tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post6307094446760538258..comments2024-02-05T11:32:25.407-05:00Comments on I'm just F.I.N.E.-- Recovery in Al-Anon: On equal termsUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-87030174555276001802010-05-19T23:34:38.737-04:002010-05-19T23:34:38.737-04:00"continually give from the well depletes and ..."continually give from the well depletes and eventually dries up the well spring within." That's a hard place to come back from. Thanks for showing that it can happen.Let Go, Let Godhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02734821434596510493noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-58406003812417824962010-05-19T11:55:21.634-04:002010-05-19T11:55:21.634-04:00http://itistimetothinkformyself.blogspot.com/2010/...http://itistimetothinkformyself.blogspot.com/2010/05/jingles-may-follower-award-week-3.html<br /><br />some friendship tags..<br />enjoy!Linda Bob Grifins Korbetis Hallhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01546696605935159862noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-87625547995547552582010-05-19T11:55:21.633-04:002010-05-19T11:55:21.633-04:00there is no absolute balance,
give without thinkin...there is no absolute balance,<br />give without thinking of receive, then you are full of love,<br />greatness will come your way...<br />Happy Wednesday!Linda Bob Grifins Korbetis Hallhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01546696605935159862noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-17692083496398086012010-05-19T10:18:34.112-04:002010-05-19T10:18:34.112-04:00Wise words, my friend.
You are loved.Wise words, my friend.<br /><br />You are loved.Sarcastic Bastardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17116577711704241625noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-76406008593802456552010-05-19T07:58:12.943-04:002010-05-19T07:58:12.943-04:00my wife and I are slowly learning to give and take...my wife and I are slowly learning to give and take equally, but it's a process and it is taking time. We go back to the former behaviours from time to time but slowly, we're improving. Relationships have always been very difficult for this alcoholic.Scott M. Freyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11588618061480681504noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-69874792036943800462010-05-19T02:03:13.416-04:002010-05-19T02:03:13.416-04:00I love this and it was much needed for me today al...I love this and it was much needed for me today also. I am just starting my recovery and am excited that I am starting to make myself a priority in my own life.The neverending battle of child's opiate addictionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04138779247145438268noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-71831341774473628062010-05-19T01:46:06.423-04:002010-05-19T01:46:06.423-04:00Syd, after you retire and have you some extensive ...Syd, after you retire and have you some extensive boat-time, I'd KNOW you'd make a terrific counselor, not an easy career. Whatever you do, you have SO much to offer us Peeps. And I just soak it up.<br /><br />Thanks.steveronihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17498524940140288735noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-71459778001449581882010-05-19T01:14:45.540-04:002010-05-19T01:14:45.540-04:00This is a terrific post.
I think the "what ...This is a terrific post. <br /><br />I think the "what do I get" question is a great one. In my case, I got to feel needed and strong. I was the one with the solutions. <br /><br />"Get your mother on it," my ex-husband used to tell my daughter. I was the go-to gal. I definitely got something out of that role.<br /><br />It did eventually deplete me, though. Completely and utterly.Kathy M.https://www.blogger.com/profile/17266701533758183054noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-54627105468560299052010-05-18T21:29:25.750-04:002010-05-18T21:29:25.750-04:00greattttttttttttt post. I feel like I went to a me...greattttttttttttt post. I feel like I went to a meeting today reading this, Deeply appreciated, Syd!Christinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05683458543699000110noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-53703826027396269992010-05-18T21:15:05.849-04:002010-05-18T21:15:05.849-04:00This was perfect timing for me today....really, se...This was perfect timing for me today....really, seems to be a God thing in fact. Just another reminder that I matter. Thanks for sharing your journey with all of us.Annettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18326425173333184401noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-52903054930867819762010-05-18T20:17:20.026-04:002010-05-18T20:17:20.026-04:00None of us is meant to be just givers, we can lear...None of us is meant to be just givers, we can learn to be in relationships where there is give and take. Sounds like your sponsee has come a long way in his recovery. Good for him.CiCihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08615265608675467505noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-45370299184799426722010-05-18T19:59:24.858-04:002010-05-18T19:59:24.858-04:00I love the part where you say that to "contin...I love the part where you say that to "continually give from the well depletes and eventually dries up the well spring within." <br />That is a very visual example of a relationship that is doomed from the start.<br />Once again you've gotten to the heart of the problem.Ginniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12749133391349265563noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-46636601801095405492010-05-18T19:53:54.525-04:002010-05-18T19:53:54.525-04:00That imbalance is so painful -- as you know Syd, I...That imbalance is so painful -- as you know Syd, I grew up with a severely alcoholic and suicidal mother and for 30 years I thought every single day about rescuing her, helping her to get better. After her suicide I had to face the harsh truth that nothing I did made any difference.<br /><br />And as an alcoholic I know that alcoholics don't do reciprocity. We can't, because all our energy is taken up with protecting the addiction.<br /><br />Recovery from both sides of the equation is a long slow journey.Mary LAhttp://louisey.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-57880291872397186412010-05-18T19:17:07.160-04:002010-05-18T19:17:07.160-04:00great post...and a great question to ask. i can ea...great post...and a great question to ask. i can easily fall into the role of the giver...Brian Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00722940075884718007noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-3345925709579723422010-05-18T17:45:14.528-04:002010-05-18T17:45:14.528-04:00That is a beautiful thing.That is a beautiful thing.Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-88058948690407235532010-05-18T15:45:25.188-04:002010-05-18T15:45:25.188-04:00beautiful...again.beautiful...again.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10327991964710241536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-25416080728853735362010-05-18T15:40:05.955-04:002010-05-18T15:40:05.955-04:00Amen, Syd, Amen.
I agree with everything you wr...Amen, Syd, Amen. <br /><br />I agree with everything you wrote. <br /><br />The two people in a relationship should never "measure" the give and take or demand 50/50 but there should be giving and taking on both sides. A person who gives nothing is not really receiving the benefits of a mutual relationship nor building on self-worth. <br /><br />Wonderful post!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06948631272816359901noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-61797187286353406122010-05-18T15:17:18.112-04:002010-05-18T15:17:18.112-04:00Syd, I am so happy for you. You are an inspiration...Syd, I am so happy for you. You are an inspiration and testament to how the program works. Upon entering recovery people said to me over and over that I needed to take care of myself. I took about a five minute bath every night and I thought that was a luxury. Besides I'm to busy to waste time on myself.....and there it was. <br />Wasting time on myself? I was the giver, the savior, the I'm going to make a difference that I felt I needed alcohol to just get me by. I was so overwhelmed that I had no idea of self. But you are right, you are worthy, you deserve to be given something back. If we take care of ourselves it's because we have self worth, something which is stripped away by alcohol wether it's ourselves or someone else. I now take so much better care of me, so I can give, and receive, and be ready to help others. Good post!drybottomgirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10702877045042502693noreply@blogger.com