For the last couple of weeks, I've been talking to a colleague at work about some issues he has been having in his life. He and I share a lot of similar feelings and patterns when it comes to expectations in relationships.
I have been hesitant to mention my affiliation with Al-Anon to anyone at work; however, it has become clear to me that he is in a lot of pain. So last week, I shared some of my story with him.
I told him that I had found a way out of the despair. I had used a handful of simple principles to unravel a lot of my problems.
His interest was sparked. And I was willing to listen and share how I was working on my own recovery. We have done a lot of talking. I gave him a meeting list.
Last Friday night, he showed up at a meeting. He shared about his despair and his desire to break the patterns that have been destructive for himself and others. And yesterday, we went together to an open AA meeting and then to my home group meeting. I can see that he has a hunger for what the program has to offer. In fact, I see myself in him.
This is what is great about the program. This is the philosophy of the Twelfth Step made manifest. And for me, it is what keeps the program self-regenerative.
I am glad that he is willing to reach out. I hope that he gets peace of mind and serenity. I don't think that he will be a window shopper in the program who will go away without buying it. Rather I see the desire that I had to raid the store for everything I could find and then ask to see what's in the back room.
Whatever happens, I can give it away and let go. I can turn it over and keep coming back myself. This program is my choice. Someone else attracted me, and I have stayed. I believe that is my HP's will for me.