tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post3449321867589968832..comments2024-02-05T11:32:25.407-05:00Comments on I'm just F.I.N.E.-- Recovery in Al-Anon: How could we be any more different?Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger24125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-28983656766944171932010-06-27T10:19:37.050-04:002010-06-27T10:19:37.050-04:00I can relate. I've felt like I've been row...I can relate. I've felt like I've been rowing around a large jungle beast, too.Kathy M.https://www.blogger.com/profile/17266701533758183054noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-53701264398569013812010-06-24T19:09:32.100-04:002010-06-24T19:09:32.100-04:00Syd, truly, the words you have written (spoken) he...Syd, truly, the words you have written (spoken) here, are eloquent and evocative of a whole range of emotion. I could hear the words echo in my heart. I don't have an alcoholic in my life, but for the echo of a grandfather, the father my mom lost at eight years old. Today your words are the words that speak for my heavy heart; I fear I can only choose "divorce" and ask my HP for peace.Smittyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12681768755769989964noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-35621614765097012072010-06-24T17:38:42.487-04:002010-06-24T17:38:42.487-04:00As a kindred spirit Al-Anon(er)(ite.?)...once quot...As a kindred spirit Al-Anon(er)(ite.?)...once quoted another as saying.."I have turned myself inside out for my A and he didn't care for that side of me either"...what we do to be accepted by our loved ones at times still amazes and also shames me..things got so bad in our marriage that I didn't recognize or much care for the person that I became... now thanks to time and Al-Anon...I am beginning a new "likeable" friendship with myself.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-15061836529459619012010-06-24T14:17:10.384-04:002010-06-24T14:17:10.384-04:00As you know I struggle with all of this...even tho...As you know I struggle with all of this...even though I'm not in a relationship now. Thought provoking words, thank you for sharing.Chic Mamahttp://www.chicmama.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-54026468585967242022010-06-24T12:27:19.676-04:002010-06-24T12:27:19.676-04:00Only you can make yourself feel something. If you ...Only you can make yourself feel something. If you believe what someone else is telling you, you are buying into their agenda, and in the case of an alcoholic, their agenda is the only thing that matters... Excellent post!drybottomgirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10702877045042502693noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-31728658114042334742010-06-24T09:20:30.102-04:002010-06-24T09:20:30.102-04:00Just saying hello, Syd. Your words here ring very ...Just saying hello, Syd. Your words here ring very true.Sarcastic Bastardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17116577711704241625noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-25770922533636582492010-06-24T06:46:47.492-04:002010-06-24T06:46:47.492-04:00I felt this so often and was convinced everything ...I felt this so often and was convinced everything was my fault. Thanks for giving me some words to discribe my pain. I'm glad I have finally come into this program and found a path to begin healing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-51094547365746844972010-06-24T05:45:27.624-04:002010-06-24T05:45:27.624-04:00So powerful Syd -- I've been on both sides and...So powerful Syd -- I've been on both sides and the wounds are still there, those I inflicted and the suffering inflicted on me.<br /><br />Yet the healing is slow but sure --Mary LAhttp://louisey.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-60815635814458143542010-06-23T23:00:01.556-04:002010-06-23T23:00:01.556-04:00Excellent dialogue that doesn't just apply to ...Excellent dialogue that doesn't just apply to alcoholism. I might copy this and send it to a friend who is involved with someone that is hurting her.<br /><br />I am amazed at how much I put into God's hands now. Some things seem impossible to fix. I love seeing the creative ways he resolves them for me.<br /><br />So grateful to you for blogging, Syd. I love coming here.<br /><br />~T~Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-66748408775455835152010-06-23T22:57:00.853-04:002010-06-23T22:57:00.853-04:00i love your thought process. it is so admirable. m...i love your thought process. it is so admirable. mine leaves something to be desiredclean and crazyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09156586299182570611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-70725533467918201012010-06-23T22:24:50.632-04:002010-06-23T22:24:50.632-04:00My husband could have written this post. I am so g...My husband could have written this post. I am so grateful we have been given time for this pattern to change. He wouldn't put up with it anymore and I have lost my desire to dish it out.Hopehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02045801745534184703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-45718410872227810722010-06-23T22:10:21.107-04:002010-06-23T22:10:21.107-04:00I have lived just as you described. Thank God we h...I have lived just as you described. Thank God we have found a program that allows us to escape this destructive life style and find happiness, joy and freedom.<br /><br />PGOne Prayer Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17455437909918314217noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-64793490775075708602010-06-23T21:27:01.753-04:002010-06-23T21:27:01.753-04:00I needed this so bad tonight. Thank you.I needed this so bad tonight. Thank you.Valhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09520319028754715878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-14971346747473669752010-06-23T20:30:30.025-04:002010-06-23T20:30:30.025-04:00I hope tomorrow is a better day. I am glad you kno...I hope tomorrow is a better day. I am glad you know that we do not have to take offense when someone offers to offend us!Annahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04382717273926292379noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-74323267246433043882010-06-23T19:40:35.369-04:002010-06-23T19:40:35.369-04:00I think that you Al-Anons must be made of special ...I think that you Al-Anons must be made of special stuff. I could not imagine living with an active alcoholic. I don't know how my husband stayed with me ... and, as thankful as I am that he did, I don't think I could have done the same. I will forever regret the fact that he passed away in my first 14 months of sobriety and he missed the wonderful 20+ years that have followed and that he helped to bring about by a family intervention.Ginniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12749133391349265563noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-42395961778315235652010-06-23T17:03:32.166-04:002010-06-23T17:03:32.166-04:00I am so grateful that my husband and I are general...I am so grateful that my husband and I are generally and mostly respectful of each other. That is a huge blessing in my life.Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-26294405081735064832010-06-23T16:29:40.429-04:002010-06-23T16:29:40.429-04:00Thanks Syd
I have grown so much in the rooms. In t...Thanks Syd<br />I have grown so much in the rooms. In the past I didn't know what was wrong and why I felt the way I did.<br />All my feelings were fractured from being raised in an alcoholic environment. With the help of the program more feelings came back to me slowly very slowly...<br />It works if I work itDi-Githttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10770400058372063740noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-76255795216995699402010-06-23T15:25:54.596-04:002010-06-23T15:25:54.596-04:00Makes me wonder if a good friend of mine is an alc...Makes me wonder if a good friend of mine is an alcoholic. Very sobering post. <br /><br />Thanks!The 48034 Ladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15756017610201415908noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-11021857406891605682010-06-23T15:11:22.614-04:002010-06-23T15:11:22.614-04:00The last couple of months I was attending Alanon, ...The last couple of months I was attending Alanon, trying to come to grips that perhaps I was in the wrong program, I started to hear the sharing in a new way.<br /><br />When I fist joined, it was because of my struggles with a child, and the sharing of others echoed what I was going through.<br /><br />Near the end, I could hear my partners story when other wifes shared their story. I could feel how much my addictions hurt her, just as these others were hurt.<br /><br />What you shared today was a great reminder of where I came from and where I can still go to in my own alcoholism. <br /><br />Thank you.indistincthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15729719239472085619noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-14726541807474568132010-06-23T15:02:30.619-04:002010-06-23T15:02:30.619-04:00I've been reading you via another blog for a w...I've been reading you via another blog for a while. It is so sweet and calming every time I read your posts. Not this one - this one went to the bone...and begs the rhetorical question, 'when do you know if the rewards no longer justify the pain?' You give me great hope, but I can't stop wondering....cvistaknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-11956342179332741872010-06-23T14:59:34.817-04:002010-06-23T14:59:34.817-04:00A painful read, only because it describes what I&#...A painful read, only because it describes what I've felt and experienced so often.<br />Thanks for this, Syd, and for all your writings.TAAAFhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03607602088454891329noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-32924774580164522232010-06-23T13:41:49.674-04:002010-06-23T13:41:49.674-04:00Syd, this is beautifully done. It is the situation...Syd, this is beautifully done. It is the situation, the feelings touched on that anyone who has loved an alcoholic can atest to. <br /><br />Really well written stuff.Wait. What?https://www.blogger.com/profile/16914656489970904052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-3699645124319767012010-06-23T13:34:18.736-04:002010-06-23T13:34:18.736-04:00brilliant syd...even down to the picture..and it g...brilliant syd...even down to the picture..and it goes even beyond alcoholism...there is a lot that can color your thinking twisting truths to your own ends..Brian Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00722940075884718007noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-84329122269841442112010-06-23T13:33:06.294-04:002010-06-23T13:33:06.294-04:00I think it takes so much strength to hold on to ou...I think it takes so much strength to hold on to our own sanity when we are in relationships like this. Constant work. But also so many rewards and successes. I hope you are doing well.CiCihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08615265608675467505noreply@blogger.com