I talked to him today and said that I'd like to drop by to wish him a Merry Christmas and drop off a gift from my wife and me. He said that he didn't get us anything this year because he was "cutting back" and to not feel "obligated" to bring him anything. I explained that we didn't feel obligated but wanted to bring him something. After inventorying my feelings, I decided that it was time to make amends and just accept whatever comes from doing that. My amends basically are that I expected too much from the friendship and am sorry that I did so. My expectations were that the friendship would weather the stormy period of the last year. Now I realize that the friendship isn't the same as it once was which I'm okay with. I'm also okay with whatever he has to say to me. It's just time to make peace with myself.
It feels right to be doing this. I was wondering when the time would feel right. It will be a relief to me.