My mother-in-law, on the other hand, says some outlandish things which actually turn out to be funny. She had us and the caregivers in stitches with her comments that came out of left field. I'm not sure that all of it is real, because one moment she can hear things perfectly well and make total sense and the next minute she can't hear and says things that are totally out of context. But nonetheless, she laughs about it all. Here are some of the funny things she said:
"I have selective hearing and sift through what I want to hear. Sometimes my sifting needs some work around certain people."
"If you aren't good, I'm going to pull your toenails out."
"I want to go home and if you don't let me, I'm going to have to get my gun."
"I remember giving birth to both of you and you were a pain."
Actually, most of this makes perfect sense to me. Being around them now that all the pretenses have been dropped has helped me to see them in a new light.
Tonight, my home group meets. We are celebrating the 21st. anniversary of one of the members. That's a long time. Here is what the card says:
Help me to.......
Cultivate the habit of happiness.
Believe that I am good.
Appreciate the wonders of life.
Nurture my emotional and spiritual growth.
Say good-bye to the past.
Give myself credit for what I have to offer.
Make enthusiasm a daily exercise.
Let love change the course of my world.
Every day, something new comes up that helps me to see life a bit clearer. All the agonizing over so much minor stuff when I was younger, when I began my career, when we were first married--it all comes down to being real and authentic in life now. And if that means that I don't meet the expectations of others as to how I "should" be, then so be it. As long as I can be my authentic self, with full recognition of my own shortcomings, then I am okay.