Yesterday's news

Among some of my friends, we have discussed the vote in NC to ban marriage between two members of the same sex by specifying that a legal union or marriage can only be between a man and woman in the state. The law will also make it impossible for so-called “civil unions” that can afford some legal rights to gay partners, even if it does not carry the same religious and traditional connotations that being “married” would entail.

I'm not going to debate what happened in yesterday's news.  Suffice to say that most of my friends are liberal and are in favor of equal opportunity in marriage.  But I've also been around some people who are so vehemently opposed to the idea, based on their Christian beliefs, that they become angry when anyone voices a differing opinion.

The other night we talked about Concept 5 in Al-Anon: The rights of appeal and petition protect minorities and insure that they be heard.  I have seen how this concept works in meetings in which each person can feel free to express an opinion without fear of being shouted down.  We sort things out through a civilized discourse and follow the group conscience.

I also like to apply the traditions and concepts in my life outside of meetings. I believe in civilized and spirited discussions.  But when intolerance and bigoted fear causes people to shut their ears and open their mouths to shout, I am taken aback.

I did some reading and found that Bill Wilson, co-founder of AA,  believed in the minority being heard.  He quoted a French nobleman, De Touquerville who visited North America to witness the new Republic. As noted by Wilson, the nobleman expressed that, “the greatest threat to democracy would always be the tyranny of apathetic, self-seeking, uninformed or angry majorities. Only a truly dedicated citizenry, willing to protect and conserve minority rights and opinion, could guarantee the existence of a free and democratic society.”

I know that my opinion is not universally upheld.  I'm okay with that.  But I like the idea of being able to express my opinion.  I don't want to be bullied in a discussion or hesitant to speak because I fear an angry majority/minority may ridicule or judge me.

My further reading in the literature about the history of AA tells of a time when the World Service Conference had to decide if gay meetings could be so identified in AA directories.  Barry L. described the mood of that 1974 conference as being "dead-set against the idea. Remember that.... gay men and women were spoken of as deviants".  He recalled that:  “The discussion in 1974 went back and forth, back and forth for two days and two nights. Much of the agenda was whipped out. I remember one man saying, 'I guess if this year you list the sex deviants, next year you’ll list the rapist AA groups'."

Then, "a delightful woman from one of the northern States or maybe Canada, standing about three feet tall, came to the middle microphone and pulled it down to her face and said, ‘Where I come from alcoholics are considered deviants.’  The chairman astutely saw that the mood of the floor had changed and he asked if anyone wanted to call the question. The vote was cast and only two delegates voted against the gay and lesbian groups; it was almost unanimous, 129 votes to two.”

So the words of the minority can sometimes change the minds of others.  Or at the very least, help to open the ears and even the hearts so that a healthy debate can occur.  As Bill W. wrote: "The well-heard minority, therefore, is our chief protection against a, misinformed, hasty or angry majority.”

I am mindful more than ever of this concept in my daily life.  I can remember work meetings where people would become so tyrannical about a point that the table would be pounded and one fellow fell over backwards in his chair out of anger.  Life isn't like an Al-Anon meeting.  But more and more,  I see that I don't need to be fearful of ridicule or judgement when I stand up and express a minority opinion.

Lifted up

I had a really uplifting day.  We went out in the john boat (which is an aluminum flat bottom boat made for fishing the shallow creeks around here) just after the sun rose.  We trolled along a shell bank on the way to our "honey hole" and hooked a spotted sea trout.

Then we got to The Spot on the first of the ebb tide.  There were large spot tail bass just rolling in the mouth of the creek.  We caught three that were around 6 pounds before the dropping tide made us move to a deeper location nearby.  We continued to catch nice fish through the dropping tide.  In total, we caught 7 nice spot tails, releasing all of our catch after getting the hook out of the lip.  The fun is in letting them go back to the others and say, "Hey, you know what.  I had a terrible adventure but survived. There are things out there that look like something good to eat, but actually they carry sharp points that stick in the lip.  Then you get pulled on and eventually lifted out of the water. So beware."

The morning on the water was just what I needed.  The clapper rails were making their raucous noise, the oyster catchers were walking about on their stilted legs, and the sun was warm on our backs.  The oyster reefs were exposed so we continued to fish the deeper holes.  We ended up with 7 spot tail bass for the morning.  Not bad since we were having a good time regardless.

After we got home from fishing and got the boat cleaned up,  I drove to the boat yard to check on Sojourner.  The final painting of the cove and boot stripes will be done this week.  And her name will be put on the stern along with the hailing port. We are getting close to being done at the boat yard.  It seems that it has taken a long time to get this done, but actually it hasn't been but three weeks. Anyway,  more on the boat moving journey to the marina when that occurs.

Tonight I went to the study group meeting in which we finished up Tradition 12.  We have gone through the 12 steps and 12 traditions in Paths to Recovery and will be starting on the 12 Concepts of Service next week.  I am pleased that we have had a core group of 5 that have stuck with this study.  We used to have more people but once we finished the steps and moved to the traditions, people kind of drifted away.  I think that this is the only group in two Districts that is studying the Concepts.  I may do some posts on the concepts in the future.

So for today, I feel a renewal of energy.  Maybe what I needed was a morning in the salt air, a look at my new boat, and a meeting to get me recharged.  I am not giving up blogging by the way. I simply want to write something that has some connection to life in recovery.  I will strive to do that, although I know that I will throw in some of life's adventures as well.  After all, that is also a part of recovery.