Wednesday, December 5, 2007
The person who brought the topic talked about being grateful that his son who is an addict and an alcoholic showed up for Thanksgiving. The son is in the process of wandering around the country by hopping freight trains. He showed up for Thanksgiving with a couple of friends who were described as "having enough metal pierced in their faces to look like a Cadillac grille". The son was sporting a stand up Mohawk. Evidently, no one had bathed in over a month.
The dad who led the meeting said that he was just grateful to have his son home. He did ask them if they wanted to shower and was grateful that they decided to do so. He was glad that his son and his friends had Thanksgiving at home, and were comfortable sharing the food with some elderly relatives who were conservative and born again.
And what the dad shared was that when his son left, he told his father that he loved him and appreciated being able to come home and bring his friends. He also said that he hadn't used in six months but was getting drunk every day. And the dad said that he was grateful that his son wasn't drugging. He said that he had learned to lower his expectations to the floor and just be grateful that his son was alive on that day, in spite of active alcoholism. He allowed that without the program, he would have had an entirely different reaction--maybe a bit like what's in the video.
It's good that we can be accepting and just be thankful for the fact that the people we love are alive. We may hate the disease but we still love the individual.