I've been taking phone messages for our Al-Anon district. There's a number that people can call and leave a message. Most people want to know where a meeting is being held. Today, I returned two calls from women who needed to talk.
One was a lady who is in rehab and who wants her son to go to Al-Anon. She talked to me about how she knows her 18 year old son is hurting, angry and in need of sharing those feelings. She wanted to know if her son could call me. I gave her my number and he did call. He was quiet but asked if he could go to a meeting. He didn't have a car so I'm to pick him up this evening and will take him to my home group meeting.
The other call was from a lady who was sobbing about her son who is an alcoholic/addict. She said that he is in rehab and is going to AA meetings. But he has left a lot of wreckage in his wake. She wants her son to be okay and wishes that she could take away his pain. I felt compassion for her and explained that he had a good program that he was working. I did my best to let her know that she isn't responsible for his addiction or his sobriety. I gave her a list of meetings and shared some of my experience with her.
I hope that I got through to her that her life doesn't have to be filled with so much anxiety. It's hard though when people are really hurting. They don't hear the words. They don't believe that there is a solution. I'm glad that there is an opportunity to let people know that there is a life line in the program. They just have to grab onto it.