tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post598222632587888226..comments2024-02-05T11:32:25.407-05:00Comments on I'm just F.I.N.E.-- Recovery in Al-Anon: Waste in worryUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger24125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-40073876889758274042012-02-10T14:42:16.349-05:002012-02-10T14:42:16.349-05:00I love the Buscaglia quote...
It is amazing, the ...I love the Buscaglia quote...<br /><br />It is amazing, the life changing things we learn in recovery isn't it?ScottFhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11823579464776499495noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-4443604751587951622012-02-09T20:10:48.262-05:002012-02-09T20:10:48.262-05:00The AA literature says that we can learn to live w...The AA literature says that we can learn to live with unsolveable problems, with the conflicting issue of human frailty and its emotional miasma on one hand, and the sturdy, steadying knowledge that this day contains good and we are capable of being part of it.Enchanted Oakhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14815997287116818456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-69799494171624911172012-02-04T23:03:24.302-05:002012-02-04T23:03:24.302-05:00I was a black belt at worrying. Today, I still wor...I was a black belt at worrying. Today, I still worry, but I am learning to keep that worry at bay and have the awareness of what steps I need to take so it doesn't rob my entire day of joy. <br /><br />Enjoy the time on the boat, so glad you have that!Simply Mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06966845919690118072noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-67307287566275531642012-02-04T15:13:00.797-05:002012-02-04T15:13:00.797-05:00I'm glad you have someplace quiet to go that c...I'm glad you have someplace quiet to go that can ease your mind. In my dealings with worry lately I've read that taking care of today is the best we can do to set up better tomorrows. I'm finding your thoughts on that to be a good reminder...just for today.Let Go, Let Godhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02734821434596510493noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-80107189935458299392012-02-04T11:37:21.366-05:002012-02-04T11:37:21.366-05:00If I'm in the situation, I will worry. That...If I'm in the situation, I will worry. That's how it is. I have to remove myself from the place or person to avoid worry. Blessings on you, Syd.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-61400733029184575562012-02-04T09:46:09.335-05:002012-02-04T09:46:09.335-05:00What, me worry? -- Alfred E. NewmanWhat, me worry? -- Alfred E. NewmanMary Christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08156474205414127488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-61140294818068917102012-02-04T08:20:06.331-05:002012-02-04T08:20:06.331-05:00I'm glad you have a friend willing to visit yo...I'm glad you have a friend willing to visit your fil in your stead. I pray his feelings will soften. Rest, restore and renew on the water, my friend. God speed.happygirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16554653800961247808noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-19898721613546861812012-02-04T05:51:47.711-05:002012-02-04T05:51:47.711-05:00Your writings help me so much. Six months into Al...Your writings help me so much. Six months into Al Anon, I still struggle with the worry and not really caring what happens next. This morning, I dropped to the floor and begged God to take it all. I'm done. Thanks again!!Craignoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-4053049980145105552012-02-03T16:39:45.532-05:002012-02-03T16:39:45.532-05:00Aha! Worry - a sour reminder of what I did - unti...Aha! Worry - a sour reminder of what I did - until I heard in my early days of Al-Anon: "When you worry, you do not pray, and when you pray, there's no room for worry." Sort of difficult to understand in those early days, but my own scrambled brain could only replace the racing 'what-if' thoughts with the Serenity Prayer at first, and it worked! After some practice, I learned that I could precede meditation with prayer that would blank out worrisome thoughts - and just listen for God's personal plan for ME (as you are doing with the waves lapping on the boat).<br /><br />Thanks for the recovery memory.<br /><br />Hugs and Love,<br />Anonymous #1Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-49081574900237743602012-02-03T15:53:10.618-05:002012-02-03T15:53:10.618-05:00Really pleased you have a chance to go to the boat...Really pleased you have a chance to go to the boat for a couple of days . . . Peace.bugerlugs63https://www.blogger.com/profile/08598249255143939365noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-86648242445754412382012-02-03T14:20:07.874-05:002012-02-03T14:20:07.874-05:00I was a terrible worrier, and now I'm not. Tha...I was a terrible worrier, and now I'm not. That's a gift from 12-Step. Had I gained nothing else, that would have been sufficient reward for working the Steps.TAAAFhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03607602088454891329noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-74885212625021783782012-02-03T12:05:13.654-05:002012-02-03T12:05:13.654-05:00First, all the empathy I can muster electronically...First, all the empathy I can muster electronically for you and C. going through such a challenging time. Second, your blog has been a real blessing this week as I have what feel like very crummy challenges going on - and I get stuck in focusing on how everyone else needs to change, and I realize that I just don't have any control over that. <br /><br />It's scary when I slip back into the feeling that I need to control everything, which ties into a deeper sense that I am responsible for everything bad that happens. This is a mindset I learned as a child in an alcoholic home and "nurtured" through two marriages, the second one doomed to fail by a husband who simply did not want to be married.<br /><br />Your blog and a few other resources from the universe have gently reminded me this week that all I can do is take care of "my side of the street." It's freeing and scary at the same time.<br /><br />I saw a really good film this week, and walked out of it with a lot of emotions about it's subject matter - 9/11, that bad things happen to everyone just "out of the blue," grief over loss, and comfort in the knowledge that we, as human beings, are truly all in this together. One epiphany for my Al-Anon walk was the idea of "what If" - I thought about how the novel, then the film, were born because the author dared to follow a "what if" idea - and wrote a great story about it.<br /><br />So, I examined my own responses to "what if," and found that I usually have such negative answers for myself. I've decided that it's worth answering the "what if?" with positive answers for a change. What if I start a vegetable garden (for the first time, it scares me!) and it goes well? What if I do some volunteer work (also scary!) and I enjoy it?<br /><br />What if at this time next week, I've followed through on my what ifs with positive responses instead of worries.<br /><br />So, as always - thank you so much for your blog. It's a wonderful, powerful thing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-29275342707204421152012-02-03T11:55:15.254-05:002012-02-03T11:55:15.254-05:00Anxiety and worry are what I struggle with daily. ...Anxiety and worry are what I struggle with daily. I so appreciate your thoughts on this topic. As I trust my higher power more & more, the comfort that I feel within myself crowds out the worry.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-11240008651415973602012-02-03T10:30:57.092-05:002012-02-03T10:30:57.092-05:00That is exactly what I needed to hear this morning...That is exactly what I needed to hear this morning, Syd. Thank-you.Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-79244946041558997282012-02-03T08:56:51.875-05:002012-02-03T08:56:51.875-05:00I used to worry. Many times in my career I have be...I used to worry. Many times in my career I have been out of work and I would worry about a paycheck, about my family and everything you can imagine around those type of issues.<br /><br />I can't really remember when that cycle ended but I think what helped was when I realized I already had everything I needed inside of me to handle anything that was thrown at me. <br /><br />Granted, my son's addition had me on the ropes a couple times but inside I found that strength I didn't know I had.Dad and Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14204246139693620329noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-84830839579580822582012-02-03T08:20:39.799-05:002012-02-03T08:20:39.799-05:00blank time just listening to waves... oh that hark...blank time just listening to waves... oh that harkens some wonderful memories in sound, sight and heart! Have a wonderful peaceful sail!!!!Jess Mistress of Mischiefhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14766848582303523764noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-47550856205780076452012-02-03T06:19:34.792-05:002012-02-03T06:19:34.792-05:00I have spent a lot of time in worry. I am getting ...I have spent a lot of time in worry. I am getting better at leaving it behind. Glad you will be spending time on your boat without worry.Marciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09072868519236902423noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-79148020295222510652012-02-03T04:03:23.383-05:002012-02-03T04:03:23.383-05:00Being on the boat sounds like its the 3rd and 11th...Being on the boat sounds like its the 3rd and 11th step in action. Letting go, turning over to God and meditation in motion. What a beautiful example of self care.<br /><br />Everything will unfold as it should. He is in safe place being cared for, and on the boat, so are you and C. Isn't it cool how God works?Christinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05683458543699000110noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-32994505768815268942012-02-03T02:57:24.860-05:002012-02-03T02:57:24.860-05:00Worry, yes I realized when I quieted my mind down ...Worry, yes I realized when I quieted my mind down there was alot of worry and fear floating....<br />I would and do still attach to these thoughts at times which can spin me<br />down a dusty road. Being of service and living in the moment helps keep the worry level down just for today.<br />Glad to hear you will be on your boat.Di-Githttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10770400058372063740noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-43901421698929302392012-02-03T01:55:13.868-05:002012-02-03T01:55:13.868-05:00Worry as you say is pointless, Syd but how seducti...Worry as you say is pointless, Syd but how seductive or familiar it is. I find myself slipping into its embrace daily however much I manage to talk myself out. I'm glad you're doing so well though.Elisabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04015624747225433940noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-52113985165167742982012-02-03T00:44:37.809-05:002012-02-03T00:44:37.809-05:00so sorry all this is happening with C's parent...so sorry all this is happening with C's parents. I know my time may come soon too with my aging folks. Ran into a friend at the grocery the other day, we were roommates when I was about 22-25. He is 10 years older than me and at the time seemed a fount of older wisdom. Now he's dealing long distance with his 91 year old mothers care and finances. it was funny for us to go immediately to that type of conversation since we don't see each other often.<br />I looked at him and said, "gawd, we're so old".<br />but not as old as our parents. I hope things improve or just become manageable soon for you and C.Anybethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01193999238104640590noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-52236811582512722812012-02-03T00:04:20.702-05:002012-02-03T00:04:20.702-05:00hey man enjoy that time on the boat...and i am gla...hey man enjoy that time on the boat...and i am glad you have that friend to look in on him...Brian Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00722940075884718007noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-50087743385887293582012-02-03T00:01:18.167-05:002012-02-03T00:01:18.167-05:00Hi Syd....checking in after a hectic week. I was ...Hi Syd....checking in after a hectic week. I was just thinking about the nice time you had with the parents over Christmas and now you and C are here, with your Father In Law and the difficult decision to have him in a nursing home. <br /><br />Thanks for this post on worrying. I tend to try to worry myself to the point of exhaustion. One day at a time is hard when you are a control freak.<br /><br />Hugs....love....and healing prayers to you and C.atomic mommahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09241909236945651676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-37604536949723085072012-02-02T23:43:25.816-05:002012-02-02T23:43:25.816-05:00There is a song in the 1958 movie "Windjammer...There is a song in the 1958 movie "Windjammer" which I love. A few of those lyrics here:<br /><br />"Don't ya hurry, worry me...<br />.....Who cares what time it is<br />When the climate is<br />Warm as the tropical sea?<br />So don't ya hurry me<br />Don't ya worry me..."<br /><br />Worry robs me of focusing on whatever is happening in the real world...today!<br /><br />Thanks for interesting post, Syd.<br />PEACE!steveronihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04010875412308487592noreply@blogger.com