tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post664931882592405665..comments2024-02-05T11:32:25.407-05:00Comments on I'm just F.I.N.E.-- Recovery in Al-Anon: Expectations as pre-meditated resentmentsUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-28759650409464447712013-07-28T18:35:54.358-04:002013-07-28T18:35:54.358-04:00This too shall pass... both joy and sadness are bu...This too shall pass... both joy and sadness are but fleeting feelings in the ebb and flow of our existence. Sometimes it is hard for me to remember that one follows the other. Enjoy your new day.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-58151593072790200112013-07-28T09:35:11.898-04:002013-07-28T09:35:11.898-04:00Wonderful. I'm going to repost it on my Emotio...Wonderful. I'm going to repost it on my Emotional Sobriety. There are 2 kinds of loneliness we have to overcome. By that, I mean, once we have walked through both teachings, those sad feelings become less prominent. I don't believe in closure and suspect it is a word created by therapy to keep us coming back when we don't reach it. If you have loved someone, they are always there or here with us.<br />I love Thomas Wolfe--""Loneliness is not the experience of what one lacks, but rather the experience of what one is. In a culture deeply entrenched in the rhetoric of autonomy and rights, the song of God's lonely man so often goes unvoiced and unheeded. It is ironic how much of our freedom we expend on power -- on conquering death, disease, and decay, all the while concealing from each other our carefully buried loneliness, which if shared, would deepen our understanding of each other."kbermanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16087236840097045265noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-49689199571180343882013-07-27T21:30:50.635-04:002013-07-27T21:30:50.635-04:00What movie? How was it? I am grateful that my sad...What movie? How was it? I am grateful that my sadness doesn't cover me like the blanket it use to be. I know that it will pass and it does. No fun while it is there though, I know.Marciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09072868519236902423noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-18821903435949853862013-07-27T20:13:47.581-04:002013-07-27T20:13:47.581-04:00I hope you're feeling better now and can't...I hope you're feeling better now and can't help but wonder what movie you chose. To my taste there are few movies on the current circuit that would get me out of the doldrums !Ginniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12749133391349265563noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-85052618286565295882013-07-27T03:05:57.032-04:002013-07-27T03:05:57.032-04:00For me, it's when I am stressed that I feel th...For me, it's when I am stressed that I feel this way. Everything seems too much, too hard, too crappy, too unlucky, too unfair, too sad. When I stop and add up all the things that are stressors, I realize how many there are, and that I'm expecting too much of myself, not just of other people and life in general. That realization alone can help, but it's more effective in the long term if I can realize it and then slow down and give myself a break.<br /><br />Hope your break helps, too. jenny_ohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15475480579733466963noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-89284209004855736422013-07-26T08:30:28.768-04:002013-07-26T08:30:28.768-04:00I hope the lunch and movie were wonderful. Would ...I hope the lunch and movie were wonderful. Would love to hear what movie you saw. <br /><br />Of course, I also hope you are feeling better. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-81631938480019160612013-07-25T07:51:25.999-04:002013-07-25T07:51:25.999-04:00I love that! "Expectations as pre-meditated r...I love that! "Expectations as pre-meditated resentments" This post is so timely for me and makes such good sense. All those expectations you mention is what I have been doing to myself and those around me. No wonder my days are filled with resentment and bitterness. Wow, light bulb moment, lol. Such a great post, thank you.<br /><br />I hope you had a lovely day together. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-6905814501529223812013-07-25T02:30:02.839-04:002013-07-25T02:30:02.839-04:00Those darker feelings sound so familiar Syd -- ...Those darker feelings sound so familiar Syd -- but as you say, we can start the day over. I find walking with dogs a great boost and I have also found, as the old cliche says, that giving is its own reward. If I expect gratitude or closeness, I'm setting myself up for disappointment.Mary LAhttp://louisey.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-18661744637098326702013-07-24T22:04:39.076-04:002013-07-24T22:04:39.076-04:00Wow that is an amazing saying! Phew it is OK for m...Wow that is an amazing saying! Phew it is OK for me to feel sad! I want to bad to be happy all the dang time that I lecture myself on "letting things" get to me. <br /><br />I love your title by the way lol. No one ever talks about that. No one ever takes about how we can have a resentment by projecting what we "think" another person will say or do.We hold a resentment before actions take place out of assumptions. Wow I do that all the time! Crazy isn't it?green_eyed_elfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15883755985547011430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-8823154752981299122013-07-24T16:02:45.133-04:002013-07-24T16:02:45.133-04:00Bearing so many losses makes us more fragile for a...Bearing so many losses makes us more fragile for awihile. Now I understand what you mean by starting the day over.Annahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04382717273926292379noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-54861110490608522812013-07-24T15:15:28.456-04:002013-07-24T15:15:28.456-04:00I love that quote, and like you I feel the same wa...I love that quote, and like you I feel the same way about people and the world and it leaves me frustrated and upset. I hope your having a better day!Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02512994606434336161noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-26162800606091149712013-07-24T11:23:52.440-04:002013-07-24T11:23:52.440-04:00I've never heard that quote but as of right no...I've never heard that quote but as of right now, it is my favorite. <br />Take care. Of yourselves, each other. Take care.Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-88838019150321642882013-07-24T11:21:03.623-04:002013-07-24T11:21:03.623-04:00Oh Syd, it seems so many are carrying heavy burden...Oh Syd, it seems so many are carrying heavy burden right now. Looking through and finding all of those old signs of life and what used to be is bittersweet. <br /><br />What movie are you going to see? Molly took me to see The Heat and it was hilarious...raunchily so lol but it was good to laugh at Melissa McCarthy flinging the F-word all around and talking about little balls. Annettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18326425173333184401noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-88345439409494378112013-07-24T11:05:37.364-04:002013-07-24T11:05:37.364-04:00what a loaded title on this....and so true...sorry...what a loaded title on this....and so true...sorry it started rough but glad you got it back together...and are aware as well so you can watch your expectations...i def get that...enjoy the day together manBrian Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00722940075884718007noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-85445042818573515822013-07-24T10:53:45.627-04:002013-07-24T10:53:45.627-04:00Thank you for this post. It came when I'm feel...Thank you for this post. It came when I'm feeling overwhelmed and like I don't want to get out of bed to face the day. Judithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16354890444410748967noreply@blogger.com