Saturday, April 17, 2010

Thousand fold Saturday

It is another glorious morning in paradise.  The photo above is the road that leads to our farm.  The trees have leafed out in a thousand hues of green.  I feel myself unfolding and opening up like a newly formed leaf.  All the week's hectic schedule and late nights are behind me, and Saturday magic has taken over.

I am fortunate to be with my life's partner.  I am fortunate to love and be loved.  I am fortunate that we have made something out of the wreckage that alcoholism wrought.  It wasn't easy.  It required us to let go of what we thought a relationship was and formulate something different.  And in doing so, we gained much more than we had before.

I am glad that we didn't give up on each other.  I remember in graduate school there were those who told me that C and I didn't belong together. We were too different. She was too messed up.  I was too structured.  She was exciting.  I was too captivated. And the litany of advice and negative input went on and on.  Maybe we were star crossed lovers.  But sometime over these years, we found a love that is based on committment. We have had our bad times.  But today we recognize that we fit each other in ways that the nay sayers would not have guessed.

Love is an evolutionary process.  It morphs over time.  And we are fortunate that ours has morphed into something that has many hues, just like the spring leaves that delight me on this Saturday morning.

28 comments:

  1. what an amazing morning walk. wow, thanks for taking the time to write this down and share this beautiful like with us in cyber space.

    i need to post my garden pics, the neighbors dogs came in from under the fences and ran through and uprooted half my garden, it is so barren looking right now but my soil is dark and beautiful and just waiting to grow!!

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  2. I love when you write about Mrs. Syd. It gives this incurable romantic hope that real romance does exist.

    That road looks lovely. Very much like Frosts, it made all the difference, no?
    Happy weekend.

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  3. Well-said truths there, buddy.
    I'd say you were lucky but I have a strong feeling that a whole lifetime of work has gone into making this goodness.

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  4. In giving up what I thought I wanted, I was given exactly what I needed. That is how it works for me but boy, oh, boy...that letting go can be a hard lesson to learn for me. I'm glad I learned it.

    Enjoy your spontaneity!

    ♥namaste♥

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  5. ' It required us to let go of what we thought a relationship was and formulate something different.'

    Impressive. to this day, letting go of my old ideas is incredibly difficult. I always have resistance. Fixed ideas of any kind just seem to create suffering. I need to 'let go' in all my affairs.. not easy!

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  6. Glad you're feeling better today! The road is lovely!

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  7. To be a romantic and sober... it's enlightning isn't it? Nothing ever looks the same when looking through eyes of absolute sobriety. Beautiful post & picture. Have a great weekend Syd and Mrs. Syd!! Tammy

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  8. And I know you truly appreciate every one of those thousand fold. One at a time.

    Blessings and aloha...

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  9. Wow, I didn't realize that you had been together that long, that's amazing with or without 'the disease'.

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  10. How beautiful, romantic, and down to earth this description is of the love that has grown between you and your wife...like a poem.

    PG

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  11. amazing what life brings us sometimes.

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  12. Love that road to serenity above!

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  13. That was absolutely beautiful. Thank you.

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  14. You're a very talented photographer, Syd! And this is a very touching post on your marriage. When a relationship ends up surviving and thriving in recovery, it seems like there is nothing more beautiful (except the relationship with our HPs). Thanks for sharing your joy.

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  15. I love it when you talk about your wife.

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  16. You and C. sounds a lot like us. I always said he slowed me down a bit while I livened things up for him. We are constantly letting go of what we think our relationship is because it seems to be ever-changing. What a ride!

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  17. Beutiful place that Syd, Spring here in the UK and feel the season of rebirth here.
    I am glad you are in such and strong and loving relationship

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  18. I am seeing the same thing in my relationship with my wife...

    we've been together nearly 11 years, married nearly 5 and things just continue to evolve slowly. Thankfully we're sticking through thedifficulties and continuing to love each other.

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  19. what a beautiful description and lovely reflection!

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  20. It's good to ignore those who think they know what is best for you. I'm glad you carried on with your relationship.

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  21. Just as recovery is a process, so is love in my opinion. Working through the tough times and remaining committed and true to the promises makes each person stronger and then so is the relationship. So glad you and C are happy and well.

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  22. omg what a sweet post Syd..geesh.
    you never cease to amaze your readings with the diverse topics and
    images here :) thank you for sharing!

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  23. WOW...every time you post a photo of your part of the world I want to be THERE. It's on my "bucket list".

    Very encouraging comments about your partnership! Thanks, Syd.

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  24. I appreciate your honesty. My partner and I also were told our relationship would never work. We have been married over 28 years since college. Guess something worked out after all...

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  25. We are bombarded with messages of what love should be from films and TV etc. and it's a limited story. Far more interesting to me are the relationships that have caused so much pain, worry and trouble and have made it through, because it is possible. To see the rewards of hard work rather than walk away is priceless. I love the story of the man who was so jealous he got someone to throw acid in his partners face. She stayed with him and they are very old and together. Its not conventional or in anyway desirable but it is love and commitment and they have made the best of their human failings . (I think she has spent the past 40 years bossing him about. Maybe she puts salt in his coffee). :)

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  26. Such a moving and hopeful journey Syd.

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  27. Beautiful Post!

    "It required us to let go of what we thought a relationship was and formulate something different." Amen!

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