tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post6742522716183171792..comments2024-02-05T11:32:25.407-05:00Comments on I'm just F.I.N.E.-- Recovery in Al-Anon: Demanding or graciousUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-41876659711050424962010-12-16T07:30:04.443-05:002010-12-16T07:30:04.443-05:00Even when trying to be kind. I'm grateful for ...Even when trying to be kind. I'm grateful for sponsorship and a fellowship that "teaches" even hard headed control freaks like me how to be graceful and accepting. :)Jess Mistress of Mischiefhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14766848582303523764noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-58996404669384315622010-12-15T21:19:53.465-05:002010-12-15T21:19:53.465-05:00" How am I going to respond?"
You just ..." How am I going to respond?"<br /><br />You just taught me by this one question that I need to stop and do this. I tend to be demanding when I feel threatened. I feel like I've been given a key :) thanks for the honesty of your post.nyssahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12592583659013282708noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-10777943326434989792010-12-15T20:57:44.156-05:002010-12-15T20:57:44.156-05:00It never seems to work out that wresting (to twist...It never seems to work out that wresting (to twist or turn from the proper course) brings me happiness or satisfaction.Let Go, Let Godhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02734821434596510493noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-33587543342913742972010-12-15T09:21:50.248-05:002010-12-15T09:21:50.248-05:00It's always a fine balance, isn't it? Boun...It's always a fine balance, isn't it? Boundaries vs. control, I mean.Sarcastic Bastardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17116577711704241625noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-7635465384534051772010-12-15T08:20:25.858-05:002010-12-15T08:20:25.858-05:00Standards and expectations..."Graciously dema...Standards and expectations..."Graciously demanding" OOOh boy, the former is my family. Nowadays things are better.<br />Principles before personalities.<br />A lot less spoken, more demonstrated. <br />Although experience, strength and hope sometimes require speech.Striving to keep it more: impartial -? less ego.izzyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06379007428464069723noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-31129501449102646532010-12-15T03:44:04.811-05:002010-12-15T03:44:04.811-05:00Quote of the Day: Sometimes letting things go is a...Quote of the Day: Sometimes letting things go is an act of far greater power than defending or hanging on. ~ Eckhart Tolle<br /><br />saw this and it reminded me of yr post :)An Irish Friend of Billhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15781376087404079818noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-40341608307861795562010-12-15T02:49:58.007-05:002010-12-15T02:49:58.007-05:00'retaliate and make a bad situation worse; or ...'retaliate and make a bad situation worse; or respond in a sincere manner in which I let others go about their business.'<br /><br />Yes nicely said. <br />I wish i cld live up to that every day. Its very hard to let things go, but i must give it my best shot.<br /><br />Al anons really focus on the control element. you guys are very !!! cool when it comes to control issues. very admirable when u look at the problems caused by controlling tendencies in humans. al anon do a !! great service by bring this to the attention of others. imo anyway.An Irish Friend of Billhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15781376087404079818noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-30435388215058648212010-12-15T01:44:33.707-05:002010-12-15T01:44:33.707-05:00I needed this today. Thanks, Syd.I needed this today. Thanks, Syd.Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17805281199840274328noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-23797711278218759962010-12-14T21:31:48.048-05:002010-12-14T21:31:48.048-05:00Control is an issue, even for ourselves. Good thou...Control is an issue, even for ourselves. Good thoughts here, Syd.Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-73710567332081412062010-12-14T21:16:22.033-05:002010-12-14T21:16:22.033-05:00boy, oh boy can I relate, and wow did I recognize ...boy, oh boy can I relate, and wow did I recognize that quoted portion of the Big Book straight away.<br /><br />I had to learn that most of my problmes were of my own making and that I had to stop making demands,a nd start living lif on life's terms!<br /><br />great post Syd!Scott M. Freyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11588618061480681504noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-79025553708608289822010-12-14T20:32:39.029-05:002010-12-14T20:32:39.029-05:00For me, I have to keep expectations to a minimum. ...For me, I have to keep expectations to a minimum. If I want something I have to open my mouth and express it and not expect others to just know it. And I don't want to expect others to behave a certain way because I will be disappointed when they show they are only human. So keeping it in perspective and remembering what others do is none of my business helps me to take care of my side of the street. I always like the way you describe the way your work your recovery.CiCihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08615265608675467505noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-19156799044210478402010-12-14T19:52:40.585-05:002010-12-14T19:52:40.585-05:00Well said...
I'm finding as sobriety and spri...Well said...<br /><br />I'm finding as sobriety and spritual awareness moves along I'm learning to stand directly in front of whatever I need to do and say... "Get it done"<br /><br />That way stuff doesn't pile up.<br /><br />We're learning to find new ways to communicate and avoid the cliff of resentment, which unmet demands seems to shove us toward. <br /><br />Thanks for this.Jameshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08295794524135726030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-817202268672884662010-12-14T19:13:16.418-05:002010-12-14T19:13:16.418-05:00I try to let others go about their business. Unti...I try to let others go about their business. Until they try to manage MY business....sometimes I even cut people too much slack...when in fact, what I should be doing is setting healthy boundaries.Marciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09072868519236902423noreply@blogger.com