Monday, February 9, 2009

What have you done?



I've been seeing a lot of billboard ads that say "What have you done for your marriage today?" I wondered about those signs. I found out that they are sponsored by the Catholic diocese.

Every time I see those ads, they make me think. What have I done for my marriage today? And today I can answer that I had many laughs last night in bed while we remembered the neighbors that lived around us when we had our first two homes. As my wife said, "If they are any indication of American society, we're in deep trouble."

We laughed about one instance where it was a Sunday morning, quiet for suburbia. We decided to get up early to work in the flower garden. The peace was broken by a woman yelling, "If I catch you, you bastard, I'm going to hit you with this brick". So much for the quiet Sunday. Then there was the neighbor who got up at 3 AM to deliver newspapers in addition to his regular job so his wife could go buy more Ethan Allen furniture. And the lady on the other side of us who was on a kick of eating cabbage, broccoli, and turnip soup (nothing else) and said that it caused her to "fluff" frequently. That sent both of us into peals of laughter last night.

So this morning, we were still chuckling about our reminiscences. Now we don't have close neighbors. The squirrels, deer, and foxes aren't nearly as humorous as those former neighbors.
But we still find things to smile about. And after a long hug and a kiss, I was out the door heading to work. I think that laughter, hugs, and all those little acts we do to show our affection for each other, help our relationship a lot more than big gifts.

My grandmother told me to never go to bed angry and to say "I love you" before bed time. Good advice I think.

I'm thankful to have someone in my life who has put up with me over the years. And if you wonder what you've done for your marriage today, just do something. It's not too late to give a hug, or share a laugh or say "I love you."

21 comments:

  1. We've had some kooky neighbors too. Like the guy who would scream "no ice cream" at his plants. Or the late middle aged gay guy who would call the agents of bygone movie stars like Esther Williams pretending to be relatives and such to get free tickets or other things.

    I'm sure some of our neighbors thought we were nuts too. At least my husband, anyway ;). One neighbor called the cops on him for using foul language.

    I find our woodland neighbors pretty amusing too.

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  2. Love the story of the fluffing neighbor! lol

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  3. My husband is the funniest person I know and he makes me laugh all the time. We also tell each other I love you all the time. I think laughing with him is one of the best things in my life and always will be. Thanks Syd, great post. jeNN

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  4. RE: your post on my blog... I have seen the castle on Sullivans, but I hadn't seen the Pinckney Castle....


    Very cool!!!

    Thanks for that...

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  5. Syd this made me smile today - thank you!

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  6. One year our mama pig decided to break out of the fence and go rooting in our neighbors newly-landscaped yard. Not even the solar walkway lights were immune from her snout. She became bacon, we repaired the damage and he hasn't spoken to use since (10+ years now). I think that makes us one of the neighbors that gets talked about... :-)

    Namaste

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  7. I came home and fried pork chops for my husband. If you knew my husband, you would know why that was my loving thing to do today.

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  8. As Im not married, I thought about how I have given towards my relationship with my son. Today I picked him up early from school as he was sick, and then pampered him with love, food and medicine. He is always very grateful for this TLC and Im grateful I work at home and am able to give it.

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  9. Wow..........that was Beautiful.... Laughter in a marriage is extra special...

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  10. I always try to remember that my relationship with my husband is a 'covenant' relationship. But the 'covenant' isn't with my husband--it's with my Higher Power. I love my husband through my God.
    Blessings Syd. Thanks for stopping by my site.

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  11. Well..."put up"? Maybe. I believe it's a "give-and-take" thing. At least that's what has evolved here. (I don't mean that old line: "I give, and she takes".)

    Syd, I've got tradition 7 on for Tuesday. OK? It's already up, so if you do not, I'll wait a day...for 8.

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  12. So, you lived next door to a "fluffer" huh.

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  13. you are indeed a ray of light.

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  14. This was sweet Syd. You got me thiking....

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  15. Wonderful sentiments dear friend and so true. It's kind of why Valentine's Day irks me so much. You have people who don't do anything for one another all year long, except for the celebrated day called a holiday. If your being loving and romantic all year, you shouldn't have to worry about a single day. Thanks for sharing this intimate moment with us. (Hugs)Indigo

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