tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post8997190385923151496..comments2024-02-05T11:32:25.407-05:00Comments on I'm just F.I.N.E.-- Recovery in Al-Anon: IntimacyUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-31334970419722511432012-08-09T20:57:59.512-04:002012-08-09T20:57:59.512-04:00Ahh the magic of the water... love it! I saw this ...Ahh the magic of the water... love it! I saw this photo the other day and it made me smile! <br /><br />Intimacy is so important in a relationship on many levels. Glad you had a good weekend.Simply Mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06966845919690118072noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-61680449399092788742012-08-07T03:42:30.811-04:002012-08-07T03:42:30.811-04:00That lack of intimacy is what made me finally give...That lack of intimacy is what made me finally give up on a 17-year marriage.TAAAFhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03607602088454891329noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-82972434651826771182012-08-07T02:30:14.341-04:002012-08-07T02:30:14.341-04:00Glad you are out on the water enjoying yourself. B...Glad you are out on the water enjoying yourself. Being more present for my life I can enjoy simple moments like walking along the ocean.<br />Self pity in the past robbed me of of my serenityDi-Githttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10770400058372063740noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-2476614515662210852012-08-07T00:21:46.498-04:002012-08-07T00:21:46.498-04:00I love the picture too, Syd. Always good to hear t...I love the picture too, Syd. Always good to hear that healing from the past is possible and that newness can be restored. Great example of how it works. Like I think of the double amputee athlete running in the Olympics...someone has to show us how.Let Go, Let Godhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02734821434596510493noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-54900993387602952612012-08-06T23:45:38.882-04:002012-08-06T23:45:38.882-04:00Letting go of the past is where it all begins. Tha...Letting go of the past is where it all begins. Thanks for sharing this.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-56025412159422722402012-08-06T18:31:27.012-04:002012-08-06T18:31:27.012-04:00There is nothing intimate about a drunk. With or w...There is nothing intimate about a drunk. With or without sex, it's awful to be around someone who thinks slobbering all over you is romantic. Or in the case of a woman, withdrawing, throwing up, or whatever. It's a turn off no matter if its a male or female.<br /><br />One aspect of a successful marriage is asking for want you want and need. It took me a couple years before I was able to say "I can't stand you drunk. It's me or the bottle." Some 30 years later he is glad he chose me (at least that what he says!)luluberoohttp://justtobeisablessing.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-64953451190548871142012-08-06T15:15:48.000-04:002012-08-06T15:15:48.000-04:00Feels like you have been reading my mind from the ...Feels like you have been reading my mind from the weekend. To all the emotions you've described, add anger at myself for feeling repelled by the alcoholic's advances. Thank you for helping me realize I am not out here alone with these feelings!<br /><br />A grateful lurker who appreciates your blogAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-65116922963776393702012-08-06T12:44:38.895-04:002012-08-06T12:44:38.895-04:00I never enjoyed drunken intimacy. It was forced, ...I never enjoyed drunken intimacy. It was forced, by him. I used to lock myself in another room. I would kinda hope he'd fall down the stairs. I'm glad I don't think about this anymore.happygirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16554653800961247808noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-60091176618643636772012-08-06T01:01:33.036-04:002012-08-06T01:01:33.036-04:00Such a bitter-sweet read Syd --that intimacy in sa...Such a bitter-sweet read Syd --that intimacy in sadness. What sobriety offers us --Mary LAhttp://louisey.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-66134771180810496642012-08-05T21:25:41.635-04:002012-08-05T21:25:41.635-04:00Thank you for this. I'm sure it is hard to pos...Thank you for this. I'm sure it is hard to post something so personal, but it helps those of us who are struggling with it. Intimacy with someone whose drinking bothers you is so hard, so confusing, so emotional...so many things when all you want it to be is a wonderful expression of love. We're really struggling with this, and now I don't feel so alone in this struggle.aec5940https://www.blogger.com/profile/02765584992448952912noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-26913886387587513062012-08-05T19:40:26.293-04:002012-08-05T19:40:26.293-04:00i am glad that you have been able to maintain that...i am glad that you have been able to maintain that intimacy...it is hugely important in our lives..and in our health...and relationships...glad it was a restorative weekend for you as well....Brian Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00722940075884718007noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-61706837302208809622012-08-05T17:02:09.373-04:002012-08-05T17:02:09.373-04:00Oh I love that picture! lolOh I love that picture! lolAnnettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18326425173333184401noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-68963555745918005422012-08-05T13:31:42.140-04:002012-08-05T13:31:42.140-04:00You have no idea how much this post means to me. I...You have no idea how much this post means to me. I am happy that you can still find intimacy in your relationship. I am having a really hard time with that right now and have been trying to explain to my husband what is missing. I am not talking about sex. I am talking about a connection between a man and a woman emotionally. We are really struggling with that right now.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904990175885851041.post-47526089616928192492012-08-05T13:14:51.636-04:002012-08-05T13:14:51.636-04:00I love the picture, Syd.
I can relate to the noct...I love the picture, Syd.<br /><br />I can relate to the nocturnal booziness. My ex husband, who has no desire to quit drinking would come to bed reeking of alcohol. Me, the sober person, would be insulted, nauseated, and angry. It go to the point where we were sleeping in separate rooms.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com