tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post6079471332044778379..comments2024-02-05T11:32:25.407-05:00Comments on I'm just F.I.N.E.-- Recovery in Al-Anon: For fathersUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-72353911472996084632010-06-21T20:42:01.755-04:002010-06-21T20:42:01.755-04:00Syd,
You have such a gentle way with thoughts. I d...Syd,<br />You have such a gentle way with thoughts. I don't think that at times it's possible to never have regrets, I think it's just a normal part of the human makeup but as long as we don't let those regrets rule our lives we'll be OK, thanks for sharing those special glimpses of your father's sensitive side, we are all complex....drybottomgirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10702877045042502693noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-43041234094154841672010-06-21T12:58:12.883-04:002010-06-21T12:58:12.883-04:00I don't know if this will help or not Syd, but...I don't know if this will help or not Syd, but I have always believed that when someone dies, their eyes are completely open to everything and they see all of life very clearly. So, I believe your dad knows that you love him.Tristahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06308388473864912872noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-31676033880255325582010-06-21T12:26:49.444-04:002010-06-21T12:26:49.444-04:00we made it all about him yesterday, my Wes that is...we made it all about him yesterday, my Wes that is. the girls got us early and made him coffee and i carried it to him in bed. they jumped on the bed and screamed 'Happy Fathers Day!' then we made quiche and had breakfast and the girls doted on him all day. they cooked blueberries and made a peach and blueberry cobbler for him. it was a wonderful day and he took his new picture and frame to work to set on his desk to show off his little ones.clean and crazyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09156586299182570611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-75293756774125279592010-06-21T09:53:36.793-04:002010-06-21T09:53:36.793-04:00This is an important reminder, Syd.This is an important reminder, Syd.Sarcastic Bastardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17116577711704241625noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-88460224787629147082010-06-21T09:47:57.221-04:002010-06-21T09:47:57.221-04:00I was overwhelmed yesterday with the sense of loss...I was overwhelmed yesterday with the sense of loss of my father. I hadn't even been thinking about him even though it was father's day. And while he did a lot of things "wrong" and I can point to them as underlying causes and conditions...he did a lot of things right...I am coming to believe. While I felt very sad, it was a good sad..because I can recognize that I can love him anyway.Kathy Lynnehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12808513070742589781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-56954472193960945362010-06-21T02:29:54.244-04:002010-06-21T02:29:54.244-04:00Thanks for the post today. I miss my father today ...Thanks for the post today. I miss my father today although for years my feelings toward him were filled with anger.He was a violent drunk. <br />Due to the program more feelings emerge that were buried.<br />He was an emotional person I remember his kindness of animals.Di-Githttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10770400058372063740noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-62390769693596246432010-06-20T23:40:47.679-04:002010-06-20T23:40:47.679-04:00I miss my dad a lot, and he is still in the world,...I miss my dad a lot, and he is still in the world, just so carefully guarded by my mother. She is the dry drunk; he is the enabler. Got to forgive them both. Some days are easier than others. My life gives me the challenge of doing my best to love my mom, when it is my dad that I really want to know better.Smittyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12681768755769989964noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-75069125791415496632010-06-20T21:27:14.122-04:002010-06-20T21:27:14.122-04:00In the last years of his life here, my Father and ...In the last years of his life here, my Father and me did come to an understanding and appreciation of each other.<br /><br />I think of him often. And today with more gratitude than judgment.Andrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08929609187341391412noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-74646473007174009022010-06-20T21:13:26.242-04:002010-06-20T21:13:26.242-04:00Beautiful post. I am grateful for the father my ch...Beautiful post. I am grateful for the father my children have, although our marriage did not last our relationship has because of his 25 years in AA, because he's always made himself available, because he's a wonderful father to our children. I honor him on Father's Day. And so I told him.Let Go, Let Godhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02734821434596510493noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-46297781896514851262010-06-20T18:46:02.413-04:002010-06-20T18:46:02.413-04:00thank you for the lovely post. They say actions s...thank you for the lovely post. They say actions speak louder than words...those gifts and cards may have meant more than you know.<br />Many blessings,<br />Mariemariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01700941649031924777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-73632051064327461632010-06-20T17:50:48.256-04:002010-06-20T17:50:48.256-04:00Lovely memories of your dad. Father's really r...Lovely memories of your dad. Father's really rock- they teach us so much. I am grateful mine is still alive, I pray he is still with us next year.susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14474227548195593445noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-43611112373913535912010-06-20T17:22:08.390-04:002010-06-20T17:22:08.390-04:00Considering my age, I realized this quite early (O...Considering my age, I realized this quite early (OR late) in life. Sometimes emotional incidents open the gates to conveying your true feelings. When it happened, I remember preparing a greeting card for him (he was overseas) and I wrote to him - "It is easy to be a father. It is harder to be a dad. You're the best dad in the world". He still carries it with him.Opaquehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01673267899145564334noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-75671909050604560782010-06-20T15:33:45.779-04:002010-06-20T15:33:45.779-04:00I just wanted to write to say your blog gives me s...I just wanted to write to say your blog gives me some hope. Thank you. ~KellyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-2183854502128101782010-06-20T13:11:44.720-04:002010-06-20T13:11:44.720-04:00the greatest gift I can give to my father....forgi...the greatest gift I can give to my father....forgiveness....and I do. Have a great dayNikki (Sarah)https://www.blogger.com/profile/13731200601840020130noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-73815907226869922202010-06-20T12:07:41.102-04:002010-06-20T12:07:41.102-04:00This is a nice post with some memories of your fat...This is a nice post with some memories of your father. Hope you enjoy your day and it is nice of you to visit your father-in-law to wish him a Happy Fathers Day.CiCihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08615265608675467505noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-60424207832878662022010-06-20T11:16:00.218-04:002010-06-20T11:16:00.218-04:00What a loving tribute. Interesting how patterns re...What a loving tribute. Interesting how patterns repeat. I can't help but noticed that he loved the sea. Thanks for sharing.Kathy M.https://www.blogger.com/profile/17266701533758183054noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-12854902497975104422010-06-20T11:16:00.219-04:002010-06-20T11:16:00.219-04:00Fatherhood brings up lots of emotions, most uncomf...Fatherhood brings up lots of emotions, most uncomfortable. <br /><br />I'm with Mary, I can't change what happened in the past, but I can move forward. <br /><br />We are going to celebrate this afternoon, with children and with parents, and I get to grill!<br /><br />As I catch up and read of your retirement, Congratulations! You'll be busier than ever if what others say is true.<br /><br />Love your garden, your so far ahead of us that live way to the north of you.<br /><br />Take care.indistincthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15729719239472085619noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-8499279784274630532010-06-20T10:32:38.727-04:002010-06-20T10:32:38.727-04:00Some of us are only on loan. I miss my dad so much...Some of us are only on loan. I miss my dad so much.Helenahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13447013188405986054noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-44053295476517667542010-06-20T08:48:22.088-04:002010-06-20T08:48:22.088-04:00I guess the brutal truth is that not everyone cons...I guess the brutal truth is that not everyone considers their children to be 'real people' or those that they want to share their emotions, disease aside.Carolhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16238104201320280408noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-35111418976360531352010-06-20T08:02:16.495-04:002010-06-20T08:02:16.495-04:00a special post...my father means so much to my lif...a special post...my father means so much to my life and being one all the more...Brian Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00722940075884718007noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-59369141379482833482010-06-20T07:54:00.111-04:002010-06-20T07:54:00.111-04:00I cannot change my relationship with my parents, t...I cannot change my relationship with my parents, they are gone. But I can go forward with the relationships in my life today. That is all I can do.Mary Christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08156474205414127488noreply@blogger.com