tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post4796561980733188870..comments2024-02-05T11:32:25.407-05:00Comments on I'm just F.I.N.E.-- Recovery in Al-Anon: ControllingUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-17366411379631904832009-01-21T21:50:00.000-05:002009-01-21T21:50:00.000-05:00I know I'm called controlling; but I guess after n...I know I'm called controlling; but I guess after not having control at all over my environment this was the result. I'm working hard on not being controlling (even when I'm right.. ) joking.Ms Hen'shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04844440761689489376noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-24483327706980245862007-10-27T18:05:00.000-04:002007-10-27T18:05:00.000-04:00prayer works glad you didprayer works <BR/>glad you didMama Dukeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04992385949990636622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-55470678738810152752007-10-25T21:24:00.000-04:002007-10-25T21:24:00.000-04:00Man -- that fucked up thinking is precisely what I...Man -- that fucked up thinking is precisely what I do. When I don't catchit in time, it accelerates lightning fast.<BR/>I also forget to let go and let god.<BR/>We are brothers (in thought).<BR/>LOLdAAvehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10378341182741173178noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-39138371351961382472007-10-25T20:59:00.000-04:002007-10-25T20:59:00.000-04:00I'm glad you found a way out of your funk. It's gr...I'm glad you found a way out of your funk. It's great having the tools of the program to keep us from getting too lost in our own bad thinking.Judithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16354890444410748967noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-6865061521768424892007-10-25T18:34:00.000-04:002007-10-25T18:34:00.000-04:00Yes, I am learning to pray and to have faith. It ...Yes, I am learning to pray and to have faith. It is a learning process though and old habits die hard.Kathy Lynnehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12808513070742589781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-31383486984377766502007-10-25T15:44:00.000-04:002007-10-25T15:44:00.000-04:00But then again...we all need to feel sorry for our...But then again...we all need to feel sorry for ourselves every now and then...P I F F L A Nhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14614791367622011200noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-27875218083984519382007-10-25T00:23:00.000-04:002007-10-25T00:23:00.000-04:00Glad you're doing ok now. Maybe in time it will b...Glad you're doing ok now. Maybe in time it will become so much a part of us to turn it over to our HP. Right now it's sometimes quickly, sometimes slowly. I did it slowly this last time. It took a few days, and I had a hang over, over beating myself up for those few days. Ugh!sharonsjourneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10397338051674165096noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-43536463054711359712007-10-24T23:30:00.000-04:002007-10-24T23:30:00.000-04:00Feelings are not facts. How often we are told that...Feelings are not facts. How often we are told that. One of the things we in Al-Anon all have in common is that feeling that we were/are never good enough. It makes us second guess ourselves. When I get stressed and over tired, is when the distorted thinking rears its ugly head. I am sorry about the unhappiness in your marriage. When I was married to my first husband, I felt so alone and so lost for several years. Two months before our 24th anniversary, I left him because I felt as though my soul was dying. It was a hard decision and I spent a great deal of time questioning my decision. I thought maybe if I did this or if I did that, all would be well. We divorced and since then I did meet a wonderful caring guy who actually wanted to share a life with me. We will be married one year next month. I believe in fate. I believe things happen for a reason. I believe where we are at is where we are suppose to be at this time. When I think back on the last eight years, I cannot believe I survived such pain. I was so hopeless and helpless. I lost all faith and hope in everything until the day I shared at a meeting and the woman next to me told me to wait for her after the meeting so she could speak to me. Her words after that meeting changed my life. She told me to have faith and if I did not have faith then to pray for faith. I took her advice and it was as if she threw me a life-line. Today, she is my sponsor.Patricia Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07231036049535477708noreply@blogger.com