Thursday, May 27, 2010
Stop looking out and start looking in
I thought that I had the answers to how everyone should behave in every situation and felt very self-righteous when they didn’t follow my rules of conduct. Well, needless to say, this attitude met with a lot of resistance from others. And then I would get angry because no one really appreciated what I was doing.
One of the promises of the program that has come true for me is that I have found acceptance. I have learned to mind my own business and not that of others. It is clear to me now that I don't have the answers for other people. I cannot make the rules for the behavior of others or any facet of their life. I no longer find myself getting caught up in what they should or should not do. If I do start to follow that train of thought, then I am losing my humility. I have also ceased to pay attention to myself. Nine times out of ten, I am focusing on someone else to avoid looking at something in my own life. Generally, for me it is fear that is raising its head. I know that I generally relate to others better when I allow them to be exactly as they are and keep focusing on what I'm doing.
This program is teaching me is to stop looking out and start looking in.