tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post6435306744485820467..comments2024-02-05T11:32:25.407-05:00Comments on I'm just F.I.N.E.-- Recovery in Al-Anon: At oddsUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-82879857439746502122011-06-26T14:51:13.253-04:002011-06-26T14:51:13.253-04:00Oh Syd, we are living very similar lives right now...Oh Syd, we are living very similar lives right now! It is a balancing act huh. And I am finding all new ways to apply the tools of my program in my life that have nothing to do with some elses addiction but rather my own issues with co-dependence and the need to be needed....and then resenting the holy hell out of it. lolAnnettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18326425173333184401noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-14745067767062083862011-06-25T22:20:25.323-04:002011-06-25T22:20:25.323-04:00Syd... I am praying for you, for C for her folks. ...Syd... I am praying for you, for C for her folks. I cannot imagine how difficult this must be for all of you. I kknow you'll do the right thing, what needs to be done.Scott M. Freyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11588618061480681504noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-2184424024288959742011-06-25T11:12:58.685-04:002011-06-25T11:12:58.685-04:00Loving C's parents does not come with the cond...Loving C's parents does not come with the condition to give up your own life to care for them. After all the nights you spent there recently you know the many needs they have. They must be able to give a little and get the professional help required for them to stay at home. I hope they can grasp that with a loving heart.CiCihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08615265608675467505noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-52328967591112248122011-06-25T06:47:23.902-04:002011-06-25T06:47:23.902-04:00Another moral dilemma. I'm so sorry you're...Another moral dilemma. I'm so sorry you're at that place. I know you will figure out what to do, but do you mind if I offer a suggestion? You know me -- I'll just go ahead and stick my nose in your biz.<br /><br />If there is room in the house, I suggest they hire a live-in aid and a part-time back up for when the aid is off. Since money doesn't seem to be the issue.<br /><br />After you've done that "next right thing" and the crisis is mellowed, you and C should sit down and devise a plan to present to your parents. I know you will do that in a very diplomatic and loving manner -- explaining that you just want what's best for them and never mentioning the hardship on you or C.<br /><br />You're strong. You can handle this. Just do it. When it's over you will feel good because you will know you did the right thing.<br /><br />LindaLindahttp://www.immortalalcoholic.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-33615910126675319942011-06-24T22:05:25.283-04:002011-06-24T22:05:25.283-04:00This must be so tough. Both my parents are alive -...This must be so tough. Both my parents are alive - my brother lives with them and I think his quality of life has been sacrificed. Balance in all things is the key, I'm guessing. Thanks for sharing.shanachiehttp://theshanachie.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-55305015233375646442011-06-24T18:41:05.254-04:002011-06-24T18:41:05.254-04:00You did the right thing Syd. You did.You did the right thing Syd. You did.Have Myelin?https://www.blogger.com/profile/05704037582961814202noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-55883632348813631622011-06-24T17:43:17.766-04:002011-06-24T17:43:17.766-04:00Let's just put it this way: having an aide ove...Let's just put it this way: having an aide over there wouldn't be the wrong thing.Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17805281199840274328noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-11558849643202051502011-06-24T17:21:43.388-04:002011-06-24T17:21:43.388-04:00It is very important if you are a carer to take ne...It is very important if you are a carer to take needed breaks. In the hospices here, they take on patients for a week or so to offer relief to carers. <br />Things are difficult because everyone is tired and the sick person is often grumpy and not quite with it, which is very testing of ones patience. You might have to put your foot down about the home help. <br />Glad you have an idea how to proceed. Good luck with that Syd..An Irish Friend of Billhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15781376087404079818noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-79638615617163915842011-06-24T14:28:08.287-04:002011-06-24T14:28:08.287-04:00Caregiving is difficult for anyone, and we need to...Caregiving is difficult for anyone, and we need to be honest with ourselves as to what we can do, without losing serenity, or compassion.TAAAFhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03607602088454891329noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-37499919406864398162011-06-24T13:13:57.249-04:002011-06-24T13:13:57.249-04:00Your honesty is heartfelt today. One day you'l...Your honesty is heartfelt today. One day you'll look back and realize that you did all you could do to be present in this situation, whatever your decision turns out to be. Decisions like this are difficult for me realizing my co-dependence and wanting to do the right thing.Let Go, Let Godhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02734821434596510493noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-91978680712572196102011-06-24T12:02:27.513-04:002011-06-24T12:02:27.513-04:00Hang in there,prayers and Hugs.Hang in there,prayers and Hugs.Mike Golchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14472496241893921107noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-66636224226813266812011-06-24T11:36:40.545-04:002011-06-24T11:36:40.545-04:00You DO know the next right thing and I know you...You DO know the next right thing and I know you'll do it.Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-46459026800808544352011-06-24T11:09:51.430-04:002011-06-24T11:09:51.430-04:00Prayers Syd. I know dealing with aging parents is...Prayers Syd. I know dealing with aging parents is hard to do. I hope they look outside for help. We can't tell C what to do, we can pray for wisdom. :)happygirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16554653800961247808noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-64564270478918443502011-06-24T11:01:15.700-04:002011-06-24T11:01:15.700-04:00Syd,
I am so sorry to hear this. You are loved.
S...Syd,<br />I am so sorry to hear this. You are loved.<br /><br />SBSarcastic Bastardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17116577711704241625noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-79354153545342668782011-06-24T10:32:48.716-04:002011-06-24T10:32:48.716-04:00Your response sounds rational. My parents went int...Your response sounds rational. My parents went into the hospital with cardiac crises (at 76 and 84, they were heavy smokers) and never left. I was once told that my abrupt recovery from addiction (along with working the program) coming at the same time of my mother's death meant she took my addiction with her. A nice thing to believe.Jameshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08295794524135726030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-22259091422197158052011-06-24T10:22:22.424-04:002011-06-24T10:22:22.424-04:00Oh, Syd, I feel for you. It's a fact of life ...Oh, Syd, I feel for you. It's a fact of life that, so often, when we get sick or feel the stress and pain of getting old we become very self absorbed and our world becomes smaller and smaller. It has just a negative influence on those around us and I pray that I will remember this when it happens to me and try not to inflict the guilt and frustration on my family that you are feeling now.<br />Hang in there!Ginniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12749133391349265563noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-35778726257640447752011-06-24T09:46:07.349-04:002011-06-24T09:46:07.349-04:00i hope that they get an aide...this is a tough one...i hope that they get an aide...this is a tough one syd...not easy decisions...prayers...Brian Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00722940075884718007noreply@blogger.com