tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post5638913019903702798..comments2024-02-05T11:32:25.407-05:00Comments on I'm just F.I.N.E.-- Recovery in Al-Anon: The frenzy of leavingUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-81211038055806899822007-05-09T08:18:00.000-04:002007-05-09T08:18:00.000-04:00Yes you are amazing! I just love when someone shar...Yes you are amazing! I just love when someone shares about how they've used the program to see things differently! Enjoy your sailing trip- guilt free!<BR/>LOVE and HUGSSlushgurlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03169403631552159238noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-4698229160544999162007-05-09T02:23:00.000-04:002007-05-09T02:23:00.000-04:00Hi Syd,I love ur posts, I am catching up but it is...Hi Syd,<BR/><BR/>I love ur posts, I am catching up but it is bedtime. I will check upon u 2mollies. I just want to say thank u 4 visiting me . . . but more so, thank u 4 sharing parts of u, ur growth and colorful soul.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-87323064748935053702007-05-08T21:54:00.000-04:002007-05-08T21:54:00.000-04:00I am glad you are taking care of yourself!I am glad you are taking care of yourself!Mary Christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08156474205414127488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-80765741923876122432007-05-08T21:09:00.000-04:002007-05-08T21:09:00.000-04:00It's great that you can still be human, but also h...It's great that you can still be human, but also have the ability to not let those things maintain a grip on you and ruin your trip. I can see how the program has done this for me as well, allowed me to reflect and not just immediately react.<BR/><BR/>I don't expect that everything will just roll off me when people behave badly, but I think I will be able to accept things with grace... after a moment or two of peaceful meditation.<BR/><BR/>Good on ya for leaving when you needed to breathe instead of running over anyone. It's nice to be able to look at ourselves in the mirror, isn't it?Judithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16354890444410748967noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-40013965681350769532007-05-08T20:34:00.000-04:002007-05-08T20:34:00.000-04:00that was awesome.. I can see those damn resentment...that was awesome.. I can see those damn resentments coming tooo LOL and I tell myself.. I am not taking the bait no - nope I am not... then the person keeps persisting and I get irritated or whateve and my head can go places where is just gross... LOL<BR/> But because of this awesome program, I listen to someone else, read, write pray and relate, and get a better perspective. I really appreciate you writting about this. Thanks : )Shannonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07781628960161310563noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-27027091724876534842007-05-08T15:47:00.000-04:002007-05-08T15:47:00.000-04:00yeah, sometimes it's hard not to run for more gaso...yeah, sometimes it's hard not to run for more gasoline when there's a fire already burning.. I get caught up easily when I'm at work. You gave good advice today...I've got stuff on my ipod, I should just duck under the headphones.Meg Moranhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03602413688150495642noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-54134593535262032582007-05-08T12:26:00.000-04:002007-05-08T12:26:00.000-04:00Excellent. I call that 'guilt tripping' thing 'gui...Excellent. I call that 'guilt tripping' thing 'guilt manipulation.' There's a very useful reference to it on page 61 of the book 'Making Friends: A Guide to Getting Along with People' by Andrew Matthews, which looks a bit too simple at first sight, but has LOADS of really useful references for basic social skills in it. I recommend some of his books to Sponsees for learning basic ways of relating to other peoples demands, expectations, etc. I see all that stuff as common sense, in that 'normal' (meaning reasonably happy) people do these things anyway, but most people in aa have no idea how to do these things and they need to learn them from scratch. I say 'common' sense, but 'common' sense isn't nearly as common as I'd like it to be. I found his books really helpful. They just look a bit naff, that's all.<BR/>Anyway, its pretty good going to be able to distance yourself from the 'scene of the crime' (in resentment terms) when provoked in less than a year. If I am feeling heated, I try to get some distance between me and the resentment, otherwise I just cant think things through. So cool.<BR/>Anyway, I'm glad you didn't cave, and I hope you have a great time while you're away. Hopefully there will be some nice pics of the sea on your blog! <BR/>Right. Back to study!An Irish Friend of Billhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15781376087404079818noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-20945783100207335962007-05-08T09:30:00.000-04:002007-05-08T09:30:00.000-04:00Your inspire me.Your inspire me.Patricia Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07231036049535477708noreply@blogger.com