tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post5638797568952265486..comments2024-02-05T11:32:25.407-05:00Comments on I'm just F.I.N.E.-- Recovery in Al-Anon: A different way to loveUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger23125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-25617128874636492162009-12-22T02:41:12.888-05:002009-12-22T02:41:12.888-05:00Wow this is what I need to read tonight.
Thanks ag...Wow this is what I need to read tonight.<br />Thanks again Syd.<br />Right on target I forget and it begins all over againDi-Githttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10770400058372063740noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-67591543175417974772009-12-19T10:49:37.201-05:002009-12-19T10:49:37.201-05:00damn, I needed to read this Syd, thank you!damn, I needed to read this Syd, thank you!Scott M. Freyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11588618061480681504noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-23244498737206014702009-12-19T10:23:44.232-05:002009-12-19T10:23:44.232-05:00Detachment with love. Hmmm. I have fond memories o...Detachment with love. Hmmm. I have fond memories of the day I really really got that and was able to let go of 'the pain the addict caused me.'<br /><br />It's beautiful. For me though, I detached with such care and beauty for both my husband and I that I had to admit (eventually) that staying was only ever going to be more of the same...<br /><br />it was and is sad to have lost a lover but gained deep respect and understanding for my friend.Mantraminehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12478758642362890024noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-25927440699404559372009-12-19T09:22:20.066-05:002009-12-19T09:22:20.066-05:00My 2 hardest lessons to learn are minding my own b...My 2 hardest lessons to learn are minding my own business and detaching with love. Thanks for always providing a solution along with the problem.Tall Kayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06278195551060786353noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-34577429224946310462009-12-19T03:33:46.980-05:002009-12-19T03:33:46.980-05:00Love this post, Syd. Detaching with love... somet...Love this post, Syd. Detaching with love... something I know I must do, and soon!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-72247961120038359882009-12-19T00:25:56.854-05:002009-12-19T00:25:56.854-05:00Great post Syd.Great post Syd.Tristahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06308388473864912872noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-37311544265808552832009-12-18T13:02:22.818-05:002009-12-18T13:02:22.818-05:00I think that one of the things I've learned, a...I think that one of the things I've learned, albeit the hard way, is that the work of detachment feels waaay better than Anguish, Despair, Frustration, thoughts of Revenge, Hatred, Self-Righteousness and other painful ways of thinking and being.... I learned that it was hard to learn the skill of detachment, but it's well worth the effort.GGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00470610805346367972noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-61781775672357403472009-12-18T09:15:59.160-05:002009-12-18T09:15:59.160-05:00I know we can never really change anyone. I think ...I know we can never really change anyone. I think we have to learn to love and live with that fact that God made us similiar but very different and unique. <br /><br />I think the struggle is trying to change the other person, where in we forget about the most important person of all. OURSELF!<br /><br />As you know I have been learning to forgive a few people in my life, the path was rough,I slip up once in awhile but feel better for trying <br /> HUGSAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-46653725253694028052009-12-18T04:28:37.708-05:002009-12-18T04:28:37.708-05:00detaching with love is so so very hard... yet its ...detaching with love is so so very hard... yet its not a choice, but a necessity.Shadowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05999801833389058410noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-77602142155717414452009-12-18T01:17:20.755-05:002009-12-18T01:17:20.755-05:00Your honest sharing about this difficulty helps al...Your honest sharing about this difficulty helps all of us. I have found the Serenity prayer to be a wonderful guide to discernment in deciding whether confrontation and action will change anything and knowing when I need to aceept what cannot be changed. And the wisdom to know the difference comes in part from that experiential learning process.Mary LAhttp://louisey.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-39400735439023899472009-12-17T23:43:22.578-05:002009-12-17T23:43:22.578-05:00Syd, sometimes I think, "Wow, this guy is so ...Syd, sometimes I think, "Wow, this guy is so freakin' awesome". I also think, "why doesn't he have 228,000 followers...or whatever the number would be to x it by 1,000". You're the best. You're a gift to me. cindy.Cindyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00224437485326110451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-86332726390151119862009-12-17T23:25:38.833-05:002009-12-17T23:25:38.833-05:00Denying reality sounds good, but it just prolongs ...Denying reality sounds good, but it just prolongs the pain. Two very strong posts back to back. Thanks Syd.Zanejabbershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08951592520808646104noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-52325318374753021682009-12-17T22:05:33.851-05:002009-12-17T22:05:33.851-05:00Nicely articulated expression of "the solutio...Nicely articulated expression of "the solution" from a mature Al-Anon perspective.<br /><br />Thank you.<br /><br />Blessings and aloha...Ed G.https://www.blogger.com/profile/15063291064985198651noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-50403637629097682572009-12-17T21:01:51.760-05:002009-12-17T21:01:51.760-05:00You have an awesome view. It's all good when I...You have an awesome view. It's all good when I remember forgiveness isn't about who's right or wrong. It's about being at peace inside myself. To err is human, it's said, to forgive, divine. By God's grace we can live in peace no matter what the other person does.Enchanted Oakhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14815997287116818456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-68929825766314262062009-12-17T19:33:02.560-05:002009-12-17T19:33:02.560-05:00My monkey mind sometimes is as quiet as a mouse. T...My monkey mind sometimes is as quiet as a mouse. Then there are other times when it's a selfish, whiny little brat! Searching spiritually keeps the brat appeased most times, but it's something I work on...constantly!Scott Whttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06361224878660334532noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-18996939939948172642009-12-17T19:15:35.751-05:002009-12-17T19:15:35.751-05:00Yes, it is indeed a very hard lesson to learn. So...Yes, it is indeed a very hard lesson to learn. Sometimes I might as well be beating my head against a wall...that is what it feels like to stay stuck in co-dependent behavior. Lately I have been a bit stuck so no wonder I have been having headaches. Time to get back to taking of myself, thanks for the reminder!The neverending battle of child's opiate addictionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04138779247145438268noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-43059033292339570082009-12-17T18:26:54.122-05:002009-12-17T18:26:54.122-05:00This is such a clear and direct post. All I can th...This is such a clear and direct post. All I can think of to say is, "Amen".<br /><br />Thanks Syd.<br />PGOne Prayer Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17455437909918314217noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-49551022164321771242009-12-17T17:38:58.115-05:002009-12-17T17:38:58.115-05:00I think you probably know to take care of yourself...I think you probably know to take care of yourself in times like these. I feel for you Syd, you seem to have come across a bit of a squall. Hopefully the wind will change soon. I find that eventually all things reach equilibrium, it just may look different than I imagined it would. Take care of yourself and your loved ones.Findonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08029106119199508890noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-22875994725036967432009-12-17T16:21:53.365-05:002009-12-17T16:21:53.365-05:00Thanks again.....I think I need to set an alarm se...Thanks again.....I think I need to set an alarm several times a day to remind me that it is my response that is causing me harm and I need to accept that I can't change someone else's actions.Chic Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01803588856685163353noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-39765855468918979612009-12-17T15:28:27.042-05:002009-12-17T15:28:27.042-05:00Again, what I need to hear. I was also recently li...Again, what I need to hear. I was also recently lied to and was very angry and hurt. It was no fun. Forgiving and moving on to the things I can control is much more enjoyable!Lauriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07228220362170417768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-77716216620036459832009-12-17T15:19:16.338-05:002009-12-17T15:19:16.338-05:00Syd,
It is indeed a hard lesson to learn. Amen, br...Syd,<br />It is indeed a hard lesson to learn. Amen, brother.<br /><br />SBSarcastic Bastardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17116577711704241625noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-88474180205719746462009-12-17T15:05:36.253-05:002009-12-17T15:05:36.253-05:00This post and your last one are wonderful reminder...This post and your last one are wonderful reminders to me. I have come to realize that I spent most of my adult life trying to manipulate and change family, friends and everyone to conform to my specifications. Then when they didn't do as I had them planned to do I would be angry and resentful. What a waste of time. AA has taught me to face reality...what a novel idea!!Ginniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12749133391349265563noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-60773343990021022462009-12-17T10:35:40.221-05:002009-12-17T10:35:40.221-05:00I needed a good dose of this today. I still have ...I needed a good dose of this today. I still have the after-taste of crow in my mouth. :-)<br /><br />NamasteAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16128247878961221421noreply@blogger.com