Since coming to Al-Anon, I've learned that it's important to participate. I've gone to meetings where I didn't actually feel like saying anything, yet I most always share something. It may not be brilliant or profound but I seem to feel better if I speak up and share what I'm thinking.
So I think that what I bring to a meeting is just as important, sometimes more so, that what I get out of the meeting. I've heard people comment that they didn't get what they wanted at a particular meeting. That makes me think "What are you bringing to the meeting" or "why don't you come to the meeting and help make it be what you would like it to be?"
Listening is important and is something that I do a lot of at meetings. But sharing on the topic, even when it's hard, is another route to recovery.
I do not know what course of action is right for anyone else. I can offer only comfort and compassion, and the good example of my life I am trying to build. ......One Day At a Time, p. 57