We had an argument last night. It was one of those unimportant nonsensical ones that arise because one person feels irritated by the other. One person lays the bait and the other one bites and gets hooked. Feelings are hurt.
I used to swallow the bait and get hooked all the way deep in my gut. But last night I simply walked out, got in my car and went for a drive. I didn't storm out and did not argue back.
I drove to the boat and snapped the photo of the sunset over the city. After about an hour I got a call from C. asking if I would come home. I did. And after we hugged, she said "Let's start our day over. Can we do that?"
That is one of the great things about recovery. We don't have to hold onto grievances, nor do we have to stay angry. We can start the day over even as the sun is setting.