tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post5853890794304928396..comments2024-02-05T11:32:25.407-05:00Comments on I'm just F.I.N.E.-- Recovery in Al-Anon: Putting on a maskUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-23731209596579255542007-05-02T02:39:00.000-04:002007-05-02T02:39:00.000-04:00wow I can really really identify with this post. ...wow I can really really identify with this post. I had so many personalities, depending on the circumstances...when I started working a program it took a long time to peel it all away and figure out who the heck I really was. Turns out there was a little bit of me in all...I found new ways to discard the rest and get comfortable in my own skin. I think you are pretty amazing.Meg Moranhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03602413688150495642noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-55643877514153972292007-05-01T17:21:00.000-04:002007-05-01T17:21:00.000-04:00I don't think I've ever actually enjoyed telling p...I don't think I've ever actually enjoyed telling people things I KNOW they don't want to hear, but I do have an inbuilt rebellious urge to be the black sheep of any group. Its my default response. But at the same time I am a bit of a purist when it comes to a subject I like, so perhaps there is a contradiction there. Whereas you sound like you stand to benefit from being more your own person, I can benefit from trying to conform more to social expectations of one sort or another. I'm not very good at wearing suits for instance, unless they are super !! tailored. Gawd knows where it comes from. Perhaps I have just never had to grow up. Generally I do not feel I need to conform to any other persons expectations. It has its advantages and disadvantages!<BR/>Anyway, thanks for dropping by and posting. I'm up to my ! Eyes with stuff to do as I have 2 ! scary exams this month. So I'm TRYING to be a swot, even though its not very easy! So blogging has taken a back seat for the time being! Nice to read your post as usual. Hope you are having a dandy time!An Irish Friend of Billhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15781376087404079818noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-11367374052578996642007-05-01T16:39:00.000-04:002007-05-01T16:39:00.000-04:00You're right about it being icing on the cake. I a...You're right about it being icing on the cake. I am always pleased though when people like me. It is often unexpected when it happens. It is a good feeling. I wonder when someone likes me with the mask on, but when I am just being me and they like me, that's really nice.Sydhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05642843245634635843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-19312350939358589872007-05-01T16:29:00.000-04:002007-05-01T16:29:00.000-04:00I think it is human nature to want others to like ...I think it is human nature to want others to like us - but we take it to extremes. This is a wonderful post Syd. I am sure glad you are a blogger.Mary Christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08156474205414127488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-63713728269963038672007-05-01T16:16:00.000-04:002007-05-01T16:16:00.000-04:00Wow, I remember that for so many years I too would...Wow, I remember that for so many years I too would become a chameleon. The thing is, even if a hundred people liked me, I would obsess about the one who didn't! I am learning to love me no matter what, and I too still find it somewhat disconcerting when people seem to like who I am! I like it, it just feels weird still...<BR/>For the record I like you- without your masks!lushgurlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03169403631552159238noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-51117960561038828662007-05-01T15:11:00.000-04:002007-05-01T15:11:00.000-04:00I assume you wear no masks here on your blog and I...I assume you wear no masks here on your blog and I like you, your writings and your compassion. Being annonymous" lets us really be our true selves dont you think? <BR/><BR/>I think being chameleon like is just the nature of adult children, codependents and al-oners alike. We must not forget the three c's.... <BR/><BR/>Peace.<BR/><BR/>~kelkelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01982496933879300175noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-71988125099954740402007-05-01T13:39:00.000-04:002007-05-01T13:39:00.000-04:00It's interesting that you say: "It's important for...It's interesting that you say: "It's important for me to be myself and if people like me then I'm happy." It sounds like you've come a long way, but it will probably be better when you can say you're happy being yourself, and if other people happen to like you also, it's icing.Judithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16354890444410748967noreply@blogger.com