tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post8241526634966928851..comments2024-02-05T11:32:25.407-05:00Comments on I'm just F.I.N.E.-- Recovery in Al-Anon: A serving of self-pityUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger22125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-1463536907839090542011-11-20T17:41:24.292-05:002011-11-20T17:41:24.292-05:00The last couple of years I made the choice to not ...The last couple of years I made the choice to not plan the "whole" family Thanksgiving at our house. What a relief it has been to take that pressure off the T-day holiday and enjoy whatever comes along. Going with the flow has been quite enjoyable for me. Even if it is not the "traditional" way of doing the holiday. I find that happiness I also yearned when I invited both sides of the family and friends. It always turned out ok, but there was always the drunk, etc, etc... but I like this new tradition/change and think I'll stick with it for now.Simply Mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06966845919690118072noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-30981904402868890452011-11-20T12:07:37.562-05:002011-11-20T12:07:37.562-05:00Thank you! I shall set the table and enjoy the mem...Thank you! I shall set the table and enjoy the memories. Whatever "guest" visits, I shall welcome and embrace. With this post you have given more than you can ever know. Blessings to you and yours.DMcClearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07148344130220561113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-30017277007205683842011-11-20T02:10:02.803-05:002011-11-20T02:10:02.803-05:00P.S.
The dishes on your table ... Johnson Brothers...P.S.<br />The dishes on your table ... Johnson Brothers Thanksgiving edition? <br />My old family china is their red/white Historic America edition. I spent two hours today at an antique shop looking for additions to our collection. <br /><br />Love the dishes, Syd.Enchanted Oakhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14815997287116818456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-71961387810217669622011-11-18T08:11:10.727-05:002011-11-18T08:11:10.727-05:00It's not because one of my sons is in Thailand...It's not because one of my sons is in Thailand and the other Connecticut or my daughter will be working in the back of an ambulance as will the wife at her desk on the holidays that i don't particularly think i am missing out on anything...but rather i just have no affinity for any holiday...just another page on the calendar Syd. <br /><br />I am more sorry for your sorrow at things not being as you want them but Norman Rockwell was a realism school painter not a realist.the walking manhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10058913927297370740noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-45932261602295812152011-11-18T07:49:48.060-05:002011-11-18T07:49:48.060-05:00If I had a table set and no one coming I would be ...If I had a table set and no one coming I would be weeping all day long. <br /><br />My daughters and I have decided to go to a movie this thanksgiving. I may cook a small turkey breast and make sandwiches. I am not going to make a big dinner and pretend these are not days when my son is in Afghanistan and my older grandchildren are in the custody of my ex-husband who has taken them to Montana. <br /><br />We will have the best Thanksgiving we can have and not try to pretend it is something else.Mary Christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08156474205414127488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-1195924037816938972011-11-18T05:28:34.402-05:002011-11-18T05:28:34.402-05:00This time of year is hard for me -- although we do...This time of year is hard for me -- although we don't have Thanksgiving out here. I like what Ms Moon said about you and C taking a break. Alone together.Mary LAhttp://louisey.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-58554078656597324892011-11-18T01:55:53.341-05:002011-11-18T01:55:53.341-05:00Am I invited to Pam's too...does y'all mea...Am I invited to Pam's too...does y'all mean all of us? :o) because I am feeling like you Syd. My son will be with his gf's family, I don't know where H will be, both D's mom and mine died this last year, so no g-mas will be around. It will be Molly, Little Lu, Do and I. What fun! Not. So I think we are going on a family hike and I am cooking a simple turkey dinner. <br /><br />Is that really your table? That is beautiful! I should take a picture of mine right now and show you. I have egg cartons stacked up that I am saving for a friend. Lu changed from one set of pajamas to another and at the last minute before bed and left her pair of fuzzy pj pants with monkeys on them laying on the table, there are a couple of amazon boxes stacked up and stacks of school books for Lu. So there. Your table is exquisite and just getting to see it made me smile.Annettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18326425173333184401noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-86294085651687542742011-11-18T00:07:39.520-05:002011-11-18T00:07:39.520-05:00I'm feelin you Syd. How about volunteering to ...I'm feelin you Syd. How about volunteering to serve up a Thanksgiving at a homeless shelter ? I promise you, your day will be joyful:) Give. You are so good at giving. Kris BAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-23881239587611683132011-11-17T22:44:46.058-05:002011-11-17T22:44:46.058-05:00Y'all come to my house!Y'all come to my house!Pammiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00513814300181006348noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-21162437423250991402011-11-17T18:40:56.264-05:002011-11-17T18:40:56.264-05:00I have no family near, and my husband's family...I have no family near, and my husband's family blames me for his death, but I am not feeling sorry about anything. I have been invited to friends' for Thanksgiving (more than one in fact, but I am going to the one where they have been like surrogate family for years) and an annual Thanksgiving open house on the weekend hosted by an Al-Anon mate's in-laws. I have friends who celebrate at the Alano Club every year, whether they have a formal family gathering or not.<br /><br />Show me a Norman Rockwell Family, and I'll just show you a painting. It's only in our minds that such a thing exists.mtpalmshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05319555314883284216noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-81730073186940451182011-11-17T18:16:51.165-05:002011-11-17T18:16:51.165-05:00I experience sadness at Thanksgiving because the b...I experience sadness at Thanksgiving because the busy family gatherings of the past are gone through the attrition of death and loss. With age, a generation is no longer with us. Each year is a reminder of dwindling traditions. <br /><br />It challenges me to find new ways of experiencing thankfulness. When I compare my gold standard to the new, things don't measure up. That tells me that I'm the source of the problem and I need to adopt a new attitude. And that is something I've learned how work on, using the tools given to me in recovery.Enchanted Oakhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14815997287116818456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-72062523229917473032011-11-17T16:27:15.817-05:002011-11-17T16:27:15.817-05:00Expectation run a muck at the holidays. The though...Expectation run a muck at the holidays. The thought that some where someone is having a great time makes us feel bad that we are not.Grace-WorkinProgresshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16386539822343069884noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-20841082892893356402011-11-17T15:18:37.813-05:002011-11-17T15:18:37.813-05:00What SHOULD Thanksgiving be? The holidays are tou...What SHOULD Thanksgiving be? The holidays are tough for those of us remembering the drunken fights after dinner. God knows I remember them well. I've found joy in the holiday when it is just me and my son. Husband decided we were too boring for him. The bar was WAY more fun. I find my happiness within myself. :) Come to my house Syd and C. I'd love to have you. Life is much better here now. :)happygirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16554653800961247808noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-59897752357849670502011-11-17T14:06:34.514-05:002011-11-17T14:06:34.514-05:00You and C should take the boat out and have Thanks...You and C should take the boat out and have Thanksgiving by yourselves on the water. Thinking of you....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-71008359276333787822011-11-17T14:04:18.035-05:002011-11-17T14:04:18.035-05:00This year at Christmas, we're having dinner wi...This year at Christmas, we're having dinner with a bunch of newly sober men. I like the idea of sharing our home and our turkey with fellow travellers in 12-Step.TAAAFhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03607602088454891329noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-4162859358459877112011-11-17T11:25:12.203-05:002011-11-17T11:25:12.203-05:00do you have ant AA or Al-anon "orphans" ...do you have ant AA or Al-anon "orphans" you can spend thanksgiving with? like we're having comedy orphans? I find if we look hard enough there are people out there who want to spend time with us.<br />hope your holiday is not too down. wish you could be here.Anybethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01193999238104640590noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-2926109144093645542011-11-17T11:08:08.123-05:002011-11-17T11:08:08.123-05:00Thanks for your post. The Holidays are often chall...Thanks for your post. The Holidays are often challenging for me. My husband goes into working triple. I have begun a gratitude list each morning <br />to shake up my world!Di-Githttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10770400058372063740noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-61169439170425098412011-11-17T10:56:13.896-05:002011-11-17T10:56:13.896-05:00I dislike Thanksgiving--all the overeating and foo...I dislike Thanksgiving--all the overeating and football. Not my thing. I'm going to Canada over the holiday, it's not Thanksgiving there.Louhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09496172669599418214noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-76886988898037184302011-11-17T10:52:53.077-05:002011-11-17T10:52:53.077-05:00man sorry you are down right now syd...dont let yo...man sorry you are down right now syd...dont let yourself stay there...much to be thankful for even in the hard times...Brian Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00722940075884718007noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-77364337024948847142011-11-17T10:44:51.640-05:002011-11-17T10:44:51.640-05:00Remember, Syd....one day at a time. Its not Thanks...Remember, Syd....one day at a time. Its not Thanksgiving day yet. I learned many years ago when thanksgiving day wasnt going to be what I wanted, or what it used to be, when Jacksons father had left us, that some years, Thanksgiving day just has to be another Thursday.<br /><br />Maybe try to accept a new tradition this year...thanksgiving breakfast for just you and the lovely C? at the beautiful table you have set.....just a thought. Hang in there, this too shall pass.Christinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05683458543699000110noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-57622638175094136842011-11-17T10:19:02.190-05:002011-11-17T10:19:02.190-05:00I guess that change is hard to accept sometime. I...I guess that change is hard to accept sometime. I look at this stuff as the evolution of life as I know it. Nothing stays the same.<br /><br />Acceptance is the answer to all of my problems today.dAAvehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10378341182741173178noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-13766395176458773172011-11-17T10:11:14.561-05:002011-11-17T10:11:14.561-05:00I think that you and your wife SHOULD take off for...I think that you and your wife SHOULD take off for Christmas. Break all the rules and traditions and go be somewhere together alone. <br />Why not, Syd? Why not?Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.com