When I first started coming to meetings, I thought that the traditions were boring and sounded too much like bureaucratic meanderings. I hadn't studied the traditions and didn't really understand how they applied not only to the fellowship but to my life as well.
Take Tradition Ten as an example: The Alanon Family Groups have no opinion on outside issues; hence our name ought never be drawn into public controversy.
I can see that without this tradition there would be discussions on religion, politics, therapy programs, and much more. Two of the things that seem to create strong opinions are religion and politics. If Tradition Ten weren't in place, then meetings could dissolve into conflict over differing opinions instead of keeping the focus on alcoholism.
In my own life, I need to be mindful of what Tradition Ten has to offer in the way of guidelines for not allowing my opinions on issues to cause conflict with others. I do have opinions on many things and a tendency to express those opinions when the subjects come up. In the past, I've wanted to carry my point in discussions. Now I realize that my opinions are just that, opinions. They should have no bearing on my group or on my program and how I relate to other people. I try to not let differences of opinion become divisive in relationships with family and friends. For me, I need to be accepting of what others think. I may not always agree but they have a right to their opinion just as I do.
It has become obvious to me that in meetings we have to put differences aside and strive to find the commonality in all of us. If I'm mindful that I can't solve another's problems or give them advice then I'm taking into account Tradition Ten. I simply need to focus on my own issues and limit my own sharing to my own experience strenght and hope.