It has been an astonishingly beautiful weekend with cool temperatures, just right for snuggling in the morning. We have lazed around, fixed breakfast, taken naps, and not done much that is productive.
Last night, we stayed with C.'s dad so that the live-in caregivers, Elias and Karin, could have the night off to go to dinner. My mother-in-law is back in the hospital after fainting on Friday. It may be a blood pressure problem, but she is staying in the hospital until they figure out what is wrong. My father-in-law griped about the doctors, especially the female physician his wife sees. He thinks that she doesn't do her job, is not giving good care, and so on. My wife sees the same doctor and has a completely different opinion, finding her caring, attentive, and skilled. Perceptions can be so different, depending upon what filter we are viewing others through.
Some studies have shown that those who describe others in a positive way are indeed more positive and happier themselves. The tendency to describe people negatively is a sign of depression and other mental health issues. I have decided that it is much easier for me to be around those who have a happy outlook. I don't want to spend a lot of time with someone who is downing others.
I see myself as a person who has a positive outlook about people and life. I have been a "glass is half full" person as far back as I can remember. Even at times in life when things weren't good, I had hope that the next day would be better. Early in recovery, I sometimes had to try to quiet my mind from negative thinking and panic for just 15 minutes. My fear was getting out of control.
Gradually though, my perceptions have changed. I don't feel as gripped by fear now. I wish that I could help others to see that perceptions can be so distorted, tricking us into thinking the worst about people and situations. But I can only do my part to keep myself on the optimistic path and continue to be around those who exude some positive energy.