The confusion may be relating to the levels of ammonia building up in his brain. So he is being given lactulose to try and remedy that condition. Cirrhosis of the liver inhibits removal of ammonia, a byproduct of protein breakdown, which then builds up and causes confusion.
My wife has not gone to see her father yet. She says that she simply isn't ready to see him. Today she flew to DC to pick up a lifetime achievement award for her scientific work. I talked to her a few minutes ago, and she said that it was a nice ceremony. I know that she needed this break for just a couple of days to see colleagues, friends, and former students. She also said that she wants to see her dad when she gets back. I think that will be a good idea.
I know that each of us has to deal with uncomfortable situations in our own time. I know that I want her to visit her dad. But I won't tell her what to do. I would like for her to have a sponsor. I feel strongly that having a sponsor is important in recovery. But how she works her program is not my business.
It's good that I have learned to keep my mouth shut, even when sometimes I have to bite my tongue hard. It is so tempting to direct the lives of others. Allowing her to make the choices that she wants without interference from me keeps us on good terms with each other. It allows her to figure out what works without my interference. And that makes life a lot easier.