Thursday, February 24, 2011

Acknowledging Fear

Tomorrow morning the surgeons will do their job to bypass the blocked vessels and restore blood flow to C.'s heart.  She is my heart, so I hope that they do a good job.  I have had a few moments of fear today.  But when I feel its fingers worming their way into my head, I say the Serenity Prayer which has been a mantra since I began recovery.  I realize that what happens is beyond my control. 

Today there was a stream of visitors coming to see her.  Colleagues from work,  fellow AA members, and her parents stopped by.  She was tired at the end of the afternoon.  I have had calls from Al-Anon members and that has helped me as well.  Your comments are most appreciated.  Thank you for thinking of us. People want to know what they can do.  Just sending positive thoughts and knowing that people care is good right now. 

I am planning to unload a pick up truck load of mulch and enriched soil for the garden over the next couple of days.  It helps me to stay busy. And it is time to plant potatoes and take care of the plants in the green house.  I know that C. would be sad if her beloved garden was not ready.  

I sat with my feelings today.  I acknowledged my fear.  I am not going to dwell on "why" or "what if".  I am doing what I know how to do--staying positive.

27 comments:

  1. yep. Fear is a real feeling. I can't imagine how I would feel in your shoes. I'm praying for complete recovery. I just "met" you in this trying time. Trust and I hope you feel the positive thoughts from just a little north of your beloved low country.

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  2. I am lighting a candle RIGHT NOW. It is one of the ways I make thoughts and wishes visible.
    Now. Lighting it.
    And keep your hands in the dirt and your heart at peace.

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  3. When you feel alone don't be shocked if feel all of hands on your shoulders.

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  4. Continuing positive thoughts for C and you Syd.

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  5. Positive vibes and love coming sent to you and C. Prayers on the smoke each and every day. (Hugs)Indigo

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  6. stay positive syd...praying for both of you....

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  7. Syd,I will Keep C and you in my Prayers. staying positive is the only course we all can take. the whys and what ifs do not help us in our recovery.

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  8. prayers and good thoughts always sent your way. and yes plant the garden it will help

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  9. Syd, ((HUG)) I am praying for both you and C.

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  10. When fear is my primary emotion, any physical action is better for me, than sitting fretting. Take care, and know we are all praying for you both.

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  11. "Absolute faith is placed in a man's inner being. For whatever authority there is in Zen, all comes from within."

    Glad to hear C is in good hands in the hospital.
    Hope you get your garden in order before she returns home.

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  12. busy helps... i'm thinking of you both!

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  13. My beloved older brother, at 57, was just diagnosed with aggressive early-onset Alzheimer's and severe cerebral atrophy, and his wife of 10 years has turned all her rage on me and on his daughter for absolutely no rational reason. I'm afraid and heartbroken, and completely powerless.
    Such things drive a person to his or her knees. That's exactly where we need to be. Once the prayers are said, we need to get up and do the next indicated thing, whether it be unloading a pickup truck or doing step work with a sponsee (that was my activity this afternoon). My brother and your C are in the hands of the Man who stilled the water. So am I and you and all the rest of God's children. I'm joining the rest of your friends in prayer for your good wife and you.

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  14. You are both in my thoughts and there is a candle burning in the study.

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  15. You will both be in my thoughts and prayers today. I am sure that the surgeons will do an excellent job and will give C a new lease of life and vitality. Your serene and positive outlook is, as always, an inspiration to me.

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  16. You and your wife are in my thoughts and prayers.

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  17. There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment.

    Just love Syd.

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  18. Sending positive thoughts. Sent.

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  19. My prayers are with you and C.

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  20. Sending light, prayers and positive energy to you and C.

    Monica

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  21. All my prayers.

    rwf

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  22. I am glad you are staying positive, buddy. You have good reason to do so, since C. is at such a good cardiac facility.

    I have been thinking of the two of you a lot. I love you very much. You are dear to me.

    SB

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  23. My best hopes for you and "C". I feel like I know you, and I know many folks will be pulling for you.

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