tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post3609568376413892396..comments2024-02-05T11:32:25.407-05:00Comments on I'm just F.I.N.E.-- Recovery in Al-Anon: Divergent pathsUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-45494669901151902582011-10-20T20:06:14.427-04:002011-10-20T20:06:14.427-04:00Na Ja, I think it is a good thing to share everyda...Na Ja, I think it is a good thing to share everyday divergence, like the fact that being the passenger in a car, when your child is at the wheel learning to drive could indeed bring up issues!Smittyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12681768755769989964noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-49656175631764093682011-10-20T20:05:07.368-04:002011-10-20T20:05:07.368-04:00Isn't it interesting how the recovering commun...Isn't it interesting how the recovering community seems to be so different from other organizations. So many of those get hung up on the silliest things. I find I have little patience for it.<br />I missed your entries, Syd and have just tried to catch up. It's good to be back in the bloggosphere.Ginniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12749133391349265563noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-34498299634613088742011-10-20T19:58:44.909-04:002011-10-20T19:58:44.909-04:00You're right, Lisa. I was speaking of my own ...You're right, Lisa. I was speaking of my own exoerience. I can only imagine the difficulties of trying to help a child with a drug addiction and it's in no way comparable to teaching a child to learn to drive. <br /><br />I suspect that one deals with building on naturally endowed strengths - most of us can eventually learn to drive - and the other deals with overcoming serious obstacles to learning and growth.Elisabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04015624747225433940noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-79651683839741798532011-10-20T17:03:10.912-04:002011-10-20T17:03:10.912-04:00I have found power struggles in churches.
Sorry, ...I have found power struggles in churches.<br /><br />Sorry, but I have to respond to the first comment which stated "Teaching your children to drive to me is one of the hardest aspects of parenthood I know of." I can in no way compare teaching a child to drive to dealing with drug addiction in a child. Not in the same league.Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06326828345244691729noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-51472696033138968022011-10-20T11:12:43.836-04:002011-10-20T11:12:43.836-04:00A good night's sleep is better than anything f...A good night's sleep is better than anything for helping to change one's perspective.<br /><br />I wish you a good rest of the week, Syd. <br /><br />I love you.Sarcastic Bastardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17116577711704241625noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-37835669473533647782011-10-20T11:11:36.718-04:002011-10-20T11:11:36.718-04:00As you said, "I am lucky to have a program of...As you said, <i>"I am lucky to have a program of recovery."</i> <br /><br />That says it all. For me that just says it all. Having a program is helping me become and feel whole, and to respond as a whole to the infinite variables of days and moments. I'm becoming more of a constant somehow. My program helps whether it's me having the bad day or someone else. And anyone's bad day isn't the end of the world: hard to deal with granted but getting easier, and not the end of the world. More and more I'm eliminating regrets from my existence in terms of my welfare and the welfare of others in my responses. I'm grateful! And I can wonder, what if Alanon didn't exist? "Lucky" indeed...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-57252419872142249602011-10-20T09:30:04.559-04:002011-10-20T09:30:04.559-04:00Really I cannot imagine anyone hanging up on you?!...Really I cannot imagine anyone hanging up on you?!!?Louhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09496172669599418214noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-17856428453899261502011-10-20T09:28:04.219-04:002011-10-20T09:28:04.219-04:00Impatience, resentment, anger, fatigue, and much m...Impatience, resentment, anger, fatigue, and much more seem to be harder for lots of people to deal with lately. Fear of the future and hopelessness in general. <br /><br />Is the fellow's wife getting help for her depression? I hope so, for her sake.CiCihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08615265608675467505noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-65427837747209398192011-10-20T08:54:28.226-04:002011-10-20T08:54:28.226-04:00And I just choose not to get involved.
I don't...And I just choose not to get involved.<br />I don't think this is a spectacularly good option.Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-44851952421972794362011-10-20T08:42:37.003-04:002011-10-20T08:42:37.003-04:00sadly i see that reality of power struggles in civ...sadly i see that reality of power struggles in civic organizations or clubs and it seems ripe for people who have no power in one realm to take it in another...i think too that is comes from lack of vision and clarity in vision...each person developing their own toward what the organization is about without a central driving forceBrian Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00722940075884718007noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-3996423651838532902011-10-20T08:13:15.740-04:002011-10-20T08:13:15.740-04:00The beauty of retirement is that you can now pick ...The beauty of retirement is that you can now pick and choose what projects to get involved in and whether its really worth it to your serenity.<br /><br />Today will be a new day and hopefully a better one. If not, give me 'ol girls number and I'll call anonymously and straighten her ass out ;)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-35942005994685597332011-10-20T08:03:08.772-04:002011-10-20T08:03:08.772-04:00Everywhere you go there are egos and hurt people. ...Everywhere you go there are egos and hurt people. If I can learn to live with that, I will have a much happier life.Mary Christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08156474205414127488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-2983630079257833192011-10-20T07:57:29.822-04:002011-10-20T07:57:29.822-04:00Just wanted to say hello. I am new to Al Anon and ...Just wanted to say hello. I am new to Al Anon and your blog..chrissiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00018261205785835938noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-19048344304328920382011-10-20T06:53:32.810-04:002011-10-20T06:53:32.810-04:00One of the worst decisions I ever made was volunte...One of the worst decisions I ever made was volunteering to be on my Home Owners Association. I've never seen such power struggles.<br />The best decision I made was resigning.dAAvehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10378341182741173178noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-63084103605448820902011-10-20T06:38:12.932-04:002011-10-20T06:38:12.932-04:00I work in several voluntary community organisation...I work in several voluntary community organisations and dealing with obstructionists is not easy. A good night's sleep can restore perspective --Mary LAhttp://louisey.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-57360927309220093262011-10-20T01:20:39.307-04:002011-10-20T01:20:39.307-04:00Yup, we're in St Augustine tonight, going down...Yup, we're in St Augustine tonight, going down near 40 deg. WOW! Back to warm Naples Friday afternoon! PLEASE!<br />Time for me now also...good night!steveronihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04010875412308487592noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-72570024233050885362011-10-20T01:04:44.640-04:002011-10-20T01:04:44.640-04:00I just went on a divergent path with my youngest d...I just went on a divergent path with my youngest daughter. I'm trying to teach her to drive. At one point I thought she was about to crash into the car in front and I raised my voice, yelled, screamed, whatever, to say slow down, but the damage was done. Not to any car. My daughter knew what she was doing. She knew to stop in time, only I did not trust her enough to know this and now, well we'll have to wait till next time. Teaching your children to drive to me is one of the hardest aspects of parenthood I know of. <br /><br />This is slightly off the track of your post, Syd, but it comes to mind when I think of your talk of divergent paths and temporary lapses in communication.Elisabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04015624747225433940noreply@blogger.com