-01-04T21:30:00.000-05:00Only God can love us unconditionally. I am so gra...Only God can love us unconditionally. I am so grateful for that love.Mary Christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08156474205414127488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-22530212850172180712008-01-04T18:46:00.000-05:002008-01-04T18:46:00.000-05:00I have a cat who loves me unconditionally, I learn...I have a cat who loves me unconditionally, I learn alot from him. Wish I could be the person he thinks I am. I would have a dog too, but I can't in my apt. <BR/><BR/>I came as close to unconditional love as I ever have with my last fiancee, I truly loved him, but I could not approve of some of his actions, mainly toward me. I had to put respect for myself before my love for him, & that was a difficult choice. I hope I can feel that kind of love again someday, for myself first. Good topic.sharonsjourneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10397338051674165096noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-19907334212855447942008-01-04T17:19:00.000-05:002008-01-04T17:19:00.000-05:00I like it when E Tolle says relationships are not ...I like it when E Tolle says relationships are not there to make you HAPPY. they are there to make you CONSCIOUS.<BR/>liberated and free thinking partners are just as frightening and challenging as 'alcohic' partners.<BR/>the goal is not to be 'happy'. the goal is to grow up. face reality AS IT IS, instead of how we would like it to be. but yes they have a special element a well.<BR/>trust me, the grass is not greener with a more realized human being as a partner. life is always ? scary when you push against the ego in relationships. no matter who you are with.the more honest the more scary as ALL is impermanent. no delusions of permanence. yipes!<BR/><BR/>but i have NO IDEA how people put up with alcoholics. ?? baffles me. even sober ones. not my cup of tea.An Irish Friend of Billhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15781376087404079818noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-50762550657130432192008-01-04T15:08:00.000-05:002008-01-04T15:08:00.000-05:00HI Syd! Happy New Year! So good to catch up with...HI Syd! Happy New Year! So good to catch up with ya. Love the post re unconditional love. Of course there's no such thing as unconditional love - this would mean accepting EVERYTHING - good bad or indifferent! Acceptance of differences does not mean approval. (Just an aside here - did you know that DOG is GOD spelled backwards?)<BR/><BR/>I loved my spouse to the best of my nature and ability; however, he (the alcoholic, too) - loved me as close to unconditionally as I've ever seen it done. In spite of many differences, his love has become a treasure that comforts me better than anything else - including the hugs from my grandchildren. I simply close my eyes, go into a meditation, and there he is - loving me like no one has ever loved me. This is the gift he gave me the last 10 years of our 43 year marriage. <BR/><BR/>My grandmother told me as a young girl - the best way to treat a man (or any special person) - is to treat them as you would a fine loved dog! Think about it!<BR/><BR/>Much love to you,<BR/>Anonymous E1Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com