Monday, February 14, 2011

Hearts

"When we first fall in love, the powerful force of possibility grips us and pulls us along deeper and deeper into the days. When first shaping the bonds of love, we look at each other with incredible freshness and appreciate who is before us...... Inevitably, though, as we grow intimate, we begin to lose sight of each other, and there comes a day when we no longer see our loved one as others do. Now we see inside of their face, up close. Now we swim in each other like a mysterious river in which we sometimes see ourselves, and sometimes soothe ourselves, and sometimes drink of each other. Eventually, we climb into the painting we once stared at with our pounding heart, and from inside the painting, we can forget there ever was such a painting. This is how we can take each other for granted. This is how we can imagine that the magic is gone. But, as the reward for being drawn to the sea is to swim with the waves, the reward for being drawn into the depth of another is to feel each other rather than to see each other." from The Book of Awakening by Mark Nepo.
We spent time this morning just holding each other.  We do that a lot, not just on Valentine's Day.  A closeness that is so intimate.  It isn't the fevered pitch of the first time that we touched each other.  It is comfort, passion, compassion, joy and acceptance all rolled together.  I call the feeling love. 

I surely have had those moments when I didn't want to see or feel the person that I love.  Feelings may have ebbs and flows.  Yet love remained constant,  strongly pulling us to each other.  Even after arguments, love meant that we could forgive, let go of what happened yesterday and move to where we are today.  I know that I do see and feel the person I love. I don't have pretend fantasies any more. We know each other so well.  I also cannot imagine life without her.  I'm grateful for sharing the days that we've had together.  I don't think that it was by accident that we were attracted to each other.

I see all those things.  I see us progressing in years.  I see us growing old together.  And I love what I see.  She will be my love today as she has been since we first met. 

14 comments:

  1. A fine posting indeed!I feel the same way about Celestine.

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  2. man Syd... wow...

    My wife and I are reading that Nepo book as well. We're reconstructing a neglected marriage a day at a time.

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  3. So beautiful and so well put, it makes me want to try this attitude on.. with my husband of nearly 23 years...
    You make growing old together seem an adventure.. of the most serene kind...

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  4. Im sure you and C knew each other in a former life. Ajahan Brahm says in his talks on rebirth that you do tend to meet partners from past lives in subsequent incarnations..
    Hope you and C have a lovely day :)
    http://www.dhammaloka.org.au/component/k2/item/509-the-process-of-rebirth.html
    http://www.dhammaloka.org.au/component/k2/item/280-kamma-and-rebirth.html
    http://www.dhammaloka.org.au/component/k2/item/235-rebirth-including-questions-and-answers.html
    http://www.dhammaloka.org.au/component/k2/item/85-rebirth.html

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  5. lovely syd...sounds like you started the day off right and have an incrdible future ahead of you...smiles.

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  6. Happy Valentine's Day...in love! (beautifully chosen quote)

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  7. Snow on the roof fire in the furnace and a god insulation job is what it sounds like to me.

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  8. What a wonderful love letter to your wife. You both are living proof that love does bind. I was wondering the other day how I cannot tell where I end and where my husband begins now. Not in a bad way but in a way that I understand the way that "the two become one" way. Quiet, deep, passionate love is what we know now. Cuddling is better than wild monkey sex now, for me. :-D

    ♥namaste♥

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  9. This is a beautiful post, Syd. I am glad you two found each other.

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  10. Glad your love has grown for you in marriage.

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  11. Exactly as I feel, Syd about my love. Thank-you.

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