I also read about some very basic ideas on self confidence that can help me get away from self pity:
-Open your heart to someone (Step Five) and through trusting you will build self-confidence. If I cannot accept myself as being human, how can I ever accept and trust others? If I cannot accept and trust others, how can I respect and love them? If I cannot respect and love others, how can they respect and love me?
-Keep a positive attitude about people and situations.
-Be compassionate towards others
-Accept that life is not perfect and neither am I. If I let the fear of making mistakes control my life, I could not do anything at all but lead a completely useless life.
-Give up unrealistic expectations of myself and others
-Take action in order to improve. Self-confidence comes from being challenged to one's limits, meeting them and then setting new limits
-Remember that the dark times don't last and will go away
-Maintain a sense of humor and don't take myself too seriously
-Make a positive commitment that I can keep
-Spirituality is going beyond our self and self-interested focusing, it requires courage, independence, faith in our own potential as a human being.
" Let me not pray to be sheltered from dangers,
but to be fearless in facing them.
Let me not beg for the stilling of my pain,
but for the heart to conquer it.
Let me not crave in anxious fear to be saved,
but for the patience to win my freedom."
A protector for those without protection
A guide for those who have lost their way
A ship for those with oceans to cross
A bridge for those with rivers to cross
A sanctuary for those in danger
A lamp for those without light
A place of refuge for those who lack shelter
And a servant to all in need."
His Holiness the 14th Dalai Lama