I think that many times I've put too much store in the fantasy of what I think friendship and even love "should" be. I've been around people that I've wanted to impress and have worked hard to do so. And I've been around people who I've never had to say a word to, yet felt so comfortable and warm in their presence, as if we've had the best conversation ever.
Here are some other truisms that I've found about friendship and love:
Sometimes we let someone go whose value we don't know until they're gone.
But we often don't know what we've been missing until it arrives.
It's best not to put much stock in wealth or fame because those are fleeting things. Even looks as the saying goes can deceive. But someone who makes you feel good right down to your toes is someone you want to get to know.
Don't let yourself be held down by what others expect of you or desire you to be. Instead, be what you want to be because you have only one life and one chance to do all the things you want to.
If you see something in another that bothers you, you might own that thing as well. Put yourself in the other's shoes. If you feel that it hurts you, it probably hurts the other person too.
Happy people don't necessarily have the best of everything. But they appear to make the most of everything that comes their way.
It hurts to love someone and not be loved in return, but what is more painful is to love someone and never find the courage to let that person know how you feel.
Love begins with a smile, grows with a kiss, ends with a tear. When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling. Live life so that when you die...you are the one smiling and everyone around you is crying..
kinda makes me think of doing what one should instead of what one wants... some people i like without trying and that's the best kind of love or friendship to have. once i feel the need to impress, change, etc. the balance isn't right and that makes the love or friendship not right either. easy to say, not so easy to do...
ReplyDeleteSo much of what you wrote here really struck me. However, this statement struck me the most; "Don't let yourself be held down by what others expect of you or desire you to be. Instead, be what you want to be because you have only one life and one chance to do all the things you want to."
ReplyDeletei like those.
ReplyDeleteYip.And we figure this out once we start figuring the relationship out with ourselves don't we ?
ReplyDeleteSome people never get that-those are generally the peeps I have nothing in common with.
Great post Syd..as always.
Nice Stuff Syd.
ReplyDeleteexcellent post today Syd.
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