Wednesday, May 21, 2008
I’ve been to meetings lately where there have been quite a few newcomers. They are in a lot of pain from living with an active alcoholic.
At last night’s meeting there was a young lady there whose boyfriend had left her on Friday. As she described it, he left and hasn’t contacted her since. She has called him numerous times but he doesn’t answer his cell phone. She said that she wants to know why—Why did he leave without saying goodbye? Why did he tell her he loved her and then leave? Why won’t he answer his phone and talk to her?
These are questions that many of us have asked at one time or another. After the meeting, all we could offer to her was that he is probably using and absorbed in his addiction. We tried to assure her that it’s not her fault. And we gave her phone numbers and took hers to offer our E, S, and H.
This girl is so young to be feeling sad and hopeless. I think about her having so much to look forward to, but she has become involved with a person who cares more about himself and his drugs/booze than about her. Hopefully, she’ll be able to understand more about how powerless she is over another person. I hope that she keeps coming back.