tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post6499704883157912024..comments2024-02-05T11:32:25.407-05:00Comments on I'm just F.I.N.E.-- Recovery in Al-Anon: Hot dayUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-75247555270908201552007-07-11T10:55:00.000-04:002007-07-11T10:55:00.000-04:00I've bumped into so many really crazy people at me...I've bumped into so many really crazy people at meetings and dodgy behavior that stuff like that doesn't surprise me at all. Rather than try to 'reform' 'problem' members, I just 'stick with the winners', (which is always a very personal interpretation) and suggest the same to newer people. Very occasionally, for instance if there is a VERY sexually inappropriate man, I will forewarn newcomer women. Other than that I don't really notice it. After 8 years of attendance in aa I was very capable of spotting the slightly weirder members from a distance and avoiding others if I didn't like the way they were talking to me. I've heard of many very violations of trust from aa members. Even highly regulated environments have unscrupulous members who abuse their position of trust. There is no profession where incompetence is absent. So I just expect it really. And 12 step groups are unregulated, so these incidents kind of go with the territory. I know its very easy to let these people live rent free in your head, but there are FAR nicer people you could be thinking about instead, so I'm glad you're letting them sort it out amongst themselves. Life is too short to get bogged down with the occasional 12 step loon..<BR/>In my opinion anyway!An Irish Friend of Billhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15781376087404079818noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-87919182962075072682007-07-11T06:16:00.000-04:002007-07-11T06:16:00.000-04:00jeeeze..take away the preaching part in my comment...jeeeze..take away the preaching part in my comment above....and keep the AL-ANON ROCKS part. :)Pammiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00513814300181006348noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-41010373793022073872007-07-11T06:15:00.000-04:002007-07-11T06:15:00.000-04:00Just read the last post also. Well that "meeting" ...Just read the last post also. Well that "meeting" may have let your friend down, but not the program of Al-Anon that you and so many others speak so highly of.<BR/>I believe that Al-Anon is a program for people who have been affected by someone elses alcoholism..period. And that AA is a program for people who have a desire to stop drinking alcohol..period. A WHOLE lot of us fit into both catagories. I personally don't think it is right for an AA'er to tell an Al-Anon how to work their program and vice versa. But it is my responsibility to show love and compassion to ALL people in both programs!! So sometimes the "people" in a meeting let me down. But the programs (AA and Al-Anon) NEVER DO.Pammiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00513814300181006348noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-75702328383765558272007-07-11T05:04:00.000-04:002007-07-11T05:04:00.000-04:00I'm still apalled about your previous post.I'm still apalled about your previous post.dAAvehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10378341182741173178noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-22751929420360856652007-07-11T00:03:00.000-04:002007-07-11T00:03:00.000-04:00I am so sorry to hear of the situation that happen...I am so sorry to hear of the situation that happened at your meeting. When this kind of thing comes up I have to remind myself that some of us are still very spiritually sick. I hope that your friend will be able to recognize this as an indication of a sick controlling person and not a sign of an unwelcoming program.Meg Moranhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03602413688150495642noreply@blogger.com