tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post7646565565577313534..comments2024-02-05T11:32:25.407-05:00Comments on I'm just F.I.N.E.-- Recovery in Al-Anon: Anxiety and dreamsUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-81074314593278223802010-10-19T15:16:17.852-04:002010-10-19T15:16:17.852-04:00? might be that you were picking up on his anxiety...? might be that you were picking up on his anxiety. i cn become keenly aware of strong emotions in other people, and can get their feelings as if by osmosis if i am in the same room as them. not nice if they are disturbed or very sad. Can happen at work. <br /><br />yes sounds frustrating trying to help him. not easy.<br />well there are many ways to make a living that may not involve having to learn algerbra.<br />Over here university lecturers are retraining to become plumbers because the pay is better. so who knows eh?<br /><br />soaking for 10mins in a salt bath is good if you have been in close contact with disturbed or negative people. <br />Google sea salt bath. there are many references online.. Mind you, you are right next to the sea which is the same thing :) but baths with tons of salt in are good too..<br /><br />http://sandanyi.com/sea-salt-baths-–-a-nurturing-way-to-wash-away-negative-energy-and-debilitating-thought-formsAn Irish Friend of Billhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15781376087404079818noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-12171010141674701322010-10-19T12:07:57.800-04:002010-10-19T12:07:57.800-04:00I had to comment on this algebra issue. I was alwa...I had to comment on this algebra issue. I was always told I was terrible at math and I believed it. I didn't go to college in my 20's for a lot of reasons but mainly because I didn't think I could do the math. I did finally go back at 40 and actually got all A's even in Algebra. I just had to find the right person to explain it to me. I have a creative mind and with the right teacher, I did get it. My ex would try to explain it and would end up yelling at me and that made me feel like a child. So don't give up on your friend, if you want to help, just use a different approach. I actually loved Algebra when it was all over.Grace-WorkinProgresshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16386539822343069884noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-40202999906829424582010-10-19T04:28:06.575-04:002010-10-19T04:28:06.575-04:00Sometimes offering a hand can mean helping show so...Sometimes offering a hand can mean helping show someone another path and sometimes it means patting them on the back as continue on their path. I think you are a good friend and I am glad that dark night has passed for you. Sweet dreams...<br /><br />♥namaste♥Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16128247878961221421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-83832445498010549322010-10-18T19:00:06.342-04:002010-10-18T19:00:06.342-04:00I'm pretty sure I have ADD, and I can't do...I'm pretty sure I have ADD, and I can't do algebra to save my life. I am, however, an A English student and can write some killer essays. Some people are great writers, others are good at small engine repair. I think everyone has their forte, you just gotta find it and go with it.shanachiehttp://theshanachie.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-74101207226509506872010-10-18T11:56:25.643-04:002010-10-18T11:56:25.643-04:00Sorry to hear that you had a bad night.Sadly stuff...Sorry to hear that you had a bad night.Sadly stuff happens like that.Mike Golchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14472496241893921107noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-27607979120780859712010-10-18T10:29:08.631-04:002010-10-18T10:29:08.631-04:00i know how he feels, i do not get math. i am willi...i know how he feels, i do not get math. i am willing to try but i feel i would fail as well i do not have a scientific brain. my "A" and my wes both do.<br /><br />my sister is struggling through her simple algebra and when they were talking about the equations i could actually follow along a little. but she does not understand the work from the previous chapter and it is a linear equation. right now she is at 80 percent which i think is wonderful, however we learned that her daughter did her homework for her. this is an online math class and i was not happy to hear that.<br /><br />we just need to let them make their decisions. it sounds like your friend is more healthy than my sister and may actually be willing to hear a suggestion. my sister will beat her head against the wall for a while and then probably let her daughter do her homework.clean and crazyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09156586299182570611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-86707511410182025822010-10-18T09:29:06.956-04:002010-10-18T09:29:06.956-04:00I hope you slept better last night, Syd. I hate th...I hope you slept better last night, Syd. I hate those sorts of dreams. You wake up more tired than when you went to bad.<br /><br />I have dreams where I am being chased a lot.<br /><br />Love you.Sarcastic Bastardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17116577711704241625noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-15647987697332952512010-10-18T09:17:14.928-04:002010-10-18T09:17:14.928-04:00Yep. Anxiety is a bugger and no matter how well we...Yep. Anxiety is a bugger and no matter how well we think we are, it can come out to remind us that our minds can be murky places. BUT, it's not real, we know that, we can look forward to better dreams.Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-28324157186788750452010-10-18T08:26:25.589-04:002010-10-18T08:26:25.589-04:00Perhaps something in your interaction with your fr...Perhaps something in your interaction with your friend touched a soft spot in your mind causing the bad dreams. I have been the receipent of many shaken dreams where I was fearful of going back to sleep.Its very frightening, but thank God it passes.<br /><br />Its too bad he wont agree to be tested, but I guess his denial is going to have to hurt before faced. He is lucky to have you as a friend.Christinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05683458543699000110noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-85737257994979720102010-10-18T08:15:30.548-04:002010-10-18T08:15:30.548-04:00Sorry to hear about your dreams Syd. I understand...Sorry to hear about your dreams Syd. I understand when you explain how vivid they are and in color. I get those as well. <br /><br />It is great to hear your an AlAteen sponsor. That is really cool!<br /><br />Blessings and HUGS,<br />GwenAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01301188057020591320noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-69145793534301441072010-10-18T07:44:06.879-04:002010-10-18T07:44:06.879-04:00I totally understand D's issue with algebra. I...I totally understand D's issue with algebra. I'm afraid in that area I'm in the same boat.<br /><br />I can do simple math and if there is an artistic pattern involved I can see in pictures so I do well with spreadsheets, but algebra... has never been easy for me.<br /><br />I'm glad there are careers that can use other gifts and I'm glad I'm willing to pray and seek out the talents and gifts I've been given.Jess Mistress of Mischiefhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14766848582303523764noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-47365087527714400342010-10-18T07:17:13.244-04:002010-10-18T07:17:13.244-04:00I am quite certain that I would not be able to gra...I am quite certain that I would not be able to grasp the algebra your friend is struggling with either. Funny, I can do statistics like crazy, but cannot understand algebra... and they say you cannot do one without the other. I wouldn't think I have a learning disability though. <br /><br />I hope you had sweet dreams last night Syd. It looks like you are getting younger!Mary Christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08156474205414127488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-71077364936561246052010-10-18T07:11:56.242-04:002010-10-18T07:11:56.242-04:00I tutor two 5 year old's. neither of which can...I tutor two 5 year old's. neither of which can get all the way through the alphabet. You are so right Syd. I am not their solution. Until they succeed. Then I guess I will become their solution because I will not quit on them.the walking manhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10058913927297370740noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-72301965538859829962010-10-18T03:35:53.898-04:002010-10-18T03:35:53.898-04:00I make suggestions to friends but then having to ...I make suggestions to friends but then having to detach from the outcome is difficult for me. This care giving is sometimes not asked for but I seem to know what is best?<br />I am not sure giving up my role is going to be easy these days it has followed me deeply into a couple of friends lives. Oh well glad I have a program to guide me through it all.Di-Githttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10770400058372063740noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-76008483096908347332010-10-18T01:59:33.601-04:002010-10-18T01:59:33.601-04:00I agree with Brian....a friend can share what they...I agree with Brian....a friend can share what they see and leave the action part of the equation up to the individual. Btw...I would be lost if I had to math work like that in my real life to. Poor guy. <br /><br />I'm sorry about your bad dreams...a bad nights sleep is like torture! Glad you are feeling better today.Annettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18326425173333184401noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-63253834527441335102010-10-17T23:25:27.554-04:002010-10-17T23:25:27.554-04:00may you have a more restful sleep tonight. dreams ...may you have a more restful sleep tonight. dreams can be quite unsettling for me- good or bad, I try to figure them out which can be fruitless.Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17805281199840274328noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-9948509470695393812010-10-17T23:02:18.181-04:002010-10-17T23:02:18.181-04:00The hard part is he doesn't accept that he has...The hard part is he doesn't accept that he has a LD. I have made suggestions in the past about being tested for ADD, but he scoffs at that. Not much that I can do other than listen.Sydhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05642843245634635843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-1714638812363444202010-10-17T22:55:55.236-04:002010-10-17T22:55:55.236-04:00i am glad you are feling better as well...those ar...i am glad you are feling better as well...those are some nasty dreams...shame about your friend...question...are you saying it is wrong to make the suggestion to him? it would be up to him to follow but i struggle with not offering a friend that is struggling an idea that may help him....how would that be different than suggesting AA or Al-anon to someone...Brian Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00722940075884718007noreply@blogger.com