tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post3592350499513048903..comments2024-02-05T11:32:25.407-05:00Comments on I'm just F.I.N.E.-- Recovery in Al-Anon: Honoring my selfUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-59004981786825651342012-11-21T05:42:20.928-05:002012-11-21T05:42:20.928-05:00I was just talking to a friend of mine about how v...I was just talking to a friend of mine about how vibrant the leaves are this year. I'm grateful. Have a good good trip Syd!Jess Mistress of Mischiefhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14766848582303523764noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-90932596278475940712012-11-17T15:36:03.908-05:002012-11-17T15:36:03.908-05:00Tearlessnights said a lot of what I was thinking. ...Tearlessnights said a lot of what I was thinking. I have a "Gypsy" spirit, which I imagine is a lot like your vagabond...she dreams and plans for the day when things fall into place for her to run/sail/fly/skip away from what her world is now. But thank God there's enough willingness to be responsible that the Gypsy & I don't have to plan these things too often. Learning to be me, here, right now is a constant lesson. I love your post and am sorry I've been away for so long. : )Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17578371707424442036noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-46548022982450377302012-11-17T09:05:23.403-05:002012-11-17T09:05:23.403-05:00Syd you live in such a beautiful place! You captur...Syd you live in such a beautiful place! You captured so much in that photo... love it! I've also found the courage to share my hopes and dreams with H. It's brought a lot of peace to me and I act out on some of those hopes and dreams, 99% of the time it's without H, but that's the path I have to walk to take care of myself. Loving and enjoying the journey! Simply Mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06966845919690118072noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-86996919635601500312012-11-17T08:49:01.309-05:002012-11-17T08:49:01.309-05:00It is good you can share your feelings with C. I ...It is good you can share your feelings with C. I think I have learned, finally, to be more protective of "self". Love that picture, Syd. The leaves are all but gone here in Michigan but it was a beautiful fall.Marciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09072868519236902423noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-80698540874306710222012-11-17T03:39:24.246-05:002012-11-17T03:39:24.246-05:00Glowing autumn colours. A big part of getting sobe...Glowing autumn colours. A big part of getting sober for me has to do with those indepth conversations and slow realisations. Thanks, Syd.Mary LAhttp://louisey.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-89458518401560279932012-11-17T00:42:36.811-05:002012-11-17T00:42:36.811-05:00Insightful.
i agree... balance is hard.
I THINK we...Insightful.<br />i agree... balance is hard.<br />I THINK we can find it possible to have a vagabond *spirit* while still inhabiting our lives and relationships.<br />We can be adventurers in our day to day life and take risks in our relationships.<br />We can say "no" and let a few things go here and there.<br />We can give up perfectionism and allow ourselves to let people down occasionally.<br />It's a grand adventure!!! tearlessnightshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04075956808695556513noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-32537111589416006132012-11-16T23:34:42.679-05:002012-11-16T23:34:42.679-05:00Thank you for sharing such a wonderful post, exact...Thank you for sharing such a wonderful post, exactly what I needed this evening. It seems as though I am really struggling taking care of myself while living with an active drinker. I am new to the Alanon program and find strength and hope in the meetings, but happy to pull this blog up and get the same : )Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-13938637508406625472012-11-16T18:27:41.126-05:002012-11-16T18:27:41.126-05:00An interesting post, Syd. From the elevated age o...An interesting post, Syd. From the elevated age of 79 and, having been a widow for over 20 years, I can say that the need to be true to our inner selves is always there but changes as your life changes. You are so wise to realize that C needs you now but that will change and, since you've shared your dreams with her there's a good chance that you at some point in the future.Ginniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12749133391349265563noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-16650238668164389922012-11-16T12:43:02.732-05:002012-11-16T12:43:02.732-05:00Balance. That's the game with me, too. Althoug...Balance. That's the game with me, too. Although I'm an alcoholic I really identify with your story. I'm close to someone who has another addiction so we're both in the recovery of the 12 Steps. I enjoy your perspective. Thank you.<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-74579803433074282602012-11-16T09:06:48.830-05:002012-11-16T09:06:48.830-05:00Better to share your self with them you know care ...Better to share your self with them you know care about you and your dreams than just them you know. I am like the old you Syd, I pretty much keep my wants to myself. Not that the wife wouldn't care but our situations are so different with me having tons of time and her having this weird work schedule that seems to change weekly...*shrug*the walking manhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10058913927297370740noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-15862298806805440742012-11-15T22:37:46.833-05:002012-11-15T22:37:46.833-05:00Gorgeous photograph, and a beautiful share to acco...Gorgeous photograph, and a beautiful share to accompany it. It takes courage to share your dreams without holding back, and trust in your partner to feel safe in doing so. I wish I could get myself to the place you describe, but I still hold back. For me, I think I'm afraid of what will happen if I actually get what I want! Then I might actually have to let go of all my excuses and enjoy myself.Hummingbirdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14805638394135632906noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-68217310089055814532012-11-15T15:59:27.113-05:002012-11-15T15:59:27.113-05:00"Muted and altered" - I've allowed m..."Muted and altered" - I've allowed myself to be affected in just that way, and now am struggling to be truthful to myself. Great post, thanks.TAAAFhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03607602088454891329noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-16776264258195126732012-11-15T15:40:23.468-05:002012-11-15T15:40:23.468-05:00I don't know that I really do have much of a s...I don't know that I really do have much of a sense of self. Well, of course I do but I've spent my entire life putting the needs of my family in front of my own and now that I am not required to do that, I don't even know what my needs are! And it's not my family's fault. I chose to do it that way- perhaps even out of laziness.<br />But. What a great post, Syd. And those colors!Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-84981268453922941232012-11-15T13:42:49.942-05:002012-11-15T13:42:49.942-05:00it is easy to fall into that path you point out, o...it is easy to fall into that path you point out, of finding yourself being what others need of you....and i love a good fire man...i miss have a fireplace...Brian Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00722940075884718007noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-64317023803446704352012-11-15T11:55:07.102-05:002012-11-15T11:55:07.102-05:00what a beautiful post. I think that happens for ma...what a beautiful post. I think that happens for many people, losing parts of themselves for some reason or another. it is a process to reclaim those parts. a wonderful journey, in my opinion.~glynisnyssahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12592583659013282708noreply@blogger.com