Anyone who regularly goes to AA or Al-Anon meetings has heard about having a sponsor, someone who will work with you and guide you through the 12 steps. I think that it's a good idea to have a sponsor because they are not only your friend and confidante but have been in the program for a long time and have gathered a lot of wisdom over those years.
Yesterday when I was feeling down, I called my sponsor, A., and expressed how tired I felt. My sponsor thought that I needed to get to a meeting but I was just too beat to make the drive. I knew that it would have helped me to go but instead I just talked to A. for a while and got some good feedback.
I think that it's important to find a sponsor that you can relate to. A. is very similar to my personality and is thoughtful but not demanding. We have a friendship, and I always know who to call when I just want to feel some serenity. Maybe some people would want to have someone who dominated and was parental but that is far from what I like in a person. I want to listen and think about what A. says and then sift through to reach my own conclusions. I know that I don't want someone pushing or controlling me.
I am grateful to have someone to turn to who knows the path that I've been down and who knows how to get out of the mire of self-pity, resentment, and insanity.