tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post3978559372812241356..comments2024-02-05T11:32:25.407-05:00Comments on I'm just F.I.N.E.-- Recovery in Al-Anon: Forgiving ourselvesUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-52173969692089686972008-09-11T07:38:00.000-04:002008-09-11T07:38:00.000-04:00I am a "double winner" and am at the 8th step with...I am a "double winner" and am at the 8th step with my AA sponsor. It has been a revelatory process...not always easy...but in the end rewarding.Judyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14870791842615196439noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-23898056156130879442008-09-10T09:26:00.000-04:002008-09-10T09:26:00.000-04:00I think too that we need to forgive before we can ...I think too that we need to forgive before we can forgive.Kathy Lynnehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12808513070742589781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-41092876573553083442008-09-10T08:05:00.000-04:002008-09-10T08:05:00.000-04:00I see again more in your words, we dont look for o...I see again more in your words, we dont look for others to blame but look at our parts in whatever has gone wrong and improve and learn lessons about our own shortcomingsMichaelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16204327191044441383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-10935572069113343742008-09-10T00:45:00.000-04:002008-09-10T00:45:00.000-04:00"Beating myself up over the past keeps me stuck in..."Beating myself up over the past keeps me stuck in self pity"~~I like that.<BR/><BR/>I must admit though that I do not feel I played a role in my son's addiction.ttthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06018092920225780040noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-30642410915737166522008-09-09T22:09:00.000-04:002008-09-09T22:09:00.000-04:00For me, the basic meaning of AMENDS is CHANGE. (Am...For me, the basic meaning of AMENDS is CHANGE. (Amendment to a Constitution?) So, I guess, as I MADE amends to others (yes, "sorry" was a part of that) by changing my behavior--in that sense, I "made amends" also to myself. <BR/><BR/>But (I'm sorry) I must be careful how much "forgiving" I do for myself. I'll let God take care of that, I've got too much living to do! SELFLESSNESS is what I need to acquire. Self-Centeredness WAS my problem (and still is, of course!)<BR/><BR/>Maybe I'm off track here, but life DOES get better and better as time and life continue. <BR/><BR/>So true, is that I don't try to think LESS of myself. Just try to think of myself LESS...someone said that here couple days ago.<BR/><BR/>Peace, to all you bloggers.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-39179514190649252632008-09-09T21:37:00.000-04:002008-09-09T21:37:00.000-04:00My favorite saying is "when we knew better, we did...My favorite saying is "when we knew better, we did better" I think that is probably true for both our programs.Pammiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00513814300181006348noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-13730246910382642472008-09-09T21:12:00.000-04:002008-09-09T21:12:00.000-04:00I need to find some meetings, but am a little scar...I need to find some meetings, but am a little scared. Maybe a lot scared. I wasn't sure what I was scared of, but after reading this I think you've nailed it. Blaming it all on his alcoholism is a hell of a lot easier than owning up to any issue I might have or facing myself and all my precious faults.<BR/>Thanks for this post.Mollshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03977660817227506338noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-70148898229357601952008-09-09T17:56:00.000-04:002008-09-09T17:56:00.000-04:00Thanks for writing these posts. You always make me...Thanks for writing these posts. You always make me think, and remind me to acknowledge life's journey with an open mind. We do all have good qualities that help us get through the bad.cedrorumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01124141793738653183noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-58171616295296943842008-09-09T17:33:00.000-04:002008-09-09T17:33:00.000-04:00Excellent post and need to keep as a daily reminde...Excellent post and need to keep as a daily reminder....we were given many good things from God. He delights in us, his children, as much as anyone.Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10278582335163982931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-14509807629872766892008-09-09T15:21:00.000-04:002008-09-09T15:21:00.000-04:00Good topic to post on. Thanks.I am a work-in-progr...Good topic to post on. Thanks.<BR/><BR/>I am a work-in-progress to finding self-forgiveness.Recovery Road Londonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05095540109922051600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-44999753726284147412008-09-09T14:28:00.000-04:002008-09-09T14:28:00.000-04:00Syd, you are one of my favorite people, I just lov...Syd, you are one of my favorite people, I just love what you write.Mary Christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08156474205414127488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-77073836524315871742008-09-09T12:29:00.000-04:002008-09-09T12:29:00.000-04:00It is certainly worth remembering that we do have ...It is certainly worth remembering that we do have good qualities, and many of our actions were done with a loving heart. It is easy to fixate on the mistakes. Nice post.Louhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09496172669599418214noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-28164393173868731652008-09-09T12:08:00.000-04:002008-09-09T12:08:00.000-04:00I need to look inward more often I think, thank yo...I need to look inward more often I think, thank you for the post. CatWait. What?https://www.blogger.com/profile/16914656489970904052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-82644330914783488952008-09-09T08:28:00.000-04:002008-09-09T08:28:00.000-04:00i greatly appreciate your post! an important 'less...i greatly appreciate your post! an important 'lesson' to learn that is!Shadowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05999801833389058410noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-25701976409002208702008-09-09T08:03:00.000-04:002008-09-09T08:03:00.000-04:00You make it seem really clear syd, sometimes in re...You make it seem really clear syd, sometimes in recovery its not easy to see wood for the trees.<BR/>Feel content and happy today, shopping tonightMichaelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16204327191044441383noreply@blogger.com