tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post5624315429132670997..comments2024-02-05T11:32:25.407-05:00Comments on I'm just F.I.N.E.-- Recovery in Al-Anon: BoundariesUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-86201464800986097602007-03-29T06:49:00.000-04:002007-03-29T06:49:00.000-04:00Wow, thanks for sharing!Wow, thanks for sharing!Trudginghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08139170570599049146noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-1440570542025413072007-03-28T09:36:00.000-04:002007-03-28T09:36:00.000-04:00Wow, I feel like I could have written alot of this...Wow, I feel like I could have written alot of this! Especially the part about having an idea of what the perfect relationship should be like and thinking I could simply make it happen because thats what I wanted and I am used to getting wht I want. Excellent post. Thanks so much for sharing.<BR/><BR/>~kelkelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01982496933879300175noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-61157979436452408852007-03-27T19:00:00.000-04:002007-03-27T19:00:00.000-04:00Greta post Syd.Al anon stuff is like a breath of f...Greta post Syd.<BR/>Al anon stuff is like a breath of fresh air.<BR/><BR/>Hmm let me see.<BR/>All I know is that my 'hungry ghost', IS fulfilled by the presence of continuity. A stable loving presence. So for me a relationship is a 'rock' to soothe and 'settle' the hungry ghost. Teachers, Lamas, monks and other very loving people are very helpful to my emotional stability. <BR/>But I would not call that dependence. For me it has been about learning to feel safe and trust, despite having a very involuntary, and instinctive survival-based reaction to life. <BR/>So for me relationships are teachers, and sources of healing because they teach me to trust. <BR/>It wouldn't apply if they were mad people that I was involved with. <BR/>Yeh I'm guilty of a lot of the things you mention, but my reactive 'core' is calming down the longer I am around stable influences, regardless of how inept I am in other respects.<BR/>Anyway I love reading your posts. The al anon thing is very cool. Cant put my finger on it. But whatever it is it is very cool.An Irish Friend of Billhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15781376087404079818noreply@blogger.com