Friday, August 1, 2008

Parents and children

There's been a lot of pain in meetings and in the blogs about having addicted children. At a meeting today, a mother expressed her sorrow and helplessness over having a son who is squandering his life. She said that he came home with clothes all wet and was hallucinating, telling her of the strange things that he was seeing climbing the draperies and floating through the air. She called EMS who came and got him. But there were no beds available at the hospitals so he was released still high and hallucinating.

Her question was what can she do? She wants to help him but feels that she is losing who she is. The group discussed how powerless we are over others. And that losing ourselves in order to try to save someone else who is lost means that two people are then lost.

Perhaps all we can do is love the other person, tell them we love them, and want them to get help. We then take care of ourselves so that we don't lose our health, our spirituality and our minds. If someone is an adult, there isn't much else that can be done. We can offer a lot of prayers for the sick and suffering to seek their HP and have God hold them in his hands. There are a lot of people out there who need those prayers today.

9 comments:

  1. Hi Syd,
    I used to be like that, Id use anything just to get a high and escape, I guess what it all boiled down to was I just didnt accept who I was I was always on the look out for something to change how I felt.
    Hey whats ebonics, is it that robot like movements, some people are real good at it.
    I have just about caught up now from my hols

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  2. Yes, it's an awful place to be. Just awful. If I did not have our beautiful program - I would never survive the addiction of my children. I don't know how "normal" people get through this stuff.

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  3. Syd as always great choice of topic and content.

    Cat

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  4. Well, Syd, as you probably know my son made it to a psych floor and days later they let him out, still sick.

    "Perhaps all we can do is love the other person, tell them we love them, and want them to get help."~~Right on the money here. This is all we could do in the end.

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  5. my prayers are there.. great post

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    Sarah

    http://www.thetreadmillguide.com

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