I've said that there are six phrases that I want to eliminate from my thinking: "What if", "Yes, but" and "I know". When I use these phrases, my ego is usually in charge and I'm either trying to defend myself, prove a point or projecting fear.
I shared a story last night about a person who was undergoing exploratory surgery to determine whether he had cancer. He was concerned about the outcome and said to his friend, "What if I have cancer?" The friend looked him in the eye and said, "You'll deal with it just as you have dealt with all the other tough times in your life."
What I have often failed to realize is that if I don't "borrow trouble", I can deal with whatever comes my way. If I stop the worry, then my thinking clears up and I can see a solution or steps that I need to take more clearly.
If I eliminate the "what if's", then I can trust myself and my HP to do what's best for me.
If I eliminate the "yes but's", then I can listen to what is being said with acceptance for their viewpoint without having to prove my own point.
If I eliminate the "I know's", then I may actually learn something from someone else and find out that I don't have all the answers.