tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post811458087943873196..comments2024-02-05T11:32:25.407-05:00Comments on I'm just F.I.N.E.-- Recovery in Al-Anon: The tools that I needUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger27125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-46145816654718387552010-01-14T16:18:45.620-05:002010-01-14T16:18:45.620-05:00Glad you will have a new room with a view (and a ...Glad you will have a new room with a view (and a toilet!). Very creative idea about the toolbox. Visuals like that always seem to stick with people longer than just hearing the words.Bar L.https://www.blogger.com/profile/11100008292699584336noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-84343507758399542002010-01-14T13:23:00.157-05:002010-01-14T13:23:00.157-05:00One of my homegroups is now moving and the other o...One of my homegroups is now moving and the other one moved about 2 montsh ago. Change is always uncomfortable for me, at first, even when I know it is a positive change. This too shall pass. I hope your new place fits your group well.<br /><br />namasteAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16128247878961221421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-67939656663624476152010-01-14T11:51:40.637-05:002010-01-14T11:51:40.637-05:00love the toolbox idea.. I agree one has to feel we...love the toolbox idea.. I agree one has to feel welcome. The new roomsounds inviting as it should be<br /> HUGSAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-48531873383381105992010-01-14T10:11:59.519-05:002010-01-14T10:11:59.519-05:00Principles above personalities for me is dealing w...Principles above personalities for me is dealing with my ego. I tell myself I am not better than someone else so why do I feel upset with them. The tool box is great. Visuals always work for me. Enjoy the journey of the move to the new meeting place.CiCihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08615265608675467505noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-70290268769497220042010-01-14T09:44:28.440-05:002010-01-14T09:44:28.440-05:00I loved your comment that there is no profit in ju...I loved your comment that there is no profit in judging another. It's our own behavior that we need to keep our eyes on. The tool box idea was very cool. Someone is inventive.Enchanted Oakhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14815997287116818456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-11176563927453730932010-01-14T09:24:17.129-05:002010-01-14T09:24:17.129-05:00I can't wait to get back into my group myself....I can't wait to get back into my group myself. It sounds as though your meeting conditions were deplorable, but I know that you were grateful just to have a place to take those emotions. I wish you well, and thanks for hanging in there with me.<br /><br />DRiverPoethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01846730934649303857noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-43123720414382267272010-01-14T08:38:28.410-05:002010-01-14T08:38:28.410-05:00Evidence of God as expressed in the group conscien...Evidence of God as expressed in the group conscience.Scott Whttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06361224878660334532noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-14043702095836426732010-01-14T08:15:33.492-05:002010-01-14T08:15:33.492-05:00I would find the same things challenging for the s...I would find the same things challenging for the same reasons. Prayer is a great tool for those things.Mary Christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08156474205414127488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-29187378627014110542010-01-14T04:00:57.576-05:002010-01-14T04:00:57.576-05:00Like AA, Alanon is experiential and not opinion-ba...Like AA, Alanon is experiential and not opinion-based. I don't believe you can have the remotest idea of the power of AA involvement unless you are fully participating and committed to the primary purpose.Mary LAhttp://louisey.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-58532995732937969372010-01-14T03:00:24.557-05:002010-01-14T03:00:24.557-05:00I am involved in online service organisations and ...I am involved in online service organisations and find it hard to detach when others don't respect process or consensus. A learning curve.Mary LAhttp://louisey.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-21030151854325430772010-01-14T00:51:13.741-05:002010-01-14T00:51:13.741-05:00Gee Syd, I'm impressed. I probably would have...Gee Syd, I'm impressed. I probably would have shot my mouth off at that remark, like you said, the church had no idea. The old saying goes, never pass up a chance to keep your mouth shut. well done!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-35342758143578934732010-01-14T00:30:18.175-05:002010-01-14T00:30:18.175-05:00hmmm, when things don't go the way we want the...hmmm, when things don't go the way we want them to... but yes, you do have a new place, where you are wanted, which is the most important thing right?! love the toolbox idea...Shadowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05999801833389058410noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-19324392051584400112010-01-13T21:51:10.263-05:002010-01-13T21:51:10.263-05:00i truly understand this. bigger picture - remember...i truly understand this. bigger picture - remember the bigger picture. sometimes it is in the failure that we learn...Man Named Kimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04299332753447389139noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-35591361324362188762010-01-13T18:44:45.262-05:002010-01-13T18:44:45.262-05:00I love this idea of passing a tool box around cont...I love this idea of passing a tool box around containing tools labeled with Al-Anon sayings. Very neat.<br /><br />I'm sure God will bless your group in its new location.<br /><br />PGOne Prayer Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17455437909918314217noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-15801774512677952502010-01-13T17:45:47.642-05:002010-01-13T17:45:47.642-05:00I just stumbled upon your blog. Looks like it'...I just stumbled upon your blog. Looks like it's going to take some work to get even slightly caught up with everything that's going on.<br /><br />I'm an alcoholic and know practically nothing about Al-Anon. No surprise there; no one knows less about AA than an active alcoholic, so why should I know anything about Al-Anon?<br /><br />Part of the reason for my ignorance is that every Al-Anon site I've run across before yours strikes me as mean-spirited and even vile. Looks like I'm going to learn something in spite of myself.<br /><br />Thanks.Wildcathttp://waybeyondzero.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-46775263734830522082010-01-13T16:33:36.765-05:002010-01-13T16:33:36.765-05:00I've also had a couple of meetings lately abou...I've also had a couple of meetings lately about tools. Must be something in the air. I love the idea of an actual tool box. I may use it myself! Thanks!Kathy M.https://www.blogger.com/profile/17266701533758183054noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-8950878454115298952010-01-13T16:22:39.285-05:002010-01-13T16:22:39.285-05:00I am glad you got that new room. It sounds very co...I am glad you got that new room. It sounds very comfortable and <br />inviting. Anyone who had been through what we have needs a break!Annahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04382717273926292379noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-51394952347969012602010-01-13T14:56:04.251-05:002010-01-13T14:56:04.251-05:00A great post on tolerating the unacceptable. I lov...A great post on tolerating the unacceptable. I love the idea of the toolbox meeting.TAAAFhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03607602088454891329noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-87735990906565040452010-01-13T14:10:09.181-05:002010-01-13T14:10:09.181-05:00thank you for this post.
right now we have a trust...thank you for this post.<br />right now we have a trusted servant who does not do their job, updating the website. it has not been properly maintained in a while. my suggestion was to shut it down and just refer to the regional website as we do not have members with knowledge or willingness to maintain the website. for some reason our PI chair does not want to move forward on this and is hem hawing around the issue. now we are going to accommodate the web person by re-writing the duties of the position so that he has clarification of his job, which were clearly explained before.<br />personally i just need to not engage in the discussion as that is when i get resentful. i have plenty of other work to do and need to let this be what it is. so thanks for this postclean and crazyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09156586299182570611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-46579151009825459462010-01-13T14:04:53.625-05:002010-01-13T14:04:53.625-05:00One of the local groups here in town uses a 20x 16...One of the local groups here in town uses a 20x 16 room to house about 50-60 12 steppers. Much too small for this closterphobic lady. The church offers up a group so hubs and I have been wanting to check it out. It may be time to do so.<br /><br />Stick to your gut instincts and prayer and your solutions will come. Hugs<br />TammyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-28508474694708977402010-01-13T13:56:02.823-05:002010-01-13T13:56:02.823-05:00Wow, Syd, you all were a group of hard core Alanon...Wow, Syd, you all were a group of hard core Alanoners. No bathroom? That's impressive. Your new digs will be a delight.<br /><br />One of our morning meetings in town used to be held in a banquet room on the top floor of a restaurant. We had access to a full menu and there was a server that would take our order and pour our coffee for us. ::sigh:: I miss that meeting.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-43967206965314802912010-01-13T13:23:32.746-05:002010-01-13T13:23:32.746-05:00My home group meets in a hospital. Everyone, inclu...My home group meets in a hospital. Everyone, including the AA group, is always respectful as far as smoking, trash, congregating, etc. goes. People talk softly as they walk the hospital to get to the meeting rooms. Hospital staff is friendly, and communication is always timely and clear. I guess I took it for granted, but I won't anymore.Louhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09496172669599418214noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-40251987493721384182010-01-13T12:40:10.641-05:002010-01-13T12:40:10.641-05:00I'll try to keep this in mind as I continue to...I'll try to keep this in mind as I continue to watch the stuff going on in my first home group.Jess Mistress of Mischiefhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14766848582303523764noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-66006064822337049012010-01-13T12:39:38.039-05:002010-01-13T12:39:38.039-05:00What I love about this post is having read all of ...What I love about this post is having read all of the issues regarding communication with the church and the discomfort that may have continued unnecessarily, you also shared the result which is that you all are a close group dedicated to and innovative in your continued work sharing the message and bring a spirit of enjoyment and fun to the table as well as practical and spiritual tools :)<br /><br />Good stuff!Jess Mistress of Mischiefhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14766848582303523764noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-21302132864090145102010-01-13T12:05:17.303-05:002010-01-13T12:05:17.303-05:00I've now been involved with several groups as ...I've now been involved with several groups as they have gone through the agony of moving. I've seen a group that was thriving, dwindle to almost nothing as the personalities emerged and threatened the process. And I've seen other groups ride through it with no drama whatsoever. I hope your group manages the easy route.Garnethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11734142123169684500noreply@blogger.com